Who is BU? DD slept on the floor all holiday.

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We have just come back from a holiday to New York. It was amazing and I'm so pleased we went. We are not the richest family by any means, I have been saving for this for years. We booked a hotel room that has 2 double beds. I really couldn't afford another room. It was me, DH and 2 DDs. They are 18 and 20. 1 is at sixth form (yes, I know it's exam period but it was half term and she was more than happy to go, she is also set to do well, didn't want anyone moaning at me about that!) the other is at uni. I paid for both of them for everything. I didn't really expect not to.

DD1 was apparently very difficult to sleep with - constantly stealing all the cover (so she got another cover from reception after the first night) and then she kept sleeping very closely to her, etc. etc. so DD2 ended up moving on to the floor. DD2's argument was that DD1 should have gone on the floor as she was the one being difficult, DD1 says no as DD2 was the one having a problem with it.

DD2 says it would have been nice to have booked a 2nd room and that when she was 16, I wouldn't have let DD sleep on the floor (when DD1 was 18). I say that they're both adults and quite lucky to get a full holiday paid! DD2 says that DD1 got holidays paid for at her age. She just comes across very ungrateful! Who is in the right!?

You are NOT being unreasonable.

They are legally adults. They should have been able to work this one out between themselves. If they didn't think to ask at reception for a camp bed or any other provisions that's on them.

Although, you could have had a word with the bed-hogging DD and asked her to take turns sleeping on the floor. She sounds quite selfish.

Next time (if you can be bothered to take them again after the arguing and fuss) you could always tell them that you're prepared to pay X amount, which translates in to one room at X hotel. So they are welcome to stay somewhere cheaper using that budget (if that works for you) or pay the extra for a room upgrade.

Air bed from the hotel? or buy one (cheap as chips) and just gift to the hotel. No way my DCs would have slept in same room as their parents partly because of snoring, but well done you for all surviving - did the OPs DDs not enjoy it one little bit? Would Air BNB not be any cheaper?

1. How the hell did young people get so spoilt? We all slept on floors, on the ground in tents, why are they all so weedy?
2. Same rhetorical rant wrt being entitled.
3. They should definitely have taken turns on the floor. I would be very very unimpressed with DD1 over this.
4. I would give them both extremely short shift for ANY more comments of complaint about this. They should be revelling in glee and good fortune that they had such a trip!

Do they not do twin beds in America?

Spoilt behaviour! Next time leave them behind and enjoy yourself with DH.

Why didnt one sleep on top of the bed no touching blah blah they are not toddlers they decided not to sort it out like reasonable people and then had the cheek to blame you pffft im sorry they have put the guilt on you that was really ungrateful and immature of them.

YADNBU, but out of interest, why didn't your DH sleep in the same bed as one child and you with the other? I'd LOVE a chance to cuddle DD all night again, but she won't have it now she's big and grown up!
And it's not as if you'd be having sex with your DC in the same room.

But I agree with PPs, the holiday's done now, and tarnishing the memory by moaning about it doesn't benefit anyone. I feel sad on your behalf.

Didn't all the fuss keep you and DH awake?
I wouldn't fancy having 4 adults in the same room, but I think it is fine for sisters to share a bed. I've shared with my sister many, many times (once with her toddler in with us - don't fancy repeating that one!)

I could NOT sleep in the same bed as my dad as an adult. I would feel so uncomfortable.

If asked the hotel might have provided some kind of a camp bed or single mattress.
They are a bit nesh, aren't they?! People twice their ages are still prepared to sleep on floors after parties!

My dds shared a bed in florida there was a pull down bed in the living room but they both fought over the bed for a fucking fortnight utter brats they were

Neither would be coming on vacation wirh me again.

why didn't your DH sleep in the same bed as one child and you with the other?

No WAY would I sleep in a bed with my dad as an adult! How weird!

They are both adults. Tell them next time to either make sure they get two singles as opposed to a double when the booking is made.

They should have been swapping each night and DD1 has a very poor attitude.

🤔 I can't get over taking DC out of school right before their exams.

DD1 sounds like a bully.

Sharing a bed shouldn't be so difficult. DD1 should have stuck to her own side!

I think she's upset that you didn't seem to care how selfish her sister was being. That's hurtful.

It's not nice to feel you have no option except sleeping on the floor while everyone else gets a bed.

@VoteMe sorry but did you read the OP? It was half term. She's also at sixth form (college) and not school. She had a choice to come away during half term.

Yep I read the OP and I know it's half term. I'm still suprised.

@VoteMe ? You did say taking out of school... why are you surprised? She's 18 and it was her decision.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say this was pretty unfair on DD2. Firstly you booked it JUST before her a-levels. Yes she had a choice whether to come, but how awful would it have been for her to stay home alone while the rest of the family have an amazing trip to New York? Doesn't sound like you do this often so she may never have had another chance.

Secondly, I really hate the tendency on this site to assume the millisecond a child turns 18 they are a fully functional adult who can just immediately begin to act as such. DD2 is still in full time education. She would have no way of funding her own holiday.

So she's come away with you all, and you're all in one room. DD1 is keeping her awake. She sleeps on the floor for the entire week. No one enjoys this; if she was getting more sleep on the floor then DD1 must have been a right royal Pita to share with. It's miserable getting no sleep; there's a reason it's used as torture. As their DM I would have stepped in here; either bought an air bed or made DD1 take turns.

YABU here OP. You're the parent, regardless of the fact they're both adults.

You allowed DD1 to get her own way, when you should have made her take turns sleeping on the floor (especially since it was her causing the problem).

Going on this post alone, if I was DD2, I'd think you've favoured DD1 massively.

Honestly, yes, I think it's a little bit unreasonable to expect two young women to share a room with their parents let alone share a bed as well

What is wrong with sharing a hotel room with your parents on holiday?

I'm away with my mum at the moment. Sharing a twin room.

I go away with my dad as well for weekends away and we share a twin room. Quite capable of getting changed into PJs in the bathroom.

What others have said. They're adults and should be able to sort it out themselves!!
It would have been nice to have taken it in turns, but as that didn't happen, the one on the floor should be the one who has the problem with the "sleeping too close together."
Oh, and for what it's worth, I wouldn't give a flying fk whether I was sleeping in the bed, sofa, or on the floor if somebody would take me on a holiday to New York!