Found a positive pregnancy test in DSDs bedroom. DH will want her out. What the fuck do I do.

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I'm in actual genuine shock.

This isn't one of those "my teenage child is better behaved than your teenage child" because it isnt. She is far from perfect but She knows she can tell me anything and I will 100% support her decision on things.

Anyway- on to the topic.

DSD has been working hard all week and took DD out today as I was feeling unwell. She usually does her own laundry and ironing so I decided to do it for her today. Went to put some t shirts away in her drawers and found a positive pregnancy test. Thinking about it (and I know this sounds odd in a way) but I haven't cleaned out any sanitary products from her bathroom bin in the last 2 or 3 months. I know she has been sleeping with someone and she insisted she was taking precautions but as we all know accidents can happen. I assumed she was on the pill as my periods stopped when I was on it a couple of years ago

I was out when she came back with DD and she is now at work until half 12. I'm going to sit and have a chat with her and I know she is either going to be really upset because she doesn't know what to do or angry because she feels I have invaded her personal space- I genuinely didn't go looking for it. I opened the drawer and saw the end peaking out of a pair of slipper socks and knew straight away what it was.

DH is going to be fuming and will probably want to kick her out (can say this with 90% certainty). I will support her decision 100%.

She is 18 (just)

@TheGrumpySquirrel

Would you advise your own children to be teen mums? I guess yes from what you have written.

No.. it was tough! But doesn't necessarily write you off!

I see. So it's not an end-of-the-world situation, but you'd advise against it.
I also think this is the message OP should be giving to the 18 yr old. You can of course have the baby, but we'd rather you didn't.
18 is very young isn't it....

Any news OP?

I've just caught up op. Well done you for sticking up for your dsd. Both girls are incredibly lucky to have you and your mum x

I think all you can do is inform dsd of the facts. If she feels pressured into a termination that is not good either. I don't regret my DD - of course - but I wish my mum had told me how hard it was going to be.

UPDATE? X

^ How rude

What a bullying, domineering little man your DH is.
Certainly he's showing his true colours and quite frankly is making himself look an incredibly unpleasant individual.
Thank heavens your DSD has you op.

Sorry Another Emma didn't mean to be rude, i read the thread, What a brilliant parent you are. I just want to know whats happend. X

I've never commented before... but this makes me realise how supportive my parents really were when I told them I was pregnant when I was not quite 17 yet.

You have shown you're true colours OP, at a time when you were really needed. You're DSD won't ever forget this and it will mean so much to her. Hopefully with time your husband will appreciate what a beacon of support you are for his daughter and realise you were everything he wasn't in her time of need.

Thank you for being what the majority of us step parents are - supportive, understanding and a brilliant influence on you SD.
Regular, nasty posters on the stepparenting forum, take note.

You have done brilliantly. Congratulations grandma!

I'm sad that there's no update :(

OP, you are a truly good person.

Just wanted to add if something ever happened to me the thought of DS having a step parent like you would give me the most incredible peace of mind. 😇

Read through this thread and the courage and love you have showed your DSD is commendable. I can't believe your H could be so awful to his own daughter but she is lucky to have you. I hope you're all doing well OP x

There is a new thread.

@K1092902 I am glad your dsd is going to keep her baby, I hope all will work out well for her. She is lucky to have you.

@inspiredbutohsotired I am so sorry to read about your parents attitude, it is shocking and appalling. I hope you have a fabulous relationship with your child. "my mum is rude and unhelpful when I've tried to bond with her by asking for advice." How very sad

@TrulyFubar I am so sorry to read your post. I am mum to an adopted child, he was not relinquished but was removed. Some birth parents do post on the adoption boards here. I wonder if you have looked for your son. My friend has just found her birth mum after 40 years (of life not of looking).

@user1471443813 I cannot speak for anyone else's adopted parent but if my son wants to find his birth family I will help him look. Your mum may feel similar. If you choose to look for your birth mum it really doesn't mean anything bad about the lovely care you had from your adoptive parents.

www.afteradoption.org.uk/

These are described as support services for everyone affected by adoption.

To ask if you would be able to forgive my DH?
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/2979134-To-ask-if-you-would-be-able-to-forgive-my-DH

New thread

QuiteLikely5 I did my own laundry as a teenager, it's called teaching your DC life skills.

alicelake Thank you

requestingsunshine that's sick. DS1 is in remission, and I felt sick when I was told he had cancer. Who the fuck would lie about that? 😨

How many people do you want to offend user? The teen mums I speak to on here have become wonderful mothers.

Where Tippexy?