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To feel a bit shit that nobody sponsored me?

349 replies

MyGastIsFlabbered · 24/06/2017 19:35

I signed up to do the 10,000 steps a day thing for Cancer Research. I put my fundraising page on FB, Twitter but not one person has sponsored me. I know money's tight for most of us at the moment, but to not raise even a penny makes me feel shit. AIBU to take it so personally?

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wheredoesallthetimego · 24/06/2017 19:38

10,000 steps is a normal day for most people. I wouldn't sponsor anyone who isn't doing something that requires effort. Sorry, but that may be the reason.

NapQueen · 24/06/2017 19:39

As above. 10k a day steps is what most people do or aim for surely?

Climb Kilimanjaro. I will sponsor you then.

Osolea · 24/06/2017 19:40

It's understandable that you've taken it personally, you've shared something, you know people have seen it and that they've ignored it. But in the other hand, Yabu to take it personally because loads of people are doing the 10000 steps a day thing just for the sake of it for their own benefit. It's not a huge achievement for most people, so it it's unlikely to be something that impresses people into sponsoring when there are so many requests around. Plus lots of people donate to cancer research through people doing race for life which is really popular.

It's not you, it's your chosen thing.

MotherTroubles · 24/06/2017 19:41

Do people still expect sponsorship for stuff? Whenever I or any friends/ family do something they stump up the sponsorship money (especially marathons/ triathlons/ climbing mountains) and then just stuck a link on social media in case anyone feels like adding anything.

RhubardGin · 24/06/2017 19:41

Personally I hate all these sponser me type things.

Plus 10,000 is a normal days walking so not really much of a challenge?

ineedamoreadultieradult · 24/06/2017 19:41

It's hard not to take it personally but honestly people get sponsorship fatigue. You get asked for so much from so many people these days especially if you/your friends have kids. Honestly unless someone asks me in person I don't sponsor anyone.

McButtonwillow · 24/06/2017 19:43

I think tbh these days Facebook seems to be full of people asking for sponsorship for various things.

I can't possibly afford to give to everyone so my general rule is that I'll sponsor really significant efforts and for me 10,000 steps per day just wouldn't warrant that.

Sorry Flowers

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 24/06/2017 19:43

Yeah I agree that it's not really an achievment, sorry.
I only ask for cash for actual events, this years bring Tough Mudder-12 mile run with 20+ hard obstacles, I'd be utterly fucked off if I didn't get sponsors for that...

RainbowsAndUnicorn · 24/06/2017 19:43

10,000 steps a day is a very common goal on fitbits so it's not something I'd sponsor as it's just a daily event to many. 25,000 a day maybe.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 24/06/2017 19:43

Yes, YAB a bit U.

Most people walk around 10,000 steps a day.

Sit in a bath of beans or walk a mile with custard in your wellies or something.

AmayaBuzzbee · 24/06/2017 19:44

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I'm guessing who sponsors depends on their own activity levels.

For some 10k steps is a big challenge, whereas many manage this without any additional effort whatsoever. If you are a nurse or a waitress, or just an active person, 10k steps a day happens just as a course of your standard day. It wouldn't seem like "a challenge" for these people. Sponsoring somebody to do whatever you do daily anyway would feel a bit weird.

roselondoner · 24/06/2017 19:45

I ran the marathon and at first no one sponsored me. Try not to take it personally, I know it's impossible but there's so many people doing these kinds of things these days that the posts have to REALLY capture people, so I wrote an article and published it and shared that. Is this something you could do? Sorry though I know it's a shit feeling. X

TheWitTank · 24/06/2017 19:45

I don't sponsor anyone OP but it's not personal -I get on average two asks a week (!) and I find it easier to say no to everyone and not offend by picking and choosing and give money to the charities I have chosen myself to support on a regular basis. Even when my kids bring home sponsored run/ride/whatever forms I just give a donation from myself, I don't ask anyone else. I think most people find it irritating (sorry, I genuinely don't mean to hurt any feelings and think it's great to fundraise but just echoing comments I have heard from others)

expatinscotland · 24/06/2017 19:45

Why not just hand them some of your own money rather than expecting others to give theirs.

tickwhitetick · 24/06/2017 19:45

Yes yabu. I did 28000 steps yesterday

hazeydays14 · 24/06/2017 19:45

Try not to take it personally. I did a walk in Feb for a charity that was very close to my family's heart after my grandad passed at Christmas time. I asked my friends to sponsor me and they all said yeah yeah we will and didn't. I think with all that people post on Facebook it just gets lost amongst it all. Doesn't mean you're being unreasonable to feel disheartened though.

TheoriginalLEM · 24/06/2017 19:49

Every time I turn on my facebook page someone is requesting sponsorship for something or other. Giving up chocolate, walking to the corner shop, dry January, frilly February etc, I think people are just tired of it.

I did the race for life last year with work colleagues and we struggled tbh. I think all the "just giving" pages are likely to implode on themselves - is great that monies are being raised for good causes but its all a bit too much.

Well done for doing your bit

Starlight2345 · 24/06/2017 19:50

I did the great north swim a couple of weeks ago..The reason I didn't do it sponsored is so many people asking for sponsor money...My DS did sponsored event at school without any real family it is tough I Agree with what others have said unlikely to sponsor anyone these days I have enough having to sponsor my own child.

LiveLongAndProspero · 24/06/2017 19:50

Sorry but nobody is going to sponsor you for just walking about a bit more as you go about your day. Really can't imagine why you imagine they would.
I only sponsored one friend a tenner when she did a marathon.

60sname · 24/06/2017 19:50

I have decided - apart from in exceptional circumstances - not to sponsor anyone for anything that I wouldn't consider a reasonable effort (unfit 30-something). So nothing that involves just walking, or 5K runs.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 24/06/2017 19:51

Ooo, what's Frilly February?

Not heard of that.

1ofthesedays · 24/06/2017 19:52

You meant well, but so many people are trying to raise money, it's impossible to keep up.
I have done quite a few things myself - not bragging, just stating a fact. All the registration fees and costs come from my pocket, then I make a donation then and only then do I ask for money. Friends family and colleagues do seem to give when you really push yourself and walk run at least a semi-marathon.

I have so many fit friends, I don't sponsor anyone doing dry-month or grow a moustache-month, or even a 5k (unless it's my grand-mother)

As above, it's not you, but too many fundraising around, all for valuable causes.

MuncheysMummy · 24/06/2017 19:52

My DH is a big social drinker and the year my lovely mum was diagnosed with breast cancer and my friend with terminal bowel/stomach cancer he did dry January and not one person gave him a penny besides me! You'd have though a few close family and friends would've given a quid...nope not even his mum or sister Shock

SanFranBear · 24/06/2017 19:53

YANBU - I made a pact a couple of years ago that if something was important enough for one of my friends to raise money for it, I would support them.

I only ever give £5 as I am not flush and I probably only get about 2 or 3 requests a month. But it's important to me.

I've supported 2 friends doing the 10,000 step challenge - for one it's probably not that hard as she's already fairly active but for the other, it is a huge deal. Both have their personal reasons for raising the money though so I wanted to help.

As PP's have said, perhaps make a small donation in your name in place of the sponsorship?

AnneEyhtMeyer · 24/06/2017 19:54

I only sponsor things that take a great deal of effort, are not something the person wants to do anyway, where costs for the event are not taken out of sponsorship monies, and where the cause is something that I personally believe is worthwhile.

Therefore, anyone raising money for national charities is usually an automatic "No" (too much of their fundraising is spent on themselves, rather than their cause), climbing Kilimanjaro etc is a "No" (pay for your own holiday and / or experience) and doing something like walking 10000 steps a day / something considered totally average is a "No".

Fundraise for a local charity by doing something difficult / unusual / not "look at me" and I will sponsor.

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