Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 19 20

Original poster

Men in changing rooms

495 replies

TheWernethWife · 04/06/2017 11:24

Went shopping yesterday, popped into a well known women's shop and there was a man in the changing room. When I asked why he was there the assistant looked at me like I had three heads and said he was probably helping his wife and most people wouldn't be bothered. Well I was bloody bothered.

OP posts:

BzyB · 04/06/2017 11:28

Was it an open changing room? If behind doors I don't see the issue.

noeffingidea · 04/06/2017 11:38

OP vote with your feet (and wallet) if it bothers you. I wouldn't use a changing room if it had a man in it, unless it had proper locking cubicles.
Having said that, I do use a unisex 'changing village' when I go swimming. I would be happier if the walls of the cubicles went from the floor to the ceiling, but they don't , so I just get changed/showered as quickly as possible.

WeAllHaveWings · 04/06/2017 11:54

If individual cubicles then don't see the problem?

Cocolepew · 04/06/2017 11:56

I'd be bothered too, why couldn't he wait outside and his wife walk out to him?
There's no reason for a man to be in the womans changing rooms, cubicles or not.

Original poster

TheWernethWife · 04/06/2017 11:58

Curtains not doors. Still think it was odd having a man there, he was wandering in and out, chatting to his wife and the assistant,

OP posts:

CrispyBathTowel · 04/06/2017 12:00

I'd be a bit bothered too especially if it was a cubicle with a curtain closure as I can never seem to get them to close properly without a bit of a gap. Agree that the woman should've come out to him if she needed his approval/opinion/permission before deciding if she liked something on her or not (which is a whole other AIBU in itself)

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/06/2017 12:01

I'd be bothered by that too!

Chottie · 04/06/2017 12:02

I don't get it either.

I would hate to find a spare man just hanging around too. What shop was this? I've heard assistants very firmly asking men to wait outside in M&S, JL etc.

PenguinOfDoom · 04/06/2017 12:03

I once asked DH to come into a changing room where I was the only person in there and he got kicked out by the assistant. Definitely wouldn't have asked him if there had been other people in there.

SauvignonBlanche · 04/06/2017 12:05

I was a bit disconcerted by this when shopping with teenage DD recently there were a couple of random blokes in there.

Yes. there were curtains across the cubicles but they never close properly.

I stood in front of DD's cubicle as whilst she didn't say anything she looked a bit uncomfortable.

SauvignonBlanche · 04/06/2017 12:08

This happened in New Look.

I quite rightly wasn't allowed to take DS a different size of trousers in M&S las week, despite their cubicles having doors but an assistant kindly acted as a go between.

Thephoneywar · 04/06/2017 12:12

Get a grip. He was there helping his wife. Their was an assistant there. Grow up.

SuperFlyHigh · 04/06/2017 12:13

Make a stand! A man and not even a teenage boy should be allowed to loiter around and can stand and wait at the cash desk area.

I personally wouldn't give a shit if a man or teenage boy saw me, but I would make a stand if others were bothered.

ForalltheSaints · 04/06/2017 12:15

Checking they are with someone is reasonable, and if they are it seems OK to me. Not that I ever go clothes shopping with anyone else.

CrispyBathTowel · 04/06/2017 12:15

Get a grip. He was there helping his wife. Their was an assistant there. Grow up.

Helping his wife with what exactly?? I think it's the wife (and husband) who need to get a grip in this situation.

glenthebattleostrich · 04/06/2017 12:16

No the OP should not grow up or not be bothered.

It is a woman's space therefore a man should not be in it.

Cocolepew · 04/06/2017 12:16

What assistance was he giving his wife? .
I took DD2 shopping for clothes yesterday, she never would have gone into the changing room if there was some random bloke standing there.

Ipigglemustdie · 04/06/2017 12:17

I thought most changing rooms are one sex. Just with curtains on the cubicles. Did he look like a potential sex offender?

Ameliablue · 04/06/2017 12:18

Assuming it is ladies change and not a communal change he shouldn't have been there. Curtains normally leave gaps and you might need to open them to ask for a different size.

AdalindSchade · 04/06/2017 12:20

Maybe he identified as a woman? I hope you're not being a transphobic bigot and assuming someone who looks like a man can't be a woman!

Aridane · 04/06/2017 12:20

^Get a grip. He was there helping his wife. Their was an assistant there. Grow up.*

Couldn't agree less

Spikeyball · 04/06/2017 12:20

Perhaps his wife needed help. Some people do.

scottishdiem · 04/06/2017 12:21

Do we know if the wife is disabled? How do women who are disabled go shopping with their partners if their partners are not allowed to help?

I think there is a huge difference between a man just standing there having a good look at the gaps in the curtains and a man helping out his partner, fetching things, bringing new things to try on and chatting to staff.

HildaOg · 04/06/2017 12:22

What a disrespectful arsehole. I would have made a complaint to the manager and their head office. And bought nothing.

Stressedoutmumofone · 04/06/2017 12:24

But if he said he identified as a woman he would be allowed in would he not?? So what would happen in that situation?? (Just wondered )

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 19 20

Swipe left for the next trending thread