To think it's rude to asking how much it costs?

[Hauntedbytheghostofyou]

I've had cosmetic surgery and it's something very noticeable. I'm very open with it but I'm sick of the first question being - how much did it cost??

Aibu? It's none of anyone's business

Nose or boobs?

Neither

Well - people just like to make small talk.

They can't say "oh that looks better" without sounding rude, can't say "that looks rubbish" without sounding even worse. Might be wondering if they can afford the same.

So it probably feels like the innocuous thing to say once you've raised it.

YANBU - I think it is rude, but perhaps they're mistaking your openness as an invitation for free-for-all questioning. I would hazard that the question comes from vaguely wondering if they could afford a similar procedure, rather than nosiness about your finances, so it's probably an indirect compliment.

I think if you are discussing it openly, people are bound to ask. They're fascinated. It isn't any of their business, but neither is the procedure and you are open about that.

They aren't asking you how much you earn, OP. They are asking because they are curious and may be considering it for themselves. Why on earth would you be cagey about it?

Asmoto I'd be interested, but not because I want to know if I can afford it. I wouldn't consider cosmetic surgery (although I'm not judging those who do). I'm just fascinated at the disposable income people seem to have for luxuries.

Because a couple of people have made a judgment that they couldn't believe I would spend so much. But it's my money and I'm tired of justifying myself.

First of all, good for you, enjoy it.
Then tell them it's not at all relevant and move the coversation on - very rude IMO.

If you have spent that money on, say, a car, it'd be very easy for these judgemental types to know how much you had spent.

Cosmetic surgery pricing is very difficult to pinpoint, so they are asking.

Basically, these types would judge you for a big spend anyway.

If you're very open about it you can't be surprised if people then ask intrusive questions.

What did you have done?
And... How much did it cost?

I want to know now too!

Oh. Well, next time just say "not as much as I expected actually, I saved up last year, I can give you their number if you're interested?", and then change the subject.

Or "Very expensive! I've had to sell twice as much coke as usual this year on the side."

If they judge just grin and roll your eyes internally, their opinions are pointless anyway.

(If it wasn't nose or boobs though and you don't mind sharing anonymously, what was it? My mind's drawing a total blank on what else cosmetic surgery can do!)

Lie. Tell them you slept with the surgeon, or he/she is a relative, or knock a few thousand hundred off the price.

I think I'd be irritated by people sneering at my choice or questioning how I could justify spending so much money but I wouldn't be annoyed at them for asking how much it cost. They are two different things.

I agree with others that they may be considering something similar themselves or just making conversation. I don't think it gives anything away really about your finances. I mean, it could be one month's disposable income or you could have saved for a decade. Nobody would know.

If they ask, treat it as a request for advice and point them to a website with prices on rather than answering directly.

It would be very outing if I said on here. Under 100 patients have had it done. But yes I am extremely happy with the results.

I don't mind telling people through pm though

you don't have to justify how you choose to spend your money! tell them to stick there noses somewhere else, Unless they are asking because they want to have cosmetic surgery done too and would like to know if they could afford it

Come on - we don't know you in real life and it would be interesting to know these kind of things. How much and what did you have done?

A friend of mine had her parents pay for a boob job for her 30th birthday. That felt a bit like seeking recompense from them for not having got it right in the first place.

I think it's rude to ask about money [uptight Scot emoticon]

My uncle's stock response to questions about how much things cost was always, "oh, a bob or two"

A) It's rude.

B) You don't have to tell them.

I agree with others that they may be considering something similar themselves or just making conversation

I genuinely believe 90% of them would not even consider it.

Corrective jaw surgery?

I would just say, it cost a LOT, but worth every penny, and leave it at that.

trout lips?

We need a diagram!