DH charging DD to swap plane seats??

[DayDreamer17]

DD is 21 so I know she is an adult, etc.
DH has a plane seat that's near the window and DD lost Rock Paper Scissors they both want to sit there. They have now come to an agreement that she will pay £20. AIBU to think this is really nasty of DH?

Why is DHs desire for a window seat less than a NT 21 year olds?

She lost RPS... surely the £20 is a bit of fun?

Well, he's her daughter. Not a bit of fun at all. She's at uni and needs every penny she has got (she has a part time job). All I know is I couldn't take her money.

I think this is fine. Two adults both want the seat. RPS is a fair way to resolve it. She lost.

She agreed to the 20 quid though.

So that's her problem.

She has anxiety and it meant a lot to her.

Would you honestly take your kid's £20?

If DH is paying, I think fair play he can sit where he wants, and if he's willing to swap for £20, no problem, and DD is lucky to get a plane ticket of her choosing for £20!

If DD is paying, well, it's her choice to pay an extra £20 for a window seat if that's what she wants to do.

If she was that broke, she'd just suck it up and sit wherever, surely?

Who paid for the flights?

Yes, I'd take my kid's 20 quid if they'd agreed to it?

If she wasn't prepared to pay, she shouldn't have made the agreement. She's 21, not 12.

I second manuel's question but suspect we can guess the answer than that the flights and accommodation are being paid for by the Bank of Mum and Dad.

If she has anxiety and this makes a difference then I think it's extremely childish of your dh to charge her for it, particularly if she's hard up.

She has anxiety and it meant a lot to her. In that case your husband is being a cunt.

One of them gets the window seat on the way there and one on the way back?

Fairest way, unless there's only one window seat available and then they could swap half way through the flight.

To me it's just the same as losing a bet - she agreed to rock, paper, scissors, she lost - he's given her this option which she wants to take.

So you and dh are paying.

She didnt ask for window seat when thr holiday was booked.

If she actually has anxiety and you knew a window seat would br needed for her, why didnt you point it out at bookinh?

She agreed to the game to decide who got the seat.

She lost so agreed to pay for the seat.

But you have an issue with a 21 year making an agreement at all?

It sounds like you still think she is 12.

She's at uni and needs every penny she has got

She can save £20 by not sitting by the window. If she's willing to pay an extra £20 to have a view that's up to her.

But then my dd has anxiety and she'd make all sorts of unfair arrangements to get out of a situation that might trigger it. Doesn't mean it's right of family members to take advantage of her.

If it was the OP who had anxiety would people still think it right of the DP to charge for something that might make the journey easier for her?

She's 21, not 2. She should be able to cope with not getting the seat she wants on a plane. £20 sounds fair enough to me. You sound a little PFB....

(who's paying for the flights??)

Why would he be paying? I am. It's to visit my family.

How do we know the dd didn't ask for a window seat and they weren't already full up?

If the OP is paying for the flights, then I think she should be in a position to tell her dh that the dd gets the seat because of her anxiety.

Manchild?

How is anxiety solved by sitting next to a window?

Um, can't her Dad just be a normal Dad, like a nice human being who loves his kids best of all no matter if they are 12 or 50, and let her have the seat and forget about any £20? Some of these answers beggar belief!

She's 21 not 2, if she wants to pay £20 so be it. However why couldn't he have it on the way there and her on the way back?

It depends very much on their relationship.

If they get on well and it's all done in fun, tongue in cheek etc then it's fine.

If, however, it isn't for laughs, and is symptomatic of deeper issues between them, then not fine.