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Friends expecting me to look after kids, 6 week holidays.

999 replies

famtastic · 03/07/2017 08:44

I have just found out from another friend, that a couple I'm friendly with who live round the corner told her that I am having their children for them in the summer holidays. It would be 3/4 days a week 6:30am till 10:30am. So in theory we would still have the day after 10:30 to do what we want.

But I have not actually been asked by them! Or had days times mentioned to me. Literally all that was said to me back in may was "we may need the odd favour in the holidays" and I just said oh ok! They didn't elaborate on the favour and I was in the playground taking my kids to school so a bit distracted and didn't ask.

I was looking forward to the summer holidays with my own 2 children ages 3 and 8, lazy mornings and doing what we want, now I feel sick! There is only 2 weeks left and they still haven't mentioned it to me! And surely they can't get anything else sorted now?! Also my husband works 10/11 hours a day and he leaves at 6:50am he won't want anyone round while he's getting ready for a long day at work! And lastly I don't even know their oldest I've met him once for maximum 1minute, their kids are different ages to my two so I can't see how it's going to work well.

Ahh I don't want to do this but I don't know what to do! Am I being unreasonable??

OP posts:
JannerBird · 03/07/2017 18:08

Well isn't she delightful. Am I the only one wondering what her job is?

TeenagersandFurbabies · 03/07/2017 18:08

My jaw is on the floor with the sheer bloody cheek of the woman. Good on you famtastic for staying so calm and assertive.

BBQsAreSooooOverrated · 03/07/2017 18:09

Can't believe people like this exist! What a cheekShock

ProseccoBitch · 03/07/2017 18:09

Do you know what time she finishes WORK OP?

SquinkiesRule · 03/07/2017 18:12

I'm shocked at the updates.
Theres a reason she can't get a childminder. None of the Childminders or nurseries that do summer clubs around here take kids over 11.
She's bonkers, a nearly 14 yo can look after the 10 year old for her. At 12 I was babysitting newborns for a few hours at a time.

Mittens1969 · 03/07/2017 18:13

This has been so addictive, OP, do let us know if she comes round to sort it. I'm a SAHM as well and her attitude really riles me! Thankfully, no one has tried pulling such a stunt with me.

SparkleMotions · 03/07/2017 18:13

Well done on standing your ground, you are my new hero. This woman has got some bloody cheek talking to you the way she has, calling you selfish for not giving up YOUR free time to look after HER kids - unbelievable!! She is unhinged. Just tell her, you aren't willing to help her out at all after this, just because you're at SAHM your time isnt dedicated to helping her out because she can't be arsed to make proper arrangements for her Children. she has behaved appallingly and is crazy for expecting you to still 'sort your diary' out after her reaction!

LoveCakesandWine · 03/07/2017 18:13

This is my favourite thread for ages OP! I'm in horror for you but I cannot believe the gall of this woman 😯ShockAngryHmm.

I'm so glad I have yet to meet anyone like this in real life.

Please block her number!

Cary2012 · 03/07/2017 18:14

Best thread on here for ages.

OP don't apologise or explain, you have no need to.

Your kids could be going to summer camp or Disney, wherever for the whole of the holidays, and you could nothing to do except lounge around painting your nails, and you could still say no, no, no.

Her lack of childcare is her problem.

If she comes round ask to see the papers. When she frowns and asks, 'What papers?' reply with the papers we obviously signed to adopt your kids. She's bloody daft.

FurbysMakeSexNoises · 03/07/2017 18:15

Getting my popcorn! What a horror of a woman- if she was a man you'd think she was a horrible sexist pig but actually she's just a selfish user who thinks people who don't work are there to do her bidding.

Please don't go gently on her- she has done nothing to deserve your friendship and you will certainly not miss out by ending it.

WhatwouldOliviaPopedo · 03/07/2017 18:16

Hands up who else would love to be a fly on the wall when WORK Mum catches up with her DH?

"So when you spoke to Fam about looking after the kids during the summer hols, you did make it clear that we expected her to do it every day for six weeks didn't you?"
"I definitely mentioned the 17th, so yeah, she of course must've realised I meant the entire holiday. But didn't you confirm it with her afterwards, what with you seeing her all the time (apart from when you're at WORK) and being friends? Why haven't you talked to her about it since?"
"Er…"

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 03/07/2017 18:16

If it wasn't for mumsnet I wouldn't know these type of people existed. Thank you fam and really well done for how you handled it. You are absolutely in the right. Who leaves their kids at an acquaintance house for a week just to save money??? Bizarre

famtastic · 03/07/2017 18:16

I can't believe how big this post got lol. Ok I have an update. Will do a new threat, workzilla lol!

Thank you all xx

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NellieFiveBellies · 03/07/2017 18:17

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justkeepswimmingg · 03/07/2017 18:17

OMG OP! How this thread has taken a turn!!
Just caught up from this afternoon. This woman is bat shit crazy. Also how dare she have any say over the fact that you are a SAHM, it's none of her business and does not entitle her to free childcare!

Please do start a new thread. I really need to know how she reacts when your DH deals with her. My guess is she will 100% still come to your house to 'sort' out the arrangements. Well done you for standing your ground, and not allowing this deranged woman to walk all over you.

BritInUS1 · 03/07/2017 18:17

OMG she is batshit crazy ! How entitled and thinking she can bully you - wow, she is something else ! x

DailyFailAreCunts · 03/07/2017 18:18

I bet the Fail pick this up.

Daily Mails cunts.

WhatwouldOliviaPopedo · 03/07/2017 18:18

Yes, please do start a new thread once this gets to 1,000 posts. Dying to know whether she turns up with her diary once she's finished WORK.

justilou · 03/07/2017 18:19

Omg it's 3.20am in Australia and I can't stop!!!

headinthecloud · 03/07/2017 18:23

Jannerbird I'm also intrigued what her job is too!

Chickydoo · 03/07/2017 18:25

Wow! Can't believe the audacity of some people!

squeaver · 03/07/2017 18:29

NEW THREAD:

NEW THREAD HERE

InvisibleKittenAttack · 03/07/2017 18:29

Must say, this is one of those threads where Mumsnet is lovely - everyone supporting the OP, helping her frame her answers, reinforcing that she's in the right and cheer leading her for standing up to a piss taker.

Well done OP, you've not let us down!

(While for you I hope she's got the message and you don't hear from her again, but from my point of view I kind of hope there's a doorstep show down to keep me entertained later!)

blackteasplease · 03/07/2017 18:30

I've been so invested in this but only just caught up! Well done Op!

Piss off daily fail if you want to make op's life harder by reporting this.

blackteasplease · 03/07/2017 18:30

I've been so invested in this but only just caught up! Well done Op!

Piss off daily fail if you want to make op's life harder by reporting this.