Who is BU? DD slept on the floor all holiday.

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We have just come back from a holiday to New York. It was amazing and I'm so pleased we went. We are not the richest family by any means, I have been saving for this for years. We booked a hotel room that has 2 double beds. I really couldn't afford another room. It was me, DH and 2 DDs. They are 18 and 20. 1 is at sixth form (yes, I know it's exam period but it was half term and she was more than happy to go, she is also set to do well, didn't want anyone moaning at me about that!) the other is at uni. I paid for both of them for everything. I didn't really expect not to.

DD1 was apparently very difficult to sleep with - constantly stealing all the cover (so she got another cover from reception after the first night) and then she kept sleeping very closely to her, etc. etc. so DD2 ended up moving on to the floor. DD2's argument was that DD1 should have gone on the floor as she was the one being difficult, DD1 says no as DD2 was the one having a problem with it.

DD2 says it would have been nice to have booked a 2nd room and that when she was 16, I wouldn't have let DD sleep on the floor (when DD1 was 18). I say that they're both adults and quite lucky to get a full holiday paid! DD2 says that DD1 got holidays paid for at her age. She just comes across very ungrateful! Who is in the right!?

I think it depends on whether you discussed bed sharing in advance I think I would have expected my own bed if going on holiday unless I was told otherwise before the holiday was booked.

Spoilt litrle madams that want their heads knocked together

I don't think they are "spolit little madams" just because they wanted a good nights sleep! Considering they are adults it was a bit "spolit" to suggest that OP should pay for two rooms in future though.

Such problems.

I would suggest that instead of the OP paying for two rooms in the future she just does not take her adult children on holiday with her and the DH ever again.
Sometimes mums try to be kind and take adult children on holidays or other outings and the young adults just cant see the kindness being offered. I would not set myself up for any more moaning from the adult children.
I do think the DD1 should have been told to take a turn of the floor though. It was not fair that DD2 was always on the floor.
You were not at all unreasonable to provide a fantastic holiday for the adult children. As a result of their conduct please do not be so kind in the future. Let them pay their own holidays in future

We went to new york last Christmas with my ds 17 and dd 14. We booked a family room and had 2 tiny double queen beds (way smaller than our doubles) - I shared with dd and dh made bed on the floor. We asked for a fold out bed and hotel said no as it was a fire risk - plenty of room to put one without blocking the door. I was surprised they sell 'family' rooms this size when they know the ages of the children. Would be fine for younger families but definitely not teens. So I do sympathise with your dd not wanting to share - but teens and argumentative holidays are a given - at least dd 20 is coming out the other end of it!! New York is fab though- would definitely go back - maybe with a roll up mattress next time 😊

Don't know why my emoji is blushing- just wanted a smile :)

OP the absolute bottom line is both of your daughters were so incredibly lucky to have an all expenses paid trip to a very far away and expensive city. Both are adults and both probably see they are in the right - it's really difficult to tell who is right or wrong but they both need to pack it in and not ruin the good memories of the trip by squabbling about sleeping arrangements and lets face it at 18 and 20 you can survive on very little sleep. Your a good Mum OP it was really nice to treat them to such a big trip. Hope you had a good time other than that.

Couldn't you have moved the mattress to the floor for one and one of them could have slept on the base with extra pillows under them? Hotels can always provide extra pillows...

Can't believe this thread is still going on!

NY hotel rooms are often very small and a room with two double beds will normall not have space for an extra bed or even a sofa.

The actual beds although classed as doubles are usually not very big. Not sure what the equivalent size would be in UK but I know I struggle to sleep with DH in one as we are used to a king size. I've shared a similar room with my two sisters in NY and we took turns in having a bed too ourselves but swore if we were going again we would book a different configuration. As it happens we are going to Boston later this year and I've booked a separate room.

Some people just don't share beds well. Even married couples sometimes struggle to share a bed.

I think saying the girls were spoilt or one was favoured etc is a bit unfair. We are all different and some people are very restless sleepers. Some people just can't share a bed.

And for those suggesting putting the mattress on the floor - there just wouldn't have been room. We struggled with having space for our suitcases! Let alone a mattress on the floor. There is often just enough room to walk around the beds.

Putting the mattress on the floor would be silly.
If anyone was going to sleep on pillows, they would much more easily be put on the floor.
Too much work for the same result.

I'm astonished at all the people who seem to think that moving around in your sleep and taking covers is an active choice. It's certainly annoying - my husband has form for this - but if it's being done while the person is asleep then it's not a conscious choice!

Leave em to it. Ignore their moans of unfairness andtell em to speak to each other not you.

its lovely you paid for the holiday of a lifetime with inheritance

but seems unfair you chose the week before exams,course youngest isnt going to say no and stay at home when 3/4 of her family are other side of world having fun

and i would have made eldest swap bed/floor every other night to be fair

OP- Apologies if I have missed this but did you choose the week before exams? Wouldn't it have been cheaper to go when they are finished (end of June) rather than during UK school holidays when flights are probably more expensive.