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AIBU?

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AIBU or is my boyfriend just a massive knob

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 13:23

I was suppose to see my boyfriend on valentines day it was our first one together and he ruined it by cancelling on me said he has no money and apparently he forgot to tell me who forgets that they've got no money all he's got me for valentines day is just a card nothing else and I've bought him a present. I was suppose to be going to his today but his mum said I couldn't go down and he has refused to come to mine because he said he would be too tired after work (he's a cleaner and works from 6am to 10am) he is coming down at the weekend because he gets money today and am still only getting a card for valentines day nothing else no chocolates no flowers nothing really feel like just cancelling the weekend and flogging him and his present on eBay. AIBU and ungrateful or is he just a massive tit that I can do without this isn't the first time he's cancelled a date but he normally says he will come down a different day to make up for it.

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Kinraddie · 16/02/2017 13:25

Are you 13?

Scrumptiousbears · 16/02/2017 13:26

How old are you? He sounds like he is 12.

Sounds like hard work to be honest. Life is too short to date men who are hard work. Trust me I know. I wasted a lot of my life on men who were knobs.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 16/02/2017 13:27

The apron strings need cutting before you can say you are in a relationship with him!!

Would give him a miss tbh!!

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 13:29

No am 27 and the tit head is 34 and for some reason his mum won't allow anyone to stay in the house and for some reason he doesn't think he should come here to see me which would've been nice to see him after he cancelled on Tuesday and when he last spent the weekend at mine he asked if I would be happy about him going home early apparently he needed his sleep before work what 2 days before your back in work he said it was just a joke. Feels more like the relationship is just a joke at the minute and a joke I can deal without right now.

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Gottagetmoving · 16/02/2017 13:30

It all sounds a bit immature.

MadHattersWineParty · 16/02/2017 13:31

All sounds very immature tbh.

Frouby · 16/02/2017 13:31

Yeah it's a joke love.

Dump him. Why is he only working 4 hours? Why does he live with his mum? Why did he forget v day?

He is a potential cocklodger. Run as fast as you can. Don't look back.

lottieandmia · 16/02/2017 13:32

The fact he is living with his mum at 34 would be enough to put me off.

Creampastry · 16/02/2017 13:32

He's a loser, walk away

KissesOnKittens · 16/02/2017 13:33

He needed to go home and rest before his next four hour shift? Which was two days away?

Get rid. Let him be mothered with his mother.

ememem84 · 16/02/2017 13:33

Agree. Sounds like you're both still at school.

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 13:34

It doesn't help that at the minute am off work due to stress I've been through a lot this year and it's only February and it just feels like he's making things worse not better I need someone who's going to be there for me not someone who's only half there and wants to cancel dates left right and centre. Maybe am just making a mountain out of a mole Hill because of the way am feeling at the minute.

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MadHattersWineParty · 16/02/2017 13:34

I don't think you'd get much for him on EBay 😂

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs · 16/02/2017 13:34

You don't really need us to tell you that this manchild is a waste of time, do you?

MiddleClassProblem · 16/02/2017 13:34

Riiiiight

MiddleClassProblem · 16/02/2017 13:35

How far away does he live? Either way bin him and di your half term homework-

lottieandmia · 16/02/2017 13:35

If he was 18 I might be able to understand. But he's a 34 year old cleaner who only works 4 hours a day. Sorry but unless he has a disability he sounds really lazy.

This is as good as he is going to get - raise your standards and don't settle.

Ashlee2005 · 16/02/2017 13:35

It doesn't sound like he's that into the relationship if he goes home early and cancels on you!?

Mulberry72 · 16/02/2017 13:36

Sounds very juvenile to me! And his Mum telling him that you're not allowed to go round is a massive red flag to me! Run, as fast as you can!

1stTimeMama · 16/02/2017 13:36

34 and at home would be enough for me to say you're better off without him, but with other things too, I'd be reconsidering this 'relationship'.

lottieandmia · 16/02/2017 13:36

Doesn't sound like he's 'into' anything at all, full stop!

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 13:39

He only lives an hour and half away and he still likes to go out to town on a Saturday night to get pissed. I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because he's been single for 2 years but my patience is fast running out with him and I just don't have the energy right now to be putting up with his shit when I have my own to try and deal with.

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lottieandmia · 16/02/2017 13:41

So you think it's your job to give him a chance because he's been single for 2 years?

Move on - don't waste your life

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 13:42

Madhatterswineparty Haha pmsl I would struggle to make 1p on eBay for him he's not exactly the catch of the year.

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lottieandmia · 16/02/2017 13:43

I assume he must have a massive knob as well for you to even consider putting up with this!

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