Should I tell him to go fuck himself?

[DarrellRivers70]

Can't sleep, totally pissed off
Relatively new relationship, he's been away working, usually see each other on a Monday
We were messaging yesterday morning and I asked would we see each today
He said "yes we'll arrange it later have to go"
Still waiting to hear from him, it's pissed of right off, it's my day off tomorrow and could have made other plans
So aibu for feeling like this ? I have form for
Over thinking things but I would expect to confirm plans
I'll probably get a message in the morning but didn't want to chase him

Sorry OP cross post - hope you're ok

I'm sorry it's come to this. Any break up hurts even with an idiot. Have a good cry, have you support in rl?
Be strong and don't allow him to worm back in.
Sounds like you've a lot of change about to happen. Use it as a fresh start and utilise any support from your company if they offer it to help your next job move.

Op, I'm sorry, but he's right, dry your eyes, he's a twat. It was never going to improve, it would only get worse. You're better off out of it. So dry your eyes snd have something to make you feel better, a glass of wine, a tub of Ben and jerrys and shrug him off.

You had a lucky escape. He sounds like a nob.

Sorry you are upset Op BUT you are definitely well rid. He wasn't into you and you deserve someone who is. Onward and upward and be kind to yourself!

He was talking sweet to keep you on side.
I know you are hurting Lovely, but believe me, you have lost nothing.
He was just one of life's losers, holding you back. He has just shown his true colours, and they weren't pretty.
There are bigger and better things out there waiting for you.
Don't speak to him again, nothing good will come of it. 💐🍷

Sorry OP, you will be ok, I know it hurts but in a few days you will realise that you deserve much better. If he wanted to be with you then he would have made more effort. The man I was seeing was the same, even said he loved me and was planning his future with me but couldn't put the effort in to see me or message me. I was upset for a few days but got over it quite quickly.

Thank you all so much for your advice, it's really helped, still feeling like crap but I'll get over it 😀

Lovemusic (so do I) I had that too, he loves me, totally fallen for etc, all clearly bullshit

This dating stuff is rubbish, I really want to see him but don't want to be at his beck and call , we're both in our forties, haven't seen him for weeks now !

Move on, you are worth much more than this. if you haven't seen him for weeks, then that means there is someone else out there for you that would want to see you much more!! Don't settle for second best!!

I to do concur....You haven't seen him in weeks?!? What are you waiting for? Move on!!

Sounds like hes done it for you...sorry:(

How are you today darrell?

That fish is no good, throw it back.

Relatively new relationship you say? Depending on how new, and severe lack of communication, I'd be surprised if he wasn't with someone else also m8 :/

Sorry should have read all replies instead of just page 1 ... And for the record not all guys are assholes ;)

As a man I reckon he's either waiting for you to ditch him or he's just not that thoughtful.
I think you should get busy and ignore him and if/when he calls tell him what a lovely morning/day you've had and do not fill in any blanks. He'll either apologise and say he wishes he'd been there with you or be indifferent - if it's the latter stop calling him, because he's a git.

I have never, and would never, treat a woman like that, and women should never accept it as a matter of course!

Stay in control and make him do the running.

If he doesn't get back to you within a reasonable time, unless it is for a very VERY good reason, move on to the next one.

You deserve to be respected.

What a dick! I had a guy mess me about like this for a couple of months a while ago, what made it worse was he was meant to be a very good friend.

I dusted myself off after a good cry and threw myself into online dating, I'm now dating the most amazing man. I'm head over heels in love and we're planning to marry.

You're better than this loser, there's someone out there who will love you and treat you with the respect you deserve.

You dodged a bullet with this moron.

Hi Darrell, hope you're still on track today Lovely.🌸
It's going to be a glorious weekend, make doubly sure you're out there.
😎🌞

Trust me, he's got someone else! He's cheating on you! Find another man!! Someone who will respect you and treat you well!!

hope your ok OP.

You're well rid. I still think he's married.

Oh I've made a total arse of it and messaged him, he said he doesn't want just to be over but is now ignoring me
Why oh why did I do it, my self respect seems to have vanished 😳

Hang on, you were upset that he didn't preplan the day with you and you wanted to hear from him but didn't message him, then when you did hear from him you consider ignoring his message and then when he asks if you are getting together you dump him.

I think it's a new relationship and if you hadn't made set plans you've no right to be upset that he has somehow let you down. My DH used to assume arrangements or plans were pretty casual unless they were confirmed as definite and would have been happily unaware that I was anxious where he was or felt let down. He's learnt differently over time but unless he's actually stood you up, I think you need to see his side, no matter how annoyed you feel. (You've a right to feel annoyed and frustrated though!)