DH charging DD to swap plane seats??

[DayDreamer17]

DD is 21 so I know she is an adult, etc.
DH has a plane seat that's near the window and DD lost Rock Paper Scissors they both want to sit there. They have now come to an agreement that she will pay £20. AIBU to think this is really nasty of DH?

It's not about letting people be shits to each other though. As an adult you decide which route to take, she chose to place a bet and got upset when she lost so upset that she agreed to pay £20 for the seat.

She needs to learn not to go down that route if she won't be happy if she loses. The OP needs to teach her this if she is so worried.

In act we haven't even been told if the daughter was actually upset it's all soeculation by the op. Why didn't she intervene if it was such an issue instead of coming on here to complain?

pain But if her father hadn't been such a shit this would not have happened.

The argument that she should accept the deal as she made it after losing the bet is completely flawed as she should never have been put in that position in the first place. Irrespective of age.

Why did he have to give up his seat for her then. You know, irrespective of her age and all that.

What is her anxiety focused on? You've said (in quite a scornful tone) it's not flight related, so what is it?

It's probably generalised anxiety disorder which isn't focused on anything in particular (hence generalised). Different sufferers will be anxious about different things.

Why did he have to give up his seat for her then. You know, irrespective of her age and all that. Did you not read through the thread? Because if you did you would have seen this has been covered multiple times

No she's an adult and has to accept that sometimes, you don't get what you want (unless you're willing to pay over the odds).

It still boils down to "shit dad, won't do something to help his DD with her anxiety without making her pay for it".
Most parents would want to help alleviate their child's anxiety, whatever age she is. Decent parents, that is.
Most parents wouldn't bother their arse about the window seat if they knew that it was important to their child. Decent ones, again.
Most parents wouldn't force their child to PAY them for something that they could have given freely of their own volition, to be kind to their child.
But shit dad did.

London to Dublin!!! Just as well it wasn't London to Sydney!!
What a fuss about a short hop across the sea.

Your DH is a twat. Give her the £20 back when you land - in front of him. It should make him feel small, but I suspect it won't...