AIBU?
To not have done DD's hair for her exam?
Stellaaa2017 · 14/06/2017 12:00
DD is 18 and had an A-Level exam this morning. I did her hair in a high poneytail all the way until the end of year 11. She was self-conscious and wanted it like her friends but could never do it as well as I did, so I had no problem doing it. However, I did say for further education she can do it and she managed to get it in a similar style for the start of sixth form.
This morning it wasn't going well and I admit it definitely wasn't. However, she did get it up many times with it looking ok but claimed there was just too many bumps, so kept taking it out. I admit it didn't look as good as normal but we all have bad hair days!!
She wanted me to do it. WIU not to? It's not like she didn't get her hair up or anything like that. What will she do at uni?
lougle · 14/06/2017 12:04
It takes 2 minutes and she had an exam to go to. It wasn't really about the high pony tail, was it? She was stressed. Would it have hurt to do something to help her relieve her stress?
My DH does all sorts of things that I can strictly do for myself, as I do for him.
NellieFiveBellies · 14/06/2017 12:06
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FleetwoodMacDonalds · 14/06/2017 12:07
I think you are being a bit unreasonable. The last thing needed on an exam day is unnecessary added stress, even if it only involves her hair.
There is a (minor problem), an easy solution (you helping her). Why say no?
If it was an everyday or frequent occurrence I'd agree with you, but give the girl a break on her stressful day!
NavyandWhite · 14/06/2017 12:10
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notanevilstepmother · 14/06/2017 12:11
I think she wanted her mum to do her hair because she was worried about her exam. I can understand you don't want to be doing her hair everyday now she is older, but maybe make an exception for this kind of thing?
You will miss her when she moves out, make the most of her time with you.
rightsofwomen · 14/06/2017 12:13
I've done all sorts of things for my A-level son over the past few weeks that I wouldn't normally. I can't help him get the stuff in his brain, but I can show him I'm trying to make things a bit easier for him
e.g. put the bottom sheet on his high sleeper, get him breakfast of his choice on exam days.
He can do both of these things quite well for himself and we both know that, but this is a difficult time.
So, yes I think you were being a bit mean.
PersianCatLady · 14/06/2017 12:14
She wanted me to do it. WIU not to?
Any other day I would have said that you shouldn't have done it for her but on a day when she has an important exam, I would have done anything to make sure my child left the house in the best possible frame of mind to sit an exam.
So basically YABU, sorry.
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