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Friend gone behind my back to contest my 16 yr old daughter's Drama Scholarship

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LillaB · 02/05/2017 12:26

My DD and a friend of mine's daughter have been at the same school since they were 3 and are now entering VIth form. Both (and about 10 other pupils) applied for VIth form Drama Scholarships. My daughter was given one as was another girl and a 3rd from another school.

I have just found out from my daughter that the other girl and her mum (who is my friend and I am about to go on holiday with) has been into school to complain about the fact my daughter got the scholarship. Help

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user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 12:55

VIth form? Are you not very subtley trying to tell everyone its not a pleb school?

Sounds like you have at best half a story. You have no idea what actually happened or was said.

ProseccoBitch · 02/05/2017 12:59

VIth form? Hmm

We need to know more, as other PPs have mentioned. Is she complaining that your DD got a scholarship, or complaining that her DD didn't?

TheMysteriousJackelope · 02/05/2017 13:01

How did you hear about this?

Unless it was directly from your friend or the person at the school who your friend talked to then it is extremely likely that the gossip who gave you this information put their own spin on it to make it as dramatic as possible. So, yes, what everyone else posted, your friend asked why her DD didn't get a scholarship and suddenly it's 'She demanded your DD's scholarship be taken away from her and given to her DD as she thinks your DD doesn't deserve it'.

You know your friend well enough to go on holiday with her. Is this really something she would do?

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 02/05/2017 13:01

Need more information really....

Beeziekn33ze · 02/05/2017 13:02

A friend's DD got a drama award at another school and was surprised at the beginning of term to find that several pupils of the school, who had entered for the award, weren't in fact doing drama A level.

Iamastonished · 02/05/2017 13:03

It won't be a state school as there isn't enough funding to provide a basic curriculum let alone drama scholarships.

Viviennemary · 02/05/2017 13:03

I'd say the main thing is how did your daughter find out there was a complaint and who complained. Unless lies were told on the applications I can't see the school changing their minds. I don't think bringing it up with your friend is a very good idea. Not at the moment.

NellieFiveBellies · 02/05/2017 13:04

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Beeziekn33ze · 02/05/2017 13:04

Mysterious: the 'gossip' was her own daughter!

NavyandWhite · 02/05/2017 13:05

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BaronessEllaSaturday · 02/05/2017 13:06

VIth form just means sixth form

SparklyFairyDust · 02/05/2017 13:09

You need to be more specific about the nature of the complaint.

user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 13:09

Yeah we know that, but only certain schools/people write it that way.

2014newme · 02/05/2017 13:10

Op how much is the scholarship worth?

Agree it's fine for her to query why her dddidn't get a scholarship. It doesn't mean she is saying that your dd shouldn't have got one.

NavyandWhite · 02/05/2017 13:10

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ProseccoBitch · 02/05/2017 13:11

@BaronessEllaSaturday yes we realise that, it just seems a strange way to choose to write it on a forum, when it's much easier to write 6th form.

Hissy · 02/05/2017 13:12

I shall wait for the update as to whether the other mum was contesting your DD award or was merely complaining that hers had not got one.

it DOES make a difference.

In the meantime, we will need also deets about the holiday, who booked it and what the chances are of getting money back or of making changes to booking...

2014newme · 02/05/2017 13:13

Stop derailing the thread with silly queries about how sixth form is written! 🙄

BaronessEllaSaturday · 02/05/2017 13:15

My local State School refers to it that way so it tends to be how I think of it. Yes the op is at a private school, who else takes dc from 3 all the way up.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 02/05/2017 13:15

Sounds like gossip. Which means it's probably wrong or at best wildly inaccurate.

Does it even seem likely that your friend would go into school and complain about your daughter? Does it perhaps seem more likely she might go into school to ask why her daughter didn't get one?

Bet it turns out to be absolutely nothing.

AlexanderHamilton · 02/05/2017 13:17

Navy - the op posted at lunchtime - possibly on her break. Give them a chance.

NavyandWhite · 02/05/2017 13:17

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Ceto · 02/05/2017 13:19

Yeah we know that, but only certain schools/people write it that way.

So what? Are you simply trying to inject some reverse snobbery?

2014newme · 02/05/2017 13:20

How the op writes sixth form is irrelevant nonsense

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 02/05/2017 13:21

A parent xomplaining about an adult not being awarded a part by the RSC is totally different to a parent appealing a scholarship decision in respect of a child - bit worrying that there seems to be some confusion regarding this Confused

As other posters have said, it's perfectly appropriate for a parent to appeal a decision like this. My 4 year old has just got a place at a local school. A friend hasn't and is appealing. I completely understand why.