AIBU or is girlfriend's small a

[Sillyjelly]

My girlfriend does a strange thing that is starting to bother me, in part cos it makes no sense and it can ruin a good atmosphere.

An example would be I can ask for something simple, like "please will you pass me the mustard" and she'll just say "no".... That's it.

Im always a bit surprised and think shes joking, but once she has said no thats it, I have to get up and walk round her chair to get the mustard, or whatever it is.

This is not when she's busy, or annoyed, we'll be having a perfectly normal time and then she does it. It's quite embarrassing when she does it in front of other people too. It makes us look nuts and they are embarrassed.

It's weird right? It's starting to piss me off and I wish she wouldn't do it.

Huh?

That rude as fuck. Why would she do that?

Does she ever ask you to pass her things?

Is she English? Do you think she understands what you are asking?

What does she say when you ask her why?

YANBU. Now, what was the thread title actually meant to say? I'm intrigued.

I'd dump someone for that

You have to ask her. Maybe it's some daft family thing like if she didn't say exactly the "right" words, her parents would do this to train her to speak "correctly"?

Do you ask her why she won't do something?

How strange! Have you ever asked her about it?

Sorry - title was supposed to say "AIBU or is girlfriend's small action annoying"

If I ask why she she won't do the thing she says "I'm just not"...If I press it further it gets more awkward so I just get or do whatever it is myself to avoid a bizarre stand-off.
I realise it is small thing, and really not something I want to row about! I don't know how to tackle it. Does anybody else know someone who does this? Or why they might? What does it achieve? I can't understand it.

She is English and it's not a manners thing, I know her family well and they act normally!

If she can't do something that small for you then she has no respect or love for you.

LTB!

Have you tried saying "pass me the mustard please"?

How bizarre.

Is she 12?

How rude. No one should put up with that.

It's really not a small thing at all.

It's bizarre and makes her sound quite nasty.

What's she like in other areas of your relationship?

Hmm. DH annoys me by asking me to pass things that are no more within my reach than his. He does it a lot. Could that be it?

I'd dump her for being annoyingly rude. No excuse.

My dh will be doing something using a utensil. If I'm in the room he'll expect to give me the utensil to put on the side, rather than just putting it on the side himself. It drives me nuts as I'm already doing something. If I tell him to put it down himself he reacts like I took a shit in his slippers.

I wouldn't bother continuing a relationship with her. She sounds rude, disrespectful and annoying.

That is deeply weird. It's like she hasn't been, I don't know, socialised properly or something, if that isn't too mean a way to put it.

It's hugely bloody rude, anyway, and I would not be in a relationship with somebody so dismissive of me.

Is it supposed to be witty, like those people who, when you ask them 'Could you tell me the time?' say 'Yes' and walk off, because that's so Wildean in its edgy hilarity?

LTB

Very bizarre!

I think the old MN "Did you mean to be so rude?" would be appropriate here!

She sounds very rude, I wod not like that at all.

Is the mustard within her reach without having to get up?