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He forgot

157 replies

user1485471386 · 25/02/2017 17:09

So, me and my DP have been having some difficulties in the bedroom recently, however he's now been put on medication and things are going great BlushGrin
So, it was his birthday this week and today I took him to one of his favourite places, payed for VIP treatment etc. Cost me my weeks wages nearly but never mind! Well on the way there we decided (thus being my suggestion by the way) that on our return we would stop by at the local fancy dress shop and pick up some costumes for tonight ;).
Cutting long story short, DP loved his day out and was beaming from ear to ear at the end. So anyway afterwards we get into the car and begin driving home (me feeling all excited about costumes) when DP says to me, "great day babe are we ready to go home?" to which I replied "Oh, isn't there anywhere else we need to go?" the answer, "No, don't think so," and drove us all the way home.
So now I feel really annoyed. I gave my wages and my time for him today doing something I hated just to please him. I didn't want to "remind" him of the shop because I thought if it was important to him he would have remembered, why should I have to keep telling him. I suggested it and he knew how excited I was . Now I feel down and a bit cheated. Aibu? Would you have felt the same?

OP posts:
melj1213 · 25/02/2017 17:48

DP says to me, "great day babe are we ready to go home?" to which I replied "Oh, isn't there anywhere else we need to go?" the answer, "No, don't think so," and drove us all the way home.

Fixed it for you:

DP: "great day babe are we ready to go home?"
OP: Weren't we going to stop off first?
DP: "No, don't think so"
OP: What about the fancy dress place?
DP: Oh! How could I forget that! Yes, we'll make a stop off!!

MiddleClassProblem · 25/02/2017 17:48

You say the money doesn't matter but you kept bringing it up as if he owed you for treating him on his birthday! Poor sod.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 25/02/2017 17:49

Did you have great sex?

randomer · 25/02/2017 17:50

hilarious....like doctor and nurse that sort of thing?

Miserylovescompany2 · 25/02/2017 17:51

I think you built it up. Was it your fantasy/idea? Maybe he just didn't fancy it or didn't realise how into it you were? Hence forgetting...

I would gently suggest to him that you both have a poke around the Internet, decide what floats your boat and do the fancy dress shopping from the comfort of your home. It kind of takes the pressure/awkwardness out of selecting more adventurous outfits/accessories.

Communication is a two way street. Nobody is a mind reader...

randomer · 25/02/2017 17:52

it all blew out of proportion.*

danTDM · 25/02/2017 17:53

If my DP suggested this, I would also 'forget'
Agree, it's grim.

Maybe you could rustle up something at home?

KateDaniels2 · 25/02/2017 17:54

How can people be bothered with all this game playing?

user1485471386 · 25/02/2017 17:55

Thank you for the ones that have been helpful. Gonna switch off now. Lesson learnt ;) have fun peoples :)

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Whocares2017 · 25/02/2017 17:55

I don't think he forgot you were going to dress up as a maid and that's why you are upset. He pretended to forget.

randomer · 25/02/2017 17:56

get some tin foil and a few mouldy augergines. Maybe you could incorparate your pets.

MiddleClassProblem · 25/02/2017 17:56

Playing games on their birthday too. "Happy birthday! How's about a test? Btw I've spent a lot of money on you, you know"

Sprink · 25/02/2017 17:57

Please tell me people don't hire costumes from a fancy dress shop and have sex in them.

Becuse no one ever went to a fancy dress party and ended up pulling then shagging (in costume)? Hmm

olderthanyouthink · 25/02/2017 17:57

... I am never hiring a fancy dress costume...

(all that winnie the pooh wears is a crop t-shirt... could be sexy, i guess)

MiddleClassProblem · 25/02/2017 17:58

all that winnie the pooh wears is a crop t-shirt... could be sexy, i guess

He's basically the bear Beyoncé

Whocares2017 · 25/02/2017 17:59

There's no way the costumes get washed after each wear. They would fall apart for a start.

CosyNook · 25/02/2017 18:02

Shrek and Winne......I'v gone off me tea now.

randomer · 25/02/2017 18:03

bare Beyonce

Emmageddon · 25/02/2017 18:05

Surely you can make a maid outfit out of something you already have? What was he going to be? Your lord and master? Or a fellow servant like a stable boy?

I've thought about this a bit too much

WannaBe · 25/02/2017 18:06

Before I posted on this thread it had 69 posts. So the thread title at the top reads: "he forgot 69." Grin pgrin[ Grin.

randomer · 25/02/2017 18:08

yes just fold over the top of your school skirt and he could roll around in some mud.....you're good to go

SpongebobRoundPants · 25/02/2017 18:14

your welcome.

Pancakeflipper · 25/02/2017 18:16

Intrigued - walked past the fancy dress shop in our town today and its full of Donald Trumps and Pikkachus.

atheistmantis · 25/02/2017 18:19

He didn't forget, he just wasn't in the mood?

Valentine2 · 25/02/2017 18:24

I wouldn't mind it. In fact, considering DH's personality, he would much rather go straight to the spontaneity of it all. And I get that. I am the same after I have had a great day. In my mind, you spice things up when you are more in a "planned it all" state of mind or something. (That's lots of fun in itself)
I am sorry but it feels a little bit like you have some kind of a grudge as you spent that money. Is there some back story here?

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