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AIBU?

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School yard mum and school runs

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rainbowsandglitterandshit · 10/05/2017 18:53

I have no idea what my question even is, but i don't know if I am just bad tempered or what. So here is the story:

About 6 weeks ago one of the
mums from the playground had a baby. She had no one as a birthing partner and asked me last minute, I went to the hospital and was there while she gave birth. Lovely experience and was so pleased I went. Took her some bits she needed whilst in hospital and took her 2 other DCs for the night when she got home so she could settle.

Since then I have had daily texts. I have done the school run every day for her. Then I get a text asking to do the pick up. So I agree. Then another asking if I could possibly have them for tea because she is just so tired. Hmmm, wellll okay then. Then weekends would I take both kids and the newborn whilst she rests. This has been for the last 4 of 6 weeks.

I work full time, albeit my boss gives me great flexibility and I make my own appts so it has been do-able, but I feel like now is the time to stop. In summer me and the kids walk to school, and when i mentioned this today she was genuinely offended and said 'oh what will i do now? can you still take them?'

I live a 25 minute walk from school but in the opposite direction she does. The after school pick ups are becoming a nightmare when i deal with 5 kida instead of my 3 and weekends are chaos when I am taking a newborn with us. Plus we can't go in the car because of how many kids I'm taking.

I really want to help her but all this plus work means I'm absolutely shattered, no way can i do an extra half hour round trip to walk her kids to school, and I can't carry on the nightly after school thing or every weekend with all 3 of her kids.

So WIBU to just tell her I can't? or am i a shitty friend and should just grin and bare it?

OP posts:

Bettyspants · 22/05/2017 12:02

I'm starting to question this thread....

LagunaBubbles · 22/05/2017 12:11

Reported missing to the Police?

shinyredbus · 22/05/2017 12:49

any news OP - this is very strange and worrying..

BigApple11 · 22/05/2017 13:24

NellieFiveBellies · 22/05/2017 13:39

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BrieAndChilli · 22/05/2017 14:04

I was going to say you need to start being busy when she asks for help and saying things like 'sorry I have meeting this week but could have them over for a play on Friday' etc but have seen your latest update. I think now hopefully the correct authorities will be involved and she will get the help she needs.
Where is the baby??

FeckinTerrified · 22/05/2017 14:11

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Willow2017 · 22/05/2017 14:44

Really?
Where is her baby and the other child?
How come you only have one of them?

Toomuchocolate · 22/05/2017 15:07

Where are her younger children?

WanderingTrolley1 · 22/05/2017 15:19

They are so gullible, Feckin, it's sad.

Jux · 22/05/2017 15:33

Feckin and Trolley

It's nothing to do with gullibility and everything to do with knowing that this is a public site, and that there are many lurkers out there, many MN members who lurk on threads but don't post. One or two of those unseen, unannounced lurkers may be helped by something that is posted.

I first started reading MN in 2000 when dd was a baby and I was desperate for her to sleep! I didn't post. I didn't join until 2005. I read threads every day, it kept me sane.

I take every poster to be 100% genuine. That was a decision I made years ago. I know they're not always, I know there are trolls, we used to call them Dave the Hairy Handed Trucker

In the meantime, there are lots of people who, just like me, read the boards, don't post, but lights glimmer on.

Just report if you think someone's not genuine. It doesn't help anyone if you chuckle about posters' gullibility.

Atenco · 22/05/2017 16:40

Good answer Jux.

WanderingTrolley1 · 22/05/2017 18:39

I'm not chuckling, Jux.

DaemonPantalaemon · 22/05/2017 21:27

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user14809fhfdgg · 22/05/2017 21:54

Why would someone make that up? What do they get out of it?
How is it proven?
Very strange x

rollonthesummer · 22/05/2017 21:54

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LagunaBubbles · 23/05/2017 10:33

How hard is it to hit the report button if you have suspicions.

Bettyspants · 23/05/2017 21:19

Looks like those who question the threads validity get their comments removed...

Wtfdoipick · 23/05/2017 21:27

Looks like those who question the threads validity get their comments removed

They do, that's because questioning the validity or troll hunting is against guidelines.

Jux · 24/05/2017 00:42

And troll hunting makes you look like a dick anyway. So removing posts which do that is doing the poster a favour. (not a fan of removing posts at all, except in extreme cases for preservation of anonymity.)

firsttimemum15 · 05/06/2017 23:20

How did this end

SparklyMagpie · 06/06/2017 10:09

Doubt there will ever be an update

firsttimemum15 · 06/06/2017 20:34

What makes you say that

alltoomuchrightnow · 06/06/2017 20:40

because it's not in the news? (re update)
Implying fabrication?
not sure but this is all worrying

firsttimemum15 · 28/06/2017 20:56

Hope you are ok OP and your friend was found.

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