To think that this is nosey from dh's ex wife.

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We have saved to take the dc to Florida this year dd17, ds16, ds7, dd5, ds3 and dss16 dd15.

I am a stay at home mum because of dd5 and ds3. This means dh is paying for the whole holiday. Dh ex has agreed to the holiday (its 4 weeks so most of summer break.) We asked her to pay half the cost for her dc as last year dh paid the whole cost of the holiday for her to go away with them. This was told to her when dh gave her the money for the holiday. It works out less then the cost of the holiday and she has had a year to save. She is now refusing to pay dh and has said that I should pay half and that I am not contributing to the cost of the holiday.

I must make a note dh and ex take in turns to take dc away every year so dh one year, ex the next.

Aibu to think she should mind her own business about finances and me.

Well in case I think if the holiday is more than last years half your taking the piss. I think you know that though. I would cancel this arrangement and pay for your own holidays

It's not more than half of last years half. It's principle more than anything. Why does she care what I contribute.

If her dh is a multi millionaire why on earth if your dh paying to send her on holiday?

Do not make arrangements like this again!!

Also it's not all in Orlando. We are flying to NYC having a week there and then a week and half in Orlando then the rest of time is by the beach.

He paid because he wants to pay for his dc to go on holiday.

I'm guessing the conversation between your DH and his ExW went something like this....

DH: "Where you taking the kids this year on hol?"
ExW: "Nowhere, I haven't saved any money to take them anywhere "
DH: "I don't want kids to miss out this year. I'll give you 3K for a holiday this year...1K for you + 2K for the two kids. Next year you can give me 2K, I'm taking them to Florida so there share will be 4K. You give me 2K and we'll forget about the 1K I paid for you? Sound fair?
ExW: whilst packing suitcase Okay!!

....12 months later

DH: "I'm paying the last of the Florida holiday off, can I have that 2K you owe me please?"
ExW: "Nah"
DH:"Cow"

I'll give you 6K for a holiday and you can just give me it back next year? I'm planning to take them to Florida which will cost 6K for the pair of them, your share will be 3K?

But he could have just paid for this holiday entirely?

Why pay for his ex wife to go too?

Damn copy and paste...forgot to delete the repeat paragraph..lol

If he wanted to pay for his dc to have a holiday then why didn't he take them last year?

Is your ex paying half for you and his joint children?

So had your DH and his ex contributed towards each others holidays with the kids in previous years, or only last year?

OP I think you are full of shit. You have suddenly added that the ex is married to a multimillionaire later on, when you realize things aren't going your way on this thread

Your husband is funding your kids that you share with him, the kids that you had BEFORE you even met, and refuses to fund the kid he had with his ex? The reason the ex is questioning things is it comes across that you are having a lovely free ride for you, all your kids whether they are HIS or not, and her ONE child, is being left out of it - whilst kids that aren't his benefit!

I don't get why you wouldn't understand this

No just for her bio dc why would she pay half for my dc

I feel like the multi millionaire husband of ex is quite a big drip feed!

All the more reason to each pay for own holidays - there's no need to sub each other.

Also why do you all need bigger and better holidays? I think this is all leading to a competition to see who can have the most expensive holiday with the other one's money!

Agree, if her DH is a multimillionaire then there was absolutely no legitimate reason your DH would need to pay for the full cost of his DC last year?

Why didn't your DH pay for his usual 50% contribution and if she was short on money (can't see how?) her DH could pay the other 50% and she pay him back.

What were they buying that they were short on cash...a country???

So had your DH and his ex contributed towards each others holidays with the kids in previous years, or only last year?

Yes it's happened many times

Last year ex :Dubai
2015:dh Italy
2014:ex California
2013: dh Portugal
2012: ex south of France
2011:dh canaries

We paid half for all these holidays with her and never asked her for anything for ours until we paid whole holiday last year.

They keep finances separate and they brought a new house and had another baby in the January of last year.

Maybe you should just all pay for your own extravagant holidays and no involve each other?

Why didn't your DH just say no I can't afford it I'm taking them to Florida next year?

And agree multimillionaire DH is a pretty big drip feed.

No child ever died from not going to Dubai on holiday.

Because dh wanted them to go on holiday. We only went to Lake District last year but didn't book for them cause it was mums turn and dh wanted them to have a holiday.

my first one ever on MN!!!

No child ever died from not going to Dubai on holiday

lol

The multimillionaire he's not super rich but enough to afford half a thousand for a holiday but they keep finances separate.

He's a multi millionaire but he's not super rich

Eh?