AIBU or is girlfriend's small a

[Sillyjelly]

My girlfriend does a strange thing that is starting to bother me, in part cos it makes no sense and it can ruin a good atmosphere.

An example would be I can ask for something simple, like "please will you pass me the mustard" and she'll just say "no".... That's it.

Im always a bit surprised and think shes joking, but once she has said no thats it, I have to get up and walk round her chair to get the mustard, or whatever it is.

This is not when she's busy, or annoyed, we'll be having a perfectly normal time and then she does it. It's quite embarrassing when she does it in front of other people too. It makes us look nuts and they are embarrassed.

It's weird right? It's starting to piss me off and I wish she wouldn't do it.

This kind of pathetic nonsense is only going to get worse. Get rid and find someone who isn't so ridiculous and infantile.

Op, you are walking on eggshells and second guessing yourself all the time.
That's no relationship. You can't ever challenge her on anything because she will blame it on you for ruining the day. You have to be the one to back down "to salvage the day".

She didn't do it for a year so she knows it's not normal behaviour. She does it simply because she wants to and she can.

You have become stronger now you are off the meds. You feel fine. You are challenging the status quo. Thats not going to plan for her is it?That's why she needs you back as you were. Why she's trying to undermine your mental health, so that you know your place and desist challenging her.

Op if you ignore all these red flags flying in the wind you will be in lucilles positiom in a few years It's shit, but I'm well aware of his short comings. I'm in very deep, it would be difficult to get out.

Get out now you are not in quite so deep. Don't be that frog.

She's a nice and normal person generally, it's just the weird behaviours and the moods/sulking that are a problem.

But quite a large and growing problem, no? You're starting to second guess yourself and make excuses for things that aren't your fault. That's no way to live.

Also, the whole person is the deal. Good bits and bad bits (as you know). Doing good things doesn't excuse doing bad things.

So when she drives you around, is that because you asked her?or is it only of she offers? sounds like a control thing if so. OP if she has a problem being asked dot do something and acknowledges it and asks you to understand/help her then it's different but at the moment she is just dismissing your feelings which isn't kind, loving or normal.

Abusive people are not abusive all the time otherwise no one would end up in a relationship with them.