To think it's rude to asking how much it costs?

[Hauntedbytheghostofyou]

I've had cosmetic surgery and it's something very noticeable. I'm very open with it but I'm sick of the first question being - how much did it cost??

Aibu? It's none of anyone's business

I can only see the first 2pages so apologies , yes I do think it's rude to ask. I've had a couple of close friends have cosmetic surgery, both were carefully thought about and have made a big difference to how they feel about themselves. Cost wise I did question one friend prior to the op as I was concerned about her managing debt but that's all. I think it's a very personal thing to do and unless that's a very close friend asking (in private etc etc) it really shouldn't be asked. I would love to know what you've had done , only as I've never worked in plastics and really can't guess something so rare but noticeable!! I would shrug off the questions regarding cost as 'I'd rather not discuss it ' change thread 'I'm so pleased'

Jaw reduction? (like Rumer Willis)

So it's not a hump, Esmeralda??

You are enjoying the attention though aren't you op? Bet you think you are superior because people are asking what you've had done because we can't see it through a fucking screen, no matter how obvious it is

No. In fact I think the majority of people are superior to me. I don't hold a very high opinion of myself.

The only part I've enjoyed was getting a message from someone telling me her ivf journey.

Btw everyone, I've got this thing - it's really cool - everyone asks me about it, it's in full view for the world to see when I step out of the door....

But I won't reveal what it is on an anonymous chat board.

For goodness sake.

Leave the poor woman alone! She only asked a question with your opinion and most people have turned it into personal insults!

She asked if it's rude for people to ask how much something is.

Her actual surgery is irrelevant. Whether it's face, body or feet, doesn't matter, she's had it done for herself.

Now back to the original post. I personally do view it as invasive if I got asked questions about money etc. I would feel that people are just jealous - because if they could afford it they would get it done - or people could just be curious but you generally don't go further into finances when curious about something, especially when something personal has already been done (i.e. Surgery)

I would be interested to find out what and how much but not in a judgy way, more in an interested as don't know much about cosmetic surgery way. Do u feel guilty about it? If not then just own it. If u are happy who cares what people think? Xx

fucks sake mrmanc PM me in confidence would you? maybe then more people will want to know more about it because I'm telling a select few

You don't actually get it do you? You have had surgery that you say is both obvious and rare.. then refuse to say what it is on an anonymous forum, yet you will tell people in a pm anonymously. Do you see how you look stupid and attention seeking now?
it's like a child bragging about something hidden in their hand and not showing it, eventually the people who are curious and now feel lesser than the child are going to get resentful and lose interest and start talking about other things, kind of like how this thread has gone don't you think? Then the persons asks why have things gone the way they have gone even though it's obvious.

Oooo is it a BBL? I secretly want one.

What's a bbl?

You beat me to it Purple

Brazilian Butt Lift
They take the fat from your stomach and redistribute it to your bottom to lift and fill it.

Babyturtles - sorry if I come across a little harsh. It just seems like, well, pretty much exactly like Dontpullthattubeout just explained it.

I care less about whatever it is, I just think it would have been easier from the off to say ' I had x removed' or whatever. The cloak and dagger approach makes it look attention seeking, regardless of truth to it.

I want one! I could have a flat stomach and a really fat arse lol

I would love to know how to avoid this quesion too. I haven't had surgery but people have often asked me how much something cost and I didn't want to say but felt forced into it because of their cheekiness.

A friend asked me straight out what something cost in front of another friend and I didn't know where to look, I was Morto, yet I answered her! What is the solution I wonder?

Like this!

(It wasnt anything fancy it was a wardrobe for my son's bedroom)

DontPullThatTubeOut you seem to be unable to resist coming back to dish out more insults...

Yes I look stupid and I probably am
I'm a brat
I'm self absorbed

Everything you said is true. I hold my hands up.

I'm unsure what you mean by the resentful and lose interest comment. I was happy to leave this thread where it was. I came back because generally if the OP doesn't then they get accused of flouncing etc ... Its not like I keep bumping up the thread when there's been no comments made

If it's making you feel like a better person to leave yet another horrible comment then do it. But i won't retaliate and personally attack you.

Oh gosh haunted, you're getting a hard time here totally unnecessarily

I can imagine saying to someone "Was it really expensive?!" but only to friends I knew well. I probably wouldn't comment at all if I were less acquainted.

my daughter wants her dark circles under he eyes removed, she has very thin skin and is constantly asked if she is unwell, she is 22 and at the moment uses concealers but she is saving to have it corrected, its so she feels normal. She is a beautiful girl but this is a confidence issue so I understand how you feel OP

I never ask anyone what something cost, and I don't answer questions about what things cost, e.g work done in the house or whatever. My view is, it's only the business of the person who is footing the bill.
So, OP, I would prepare a stock answer, 'oh worth every penny' smile, and leave it at that.

OP, well done for having plastic surgery if you were unhappy and had the chance to make yourself feel better. I assume you don't won't to tell people how much because it was expensive and you don't want to discuss your finances with them. That's your perogative and you should just laugh it off and although I am curious what you had done I can understand why you aren't saying. The cost of surgery is ridiculous and I hope you are enjoying the results.

I'm surprised at the negative reaction you've had. I think the mystery is a draw—it's like posting a word search!

As for your question, YANBU but I am not surprised at the questions. Anything unusual will pique people's interest, and I am sure that the disabled and the alien will get far worse than you. Even when it's based on fascination with the unfamiliar, unwanted question can feel like an intrusion.

There are so many responses to "how much did it cost?" that would leave you and the asker feeling comfortable without you revealing anything. "There are more expensive things" for instance, or "Less than I expected actually". Turn it around with "What do you think it's worth?", or compare their own spending if you can think fast enough and feel especially angry!

Like everyone else, your "it's something very noticeable" puzzles me, and unless you have had a third arm attached I think you must mean that it's noticeable to people who have seen you before the operation. I'm thinking along the lines of the removal of a birthmark or something else unwanted.

Anyway Haunted, I think you're clearly enjoying your "modification" and I hope it continues that way. How about spending a few minutes thinking of non-committal answers to the questions that you don't like, and remember that you're probably just as inquisitive as they are about unusual lifestyles!

I bet it's a new eye colour (googled rare procedures)