Should I tell him to go fuck himself?

[DarrellRivers70]

Can't sleep, totally pissed off
Relatively new relationship, he's been away working, usually see each other on a Monday
We were messaging yesterday morning and I asked would we see each today
He said "yes we'll arrange it later have to go"
Still waiting to hear from him, it's pissed of right off, it's my day off tomorrow and could have made other plans
So aibu for feeling like this ? I have form for
Over thinking things but I would expect to confirm plans
I'll probably get a message in the morning but didn't want to chase him

So he's a Dom, who doesn't actually shag (you).

He treats you with scant regard in every day life

It's actually quite tricky to find a proper Dom/sub arrangement, yet he's not valuing you at all.

He's more DUD than DOM.

WHAT EXACTLY are you actually enjoying in this non relationship? What is the fun?

I'm out OP!
He's clearly a dick, not one person on here has given any indication this might be worth pursuing.
You're not taking the advice and continuing to contact him.
He's still being a dick.
It will never get better.

User, that's ridiculous, I accidently sent the thumbs up,I didn't accidently log on to messenger and nowhere have I said that, and I didn't accidently message him, I did it stupidly but no purpose
You're just making stuff up

I'm also not continuing to contact him, I didn't reply to this mornings message

Also, why would I make this up, in? In the grand scheme of problems on here this is fairly insignificant
I posted for advice as I'm aware that I can over react and over think things so I wanted some constructive advice, which I have mostly got and am very grateful for

Block him.

Have you actually blocked him OP? Because if not YOU ARE ignoring everything thats been said.

Theres no need for you to have contact with him or for him to have contact with you. If you keep that open,you've lost all of my remaining sympathy, and likely many others

op doesnt have to follow advice here. she doesnt have to block him. she likes him, it might be part of his elaborate game, his version of their sexless fetish.

There is no game, it's a Dom/sub thing , but I'm only sexually submissive
I'm in no way a pushover in day to day life, this is my first experience with this type of thing and will probably be my last, I can't arsed with the game playing
I wanted a nice relationship with someone who is dominant sexually
Ironically I have neither

Hi OP, a sub / Dom or top/bottom relationship will only work if you have very clear boundaries and are confident in asserting them. It will only work if you are with a top who actively respects those boundaries.

Unfortunately a lot of men on the scene exploit and take advantage of women who are inexperienced as bottoms - they use the excuse of being a top for being an asshole.

If it is just in the bedroom you are looking to explore being a sub I would recommend giving the specialist websites a miss and just meeting someone you like and spark with. Once you have that connection it is so much easier to explore specific roles in the bedroom.

Good luck! PS was the website FL by any chance?

Yes that was the site ruby

Ah - I've never met anyone decent on there. I think a lot of blokes use it just as wank fodder or for flirtations online.
Anyway sounds like you had a lucky escape with this particular one.

Seems a little suspicious as in very?

He's not a dom! He's a twat who doesn't give a shit about your feelings!!!

To be a dom is a huge responsibility! It's an act of complete love and trust.

You here are just signing up to be taken the piss out of

You don't have to go to a specialist site for that! Normal online dating is quite adequate!

My suggestion to you is not to date at all, take a break and reset your boundaries

You are in a unique position in that you are still young enough to meet someone new and you can have a good hard think about what you really want to do career wise! You sound lovely! You need to believe that too. Don't let this destroy your self confidence. Maybe you could write a book on when 50 shades of grey rain down and you have no umbrella!!