He threw the bunny away

[gherkin85]

My son is 11 and has had a bunny toy since birth. I bought it for him when I was pregnant with him. I'm not with his dad anymore but he stays at his dads house a couple of days a week.
last week his dad threw the bunny away, saying ds needs to "grow up"
DS and I are heartbroken.
I tried to explain to dad why this is not ok and he hung up on me....saying I am "mothering" him too much??

Yes I know - brutal, isn't it? I actually cried when he first told me.

It's now related as an amusing family anecdote . Such a lack of sensitivity and empathy it makes my blood boil.

My dh still sometimes talks about his precious cuddly his mother chucked out .

I think I'm going to try and find one actually for him.

This thread has made my heart ache. The sheer wanton cruelty and wretched control-freakery shown by this so called man makes me want to kick him in the balls. That rabbit was your son's property and he should never have touched it, let alone thrown it away. Your child's distress affected him not one jot, it would seem.

It has reminded me of what my mother did to my books. I was about 13 and had been collecting Monica Edwards books for some considerable time. The thing about them is that appealed to me so much wasn't just the adventures with ponies and out with the fishermen who were smuggling, but also the depiction of very happy family lives. Those children never knew what it was to be hit, shouted at and insulted, nor sit on the stairs quaking at the sound of the latest blistering row and what she would do to me as a result. I read and re-read them and it comforted me to know that not all households were abodes of chaos, uproar and cruelty.

One day mummy dearest decided that I was "too old" for Monica Edwards. I went into my bedroom and saw the empty bookshelves. My mother had thrown them all away. So they didn't even go to a new home to be loved by other children. She did this kind of thing all the time and then she wondered why I absolutely hated her, both as a child and an adult. When I was a teenager I made a lots of my own clothes , favouring hippy styles and if she particularly disliked a garment, she would cut it into pieces. She never stopped interfering in my life until I was forty and managed to disengage from the nasty old bitch.

I do hope your son takes to the new rabbit, but agree that he is unlikely to forget what happened to his old one and it will have badly damaged his relationship with that dick who calls himself his father.

It's now related as an amusing family anecdote

Bastards!

I'm with happy flappy - how can anyone derive such joy or pleasure out of causing such misery and heartache to a member of their own family?!

Has eBay cousin bunny come to stay at your house yet, OP?

Just in case:
Fuckofflazydailymailjournosanddoaproperjobforonce

Erm okay... that will stop them copying it onto their site

Awfully sad thread. How can family members or even strangers ffs be so cruel to children.

Some of these stories made me cry

Op he's horrible

The utter fucking arsehole. I have a disgustingly dirty papiermache elephant, which is 48 years old. DW has Pandy, who is 56. DD has Dingle Dangle Scarecrow, who is around 20. Anyone who even suggests their disposal would lose their front teeth.

True, Livia, but I don't have any better ideas at the mo

Grey On the plus side, the average DM journo doesn't have the attention span to read all the posts

omg that is breathtakingly mean, what a nasty thing to do.

Your poor ds! My dp was gutted when we lost his Barney Bunny in our last house move and he was 25. We had to search high and low for it but it was never to be seen again.

What is really sad is the number of posters who have come forward with similar experiences. Unwilling to believe that so many parents are deliberately cruel, I can only conclude there are a lot of unintelligent and insensitive parents out there. On a more positive note please tell your son and your ex that Spitfire and Lancaster pilots and crew routinely took teddies, mascots as they called them, on missions during WW2. My son in law, a veteran of Iraq and Afghanistan has his bear sitting on his desk wearing miniature campaign medals. Men don't come much tougher than these guys!

Any chance you could go to the recycling centre and see if rabbit has been rescued? It is possible sometimes to find toys again, depending on where you live. I'd definitely tell the step mother. My eldest has a precious teddy and I've never trusted the Ex enough to let teddy accompany the dc when they used to have contact. He would go through their stuff, keep any nice clothes and throw out what he didn't like. Ended up sending them in a t-shirt and tracky bottoms and even then they would come back deliberately discoloured. I kept reusing them. He and the OW would make the dc change in the car and once pushed them out barefoot and slung their school shoes out of the window. Really upset the dc. They won't see him now.

What a dick. I still have my childhood teddy - he's safely tucked away in a box in the loft. I can't have him out as the marauding dog would destroy him and he's very old and threadbare now. But I slept with him every night from the age of two, when he was given to me, until my second year at Uni. He only went into a special sleeping box when I got a cat who spent all her time trying to pee on him.

I like the idea of giving him a choice of what to do with new teddy.

Hello everyone
thanks again for the support makes me feel better!
Long lost brother rabbit tried to come today but I was at work and ds school. ..We are going to rescue him tomorrow from big post office!
Xxx

Oh god, this is so sad. It's like a bit of his childhood and his memories he will never get back. What a cock your ex is. What an utter cock.

I am kind of hoping he was bluffing and never binned it? For your ds to take it with him shows how much he must have loved it :(

and (((hugs))) for everyone on this thread who has had similar happen to them. This never happened to me for the simple reason that it did happen to both my parents - my mum's mum gave all her toys away aged 7, bar a couple of teddies that mum kept safe all her life. That was in the war - not entirely sure what the rationale was, but at least she didn't give away mum's "comfort" bears.
Dad's mum threw out his jealously hoarded collection of comics - things like Eagle etc. - that he'd bought from the 1st edition. She didn't realise they had any value, just thought they were rubbish.
Although neither of my grandmothers were particularly warm cuddly people, they weren't actively abusive either - but it still affected both my parents severely, and in fact affected me too (as they told me about it) so I don't throw my boys' toys out either (and neither does my sister with her DC). DH would like to get rid of some of the toys, but I won't let him - I ask the boys themselves if there's anything they're happy to let go now and give to some other child.

@Jpinkerton - that made me cry - if anyone had thrown out my favourite books, I don't know what I would have done - they mean more to me than toys. :(

@gherkin - hope bunny's long lost brother makes up for the loss of bunny. But I wouldn't be sending bunny to the sperm donor's ever again :(

I've still got the bear my Nan got me when I was 3, and I'm 31 now. I'd be beyond heartbroken if I lost him.

I'm 54 and I still have my teddy. My dad is 86 and still has his teddy in the wardrobe!

Your poor boy OP, he's lucky to have you as his mum who understands the importance of his bunny.

I feel so sorry for your poor DS no wonder that heartless fucking prick is an ex am 27 and I still have my baggy bunny toy from when I was born that battered teddy has gone everywhere with me and I will never part with him I would be heartbroken if someone threw him away on me. I hope you managed to get the replacement one you found on eBay and I hope your DS enjoys it even if it doesn't hold the same memories as the original one did.