Nothing wrong with your expectations, I guess, but think of it this way. You just came 'from a hostel' and you obviously can't afford to just up and leave, so... aren't you just the same as everyone else in that area? You WANT better, sure, that's one thing, but right now? You're just like them. There could be some other mother huffing and puffing that "EastMidsMum used to live in a shelter."
We all make mistakes. So the first thing is - how did you end up where you are? On paper it would probably look pretty shit, with a few mistakes along the education/career/relationship path, right? So you've made some fuckups and ended up in a shit area with no clear way out.
Just. Like. Everyone. Else. There.
OK, but you're different, you want out. Now - how?
I took stock of my life too, identified the errors, identified a way out. I'm training for a better job (self teaching because I can't afford tuition, due to having no money due to having no job.) I am making, er... changes to the problems in my relationship. I am improving my confidence. Yadda yadda.
Look at where you are. Look at how you got there. Look at how you can get out.
YOU, by the way. Don't be surprised if the husband has no interest in your goals to better yourself. They are surprisingly unsupportive and burdensome that way. This may need to be something you do yourself, alone, for your daughter.