To think being gentle and having delicate mannerisms doesn't make you emotionally weak

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I am very elegant and have very delicate mannerisms. I'm warm and friendly but don't come across as 'powerful' or 'commanding'. I am both those things. I am very emotionally strong but I just don't come across that way.

When I used to interview for a primary school teacher positions I was perfect and exactly what they were looking for.

Now I've moved into law, despite excellent work experience all I get told in interviews is that they need someone 'powerful, authoritative and mentally strong'. It's their way of saying I'm not what they're looking for.

My old manager said it's a shame as although I come across as gentle and feminine that does not mean I'm emotionally weak.

AIBU to think just because I'm feminine and gentle, that doesn't mean I'm not emotionally strong, authoritative and assertive.

Why do we consider feminist with weakness?

Scarlett was the ultimate feminist.

I am practising delicate mannerisms my loves while cooking a spag boll although I may have to raise my voice to my teenage dd as she's slouched in chewing gum and swigging a can of cider. I despair

PSA:
The OP has apparently hidden this thread as per their post on their other thread.

If this is who I think it is they have form for things like this. I think every thread they start goes this way.

Just popping my head over the parapet to assess the damage. Not placemarking at all ...

Shall we start taking bets on the deletion message?

Shall we start taking bets on the deletion message?

As long as it's not 'you weren't being nice and supportive enough to the GF op' again .

To be fair to the OP (who i'm not linked to in anyway) the last page of this thread is quite childish. I know the OP probably made a few mistakes in her posts and the way she came across but all the mocking and silly posts are really childish and I wonder if this is how some adults behave in rl?

This is really confusing.

NoMudNoLotus2 this thread was never going to go well due to the incredibly smug tone of the op. Following her flouncing off to chat to find people to agree with her, might as well have some 'childish' giggles until it's zapped. The op isn't coming back or even reading anymore.

(Samantha brick)
(Sorry)

Before this gets zapped, I'd like to say thanks to the pp who said about loosening her corset and farting, it made me lol after a rubbish day

I don't even like fart jokes but in the context of this thread it was so funny, I burst out laughing on the bus home!

It looks like the OP started another thread because she wanted advice on why she wasn't doing well in interviews because she realised she'd gone about asking in the wrong way. The comments on the other thread, in response to a completely different approach in asking her question, appear to be constructive. People following her to another thread to mock are, in my opinion, being childish. If you didn't see it was the same username you wouldn't even know it was the same poster which shows how someone answers a question in the first place is very important.

Today 19:35 StiickEmUp

(Samantha brick)
(Sorry**

Yes ^ just what I thought

how someone asks a question

Mud, I did give genuine advice on this thread and no reply.

Gold I only read MN whilst studying or on public transport. I'm often on the tube looking like a nutter, laughing to myself.

Wouldn't it be easier for him to just google some porn rather than go to the trouble of starting a thread on mn to bash one out?

she realised she'd gone about asking in the wrong way.

That's one way to put it I guess. I still can't get beyond someone describing themselves as delicate, elegant and princess-like. Who alludes to themselves in such a way, seriously?

However, I have seen a staggering amount of smugness and an inability to find fault in oneself over the last few days, there must be something in the water.

You'd think so, but the staggering amount of posts that are started for wank fodder would prove otherwise.

Speak for yourself Edmund. I am very delicate and princess like.

I did say elegance isn't something you describe yourself as, rather that's how someone else describes you. It's like calling yourself wise or rather full of wisdom. If one has to label themselves as wise or full of wisdom then they aren't usually very wise or have very much wisdom.

How would you know someone was doing a thread for wank fodder?

NoMudNoLotus2
Glad you said it. This is exactly how it came across to me as well.