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Friend gone behind my back to contest my 16 yr old daughter's Drama Scholarship

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LillaB · 02/05/2017 12:26

My DD and a friend of mine's daughter have been at the same school since they were 3 and are now entering VIth form. Both (and about 10 other pupils) applied for VIth form Drama Scholarships. My daughter was given one as was another girl and a 3rd from another school.

I have just found out from my daughter that the other girl and her mum (who is my friend and I am about to go on holiday with) has been into school to complain about the fact my daughter got the scholarship. Help

OP posts:
BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 04/05/2017 09:00

I can see why the OP's daughter won a Drama Scholarship, as her mother is a total drama llama

SoupDragon · 04/05/2017 09:09

DSs private school has upper 6th and lower 6th :)

Atenco · 04/05/2017 14:50

I can see why the OP's daughter won a Drama Scholarship Grin

Soporific1 · 04/05/2017 16:34

Having one of each I do need to know why girls need lessons in drama? :)

My son went to an after-school drama club in year 6 and was a little overawed when he was the only boy in a class 20...poor little soul didn't get beyond week 2

Bettercallsaul1 · 04/05/2017 16:54

I hope the other mother isn't a school governor?

Notmyrealname85 · 04/05/2017 16:56

Is this another hotdog mum :(

Bettercallsaul1 · 04/05/2017 16:58

Does the HT play tennis? That should clarify things.

MyVisionsComeFromSoup · 04/05/2017 17:04

our state school has a 6th form (consisting of Y12 and Y13), but we also have a VI unit (for students with a visual impairment) , so I think I win Grin.

My old school (v posh boarding school) called the sixth form years 6B and 6A, poshness not seemingly an indicator of roman numerals or not?

roselover · 04/05/2017 19:01

kids of a certain age can bring things home and expand them ...so it might be that your "friend" has been in to school to appeal.....and has told her daughter as much and the whispering game as expanding it to ...we think we should have had that place not you (which might have been what she said in what she thought was a private space ...at home ...and its all got reported ...you have the place ...they aint gonna change their mind ...schools dont do that ....they may expand the scholarship programme to include your mates daughter but your kids place is safe - try not to be too smug ...if I was your friend I would be gutted and but on a happy face for you ......but really I would be thinking just so you know.....

Chipshopninja · 04/05/2017 19:34

You could ask your friend....crazy notion I'm aware

Benedikte2 · 04/05/2017 20:11

Where does your info originate from OP? Most likely from your fiend's daughter who feels miffed that your DD got a scholarship and she didn't.
Daughter's view that why DD and not me, because I'm better than she is, will have influenced her account especially if her mother said she'd talk to the school about it -- whereas mother might just be inquiring why they missed out because she feels her daughter deserves a scholarship.
Don't get upset about something that may not have happened.

WellThisIsShit · 04/05/2017 23:59

What happened to hotdog by the way? I didn't catch up with it before it went pooof. Annoying when that happens!

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LillaB · 08/05/2017 10:55

Well, weekend away all ok. Decided to say nothing, least said etc. But one of our friends (on the holiday) told me the husband had phoned the Headmaster to complain so the gossip did have some truth! As someone said, it hasn't had any effect on the school's decision so that's hopefully the last we hear.

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SoupDragon · 08/05/2017 11:06

one of our friends (on the holiday) told me the husband had phoned the Headmaster to complain so the gossip did have some truth!

Isn't that still gossip though?

Atenco · 08/05/2017 11:56

one of our friends (on the holiday) told me the husband had phoned the Headmaster to complain so the gossip did have some truth!

Isn't that still gossip though?

OP, that is why you should say something. You have condemned this person on the basis of a lot of gossip, but then maybe I am overthinking it because you call her a friend and go on holiday with her, but she must actually be merely an acquaintaince.

squeaver · 08/05/2017 12:30

But it could still be that the husband was complaining about their daughter not getting a scholarship, rather than your daughter getting one!

BitOutOfPractice · 08/05/2017 13:31

I doubt very much that he phoned to complain your dd had got a scholarship, more likely to complain his dd had not. Two completely different things.

GColdtimer · 08/05/2017 14:18

But he might have phoned to ask for feedback on why. My dd didn't get a part in a big local production recently, her bf did. I called the director to say, "I know standard was high, looks like you have some great kids. Have you got any feedback for my dd for future auditions". He was happy to provide some constructive feedback as she had got through 2 rounds and he didn't want her to give up on it.

I would be mortified if my friend thought I had called to complain that her friend got a part and mine didn't.

You have no idea what has been said, don't listen to gossip.

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