Ward visitor snoring all night

[MrsNuckyThompson]

Am staying on post-natal ward after a section and also DD has a little jaundice. Just done my second night. There are three other beds and the occupants of one are a couple with what I'd guess is their first DC. Pretty sure she's also had a section.

I'm about to kill the husband. He snored loudly through most of last night and is still going. He did the same the night before. If a patient was snoring I'd just sort of put that down to my bad luck. But at this point I feel he IBU in putting all the people on the ward who are in actual need of rest and recuperation through that ridiculous level of noise.

What irked me even more was that their baby was really upset and cried a lot in the night and his wife his having trouble feeding. But instead of getting up to help or do anything he just snored through the whole thing - so why is he even here?? Not like he's stayed the night to support her!!

AIBU to think he deserves to be permanently excluded from nights on the ward??

Blimey! This thread has been an education! I had no idea that the dads are now allowed to stay overnight on postnatal wards.

What a contrast to when my DCs were born, in the early 80s! Visiting was strictly limited to 2 sessions a day, 2 till 4 and 6 till 8pm. The mothers were expected to rest in the meantime.

At night, all the babies were taken away to the nursery and 'lights out' was at 10.00pm. No talking was allowed on the ward between 10.00pm and 6.00am. The nursery was staffed by nursery nurses. When a breastfed baby woke up and cried, one of the nurses would creep into the ward and gently wake the mother, who would don dressing gown and slippers and go to the nursery to feed and change her baby, returning quietly to the ward when done.

Some of the bottle fed babies were fed overnight by the nurses, so the mothers could sleep.

The default hospital stay for a first time mother was 10 days, although many of us were allowed out before the 10 days had elapsed.

My only stay on a postnatal ward was in 1988 (for 5 days). Visiting was restricted to 2 hours in the afternoon and 2 in the evening. Rounds and examinations were carried out in the mornings, therefore ensuring as much privacy as possible. Staff were available to help with the babies, and even took them for an hour or so if they wouldn't settle. Mothers were allowed to pull the curtains to breastfeed in privacy, and encouraged to take naps during the day.
It wasn't perfect but it seems like heaven compared to what goes on nowadays.

When i had ELCS with DS i had a private room and DH could have stayed, but i felt it was more important for him to go home and get a rest - he was exhausted and was going to need to look after us all after i was discharged, good for someone to have some sleep!

I was incredibly lucky to have a private room, i felt really stressed about strangers being around DS in the first few hours and I'd never have slept on a ward.