Is DD or DH being unreasonable? (Snoring in the living room!)

[BearWindow]

DH snores.

DD is home from uni and was watching TV in the living room. DH always comes home from work and takes a nap on the sofa. He was snoring. DD wasn't happy at all and having a moan. DH doesn't like napping in our room.

Who is being unreasonable?

@drinkingtea

Bear that's way above average though, it must have been a choice to go for that accommodation at twice the London student average rent.

Honestly, not really? Her last years was the same and a completely different one.

Well she's clearly chosen the most expensive one on the list. If she's paying it herself fair enough. If you're bank rolling more fool you unless you cab easily afford it. If you can easily afford it, hire a gardener then poor DH can come home, have a wash and relax

Even in the halls you screen shot, the prices start at £9.5k, 14k is top end unless she had her own studio flat. Perhaps it's DD who left it too late or didn't shop around, but if the NUS says 6k average rent for a student sharing in London I'm sure there is no need to pay 14k!

Could there be a lack of respect and consideration on both sides, here, OP? It sounds to me that you are only really siding with your dh because you resent your dd's attitude - that she thinks she can sit around watching TV all day without helping in the house and then have the cheek to be rude to someone who is exhausted from work. If that's the case, I really don't think telling your dd this isn't her home any more is a particularly helpful response!! More like you will sympathise more with her over your dh's lack of respect for others if she develops a bit more respect for the position of others, herself.

Well she's clearly chosen the most expensive one on the list.

No, she hasn't, prices go up to over £18K a year.

It looks as if she has an ensuite bedroom with a shared kitchen. That's not a home.

It does sound like it roundabout - resentment on all sides perhaps.

It sound a bit as though DD is a problem her parents throw money at and expect her to keep out of their hair in return, and DD has grown up like many materially indulged but emotionally slightly in the way kids as a bit of an entitled madam...

My mistake Ceto I thought OP said 18. And even the 18 one wouldn't be a home - home is surely where she comes home to until she moves to permanent accommodation.

However OP seems peeved that she's still paying for it til August so my suggestion is pay less or get a gardener