To think that this is nosey from dh's ex wife.

[AmazingJane67]

We have saved to take the dc to Florida this year dd17, ds16, ds7, dd5, ds3 and dss16 dd15.

I am a stay at home mum because of dd5 and ds3. This means dh is paying for the whole holiday. Dh ex has agreed to the holiday (its 4 weeks so most of summer break.) We asked her to pay half the cost for her dc as last year dh paid the whole cost of the holiday for her to go away with them. This was told to her when dh gave her the money for the holiday. It works out less then the cost of the holiday and she has had a year to save. She is now refusing to pay dh and has said that I should pay half and that I am not contributing to the cost of the holiday.

I must make a note dh and ex take in turns to take dc away every year so dh one year, ex the next.

Aibu to think she should mind her own business about finances and me.

We can afford to pay for the Florida trip but it's out of principle for what was agreed.

oh god, am now laughing out loud in the office about the multimillionaire who's not super rich!!!

AmazingJane67 are you from Planet Earth?

It has been asked a lot upthread but is your DH paying in full for your oldest children (similar ages to DSS/DSD)?

So you went the lakes but your dh paid for his ex wife and kids to go to Dubai, even though her husband is a multi millionaire (not a rich one) and you're happy with that?

I'd be telling my husband to get a frigging holiday and booking one bloody holiday for all the bloody kids, and nobody's ex wife!

Get a frigging grip that should have said

How is op having a free ride? If I've read it right she is a sahm, and as such had a 'contract' with her husband that although she doesn't get a wage for running the home, she will 'earn' her life style.
That's what being a sahm means to me.

and paying for older dc to go to Dubai whilst you can then only afford a holiday in the lake district??

He goes on holiday with his wife and pays for it but he doesn't take dh kids on holiday with him. She does her own holidays with her dc.

ohyesiam I agree with you completely

I think She is BU to suggest that you should contribute. Your DH and you are a unit so it isn't relevant where the money is coming from. That said I think it's unwise to have an arrangement where you contribute to the DC's holiday with the other parent - since they don't get any say in costs. If she agreed to pay and DH paid for her holiday last year then I guess she should but it's an odd set up!

In all seriousness who came up with this batshit arrangement?

You do know this is not normal?

He is paying for my children half and then I'm using money I have saved.

Lavish holidays and multimillionaires.

Cheered my wet Monday up

It is clear what the ex's problem is
Why should the OPs children be fully funded by him (i.e not her husbands bio children) when he wont pay 100% for his own child with her

Hmmm cant really blame her to be honest

The Dubai trip came to around £5000 we are asking her to pay £2000 which is half for flights and half the amount for her dc.

The multimillionaire he's not super rich

he's super rich if he's a multimillionaire !

So Dubai holiday was ex, two oldest DSS/DSD but new baby and multi millionaire husband didn't come along - or they did but MMH paid for himself and baby (but not wife) Logistics in this set up must make your brains hurt

No when I say he's not super rich what I mean is a lot of the money is in land assets so he has not got millions in the bank he's worth Over 2 million. He has 15 houses he rents out.

pink he's spent £5000 sending them abroad as well as his ex wife

So he has paid 100% for them AND HER.

So why is it sooooo unfair to pay half for her kids and her kids only?

Katie Price?

The baby and her child with her dh didn't come on this holiday.

Get a grip. If you think am multimillionaire isn't rich you seriously need a grip.

The arrangement is over. You can afford to pay for this extravagant holiday so do it. Then don't give the ex money for a holiday next year.