to think MIL could have been a bit happier about baby news?

[LondonMum79]

Told MIL today that baby no.3 is on the way. She made a face like thunder, and said "Oh ***. Well, it's your own business." And then she completely changed the subject.
It has left me feeling really upset but DH thinks I should just suck it up.

My DM greeted the news of DD1 (three years after we married, eight years into our relationship, hardly unexpected) with an "Oh." Silence while she looked around as though we were going to say just kidding. "Oh. Well." She managed to pretend to be delighted about DD2, probably only because my sister was there.

Congratulations OP!

My MIL said something scornful to SIL (her own DD) when she announced she was pg with DN I was genuinely so happy for her (I know how much she wanted another DC) but MIL's remark and face like a slapped arse really put a dampener on it. Some people just can't be happy about anything - their loss.

My third was a breeze - til she hit the terrible twos but she's still the cutest thing and has everyone wrapped around her little finger

Congratulations LondonMum79

That's a bit rubbish! My mil when asked about the birth of her first grandchild said "I'm not excited, I'm pleased for them but I'm not excited" cheers for that love! She also would t buy anything for the baby til he was born in case he died!

DS1 was 19.5 when I had DS2 at 40..9th pg, lots of problems etc

My DM..... "Oh er....you are having all the tests aren't you ?"

Oh I forgot the best bit! After the birth of DD2, whenever anyone asked DM what we'ld called DD2 she'ld say "oh I don't know yet". She did know. Nice.

She won't want to be the 1st to be told about their arrival or 1st to hold new baby then will she???!! God some people are just mean. Congratulations, new life is a wonderful gift. I have 3 grandchildren and can't wait for my other 2 DDs to start they've been told I expect at least 9................

She won't want to be the 1st to be told about their arrival or 1st to hold new baby then will she???!!

Exactly! Although DM backtracked on all the disinterest in DD2, it hurt at the time, so now it's only natural that she's not one of the people I call in the first instance if there's something happening in our family that I"m excited about.

And that pisses her off. But it doesn't feel nice when someone pisses on your parade, and I don't trust her to say nice things if I call with good news now, so….

I'm so sorry. I have a mother who refuses to be excited for any good news I have - she hung up on me when I got engaged to my long term, lovely, successful boyfriend - some people are just like that. It must be a miserable existence.

YANBU I'd be gutted. Congratulations, make sure you spend plenty of time with people who are really excited for you.

Well with any luck then she won't be beating a path to the door when you're in labour or just home with a newborn...

Is your husband not upset at all?

Congrats, btw!

My mothers response when I told her I was expecting ds was no you're not, I don't believe you, really? And you were always so sensible5 years with Dh and engaged at the time! (And SHE got pregnant in her late forties 16 years after having her "last" baby) guess the lack of sense runs in my family! She's mad about him though

Congratulations! Ignore her. Rude.
Ooh I love babies, slightly jealous!

It could be worse. She could gift you a lovely moses basket like one of the other posters this evening.

One of my grandmothers managed 'oh not another December birthday' when we told her about DD - there are several in the family. By the time she came along, we certainly weren't being fussy as to which month (though my grandmother didn't know that).

One colleague, on telling her mum she was expecting no. 4, was asked if she (the mother) should have a word with her husband. They were all planned....

Everybody was like that when I told them about dc 3! She is now 2 and everyone is besotted with her.

She won't want to be the 1st to be told about their arrival or 1st to hold new baby then will she???!!

Mind you some people on here don't want their mil's to see their baby for at least 6 weeks after its born.

Best response I got from DM was 'haven't you heard of contraception'

Some people just can't say congrats!

Thankfully you have us for that. Congratulations to you all

When we told MiL that I was pregnant with DD1 she told DH I'd trapped him. We'd been married for 10 years !!

When - after years of trying and failing to conceive, having a million and one tests, being diagnosed with unexplained infertility and then two rounds of IVF, we finally got pregnant (none of these issues were mentioned to anyone in the family), we happily told the in-laws we were expecting a baby and the MIL replied with a sullen expression and simply said "Took you long enough". Well fuck you and the horse you rode into town on.

I can guarantee if I got pregnant with no3, my mother would say something like. Oh FFS how stupid of you.

I don't think we had gushing over no1 or no2! (no2 was definitely a ' oh god, that was clearly a mistake')

She does love her gc's but thinks 2 is definitely more than enough!

Me: I'm expecting a second child.
DM (who is lovely and I'm very close to) : How did it happen? Was it an accident?

No idea why she thought it wasn't planned and very much wanted.

oh and I think it's FABULOUS NEWS!!! Massive congrats!!! Well done you!

We told PIL (we weren't married at the time) MIL burst into tears-not of joy & FIL just said oh for fucks sake & stormed off!!

Congratulations

Utterly awful and what a bitch I am so sorry my dear .
If she had experienced infertility and two miscarriages (like moi)then she would be thinking differently l am sure !
My mil however knew I had these problems and was still horrible to us when we announced our much wanted dd2 pregnancy 8 months after the birth of dd1 , she was furious and said not to go to her for childcare , consequently she didnt have the dds together until she asked . It took her 3 years .

congratulations btw !