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AIBU?

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Original poster

AIBU or is my boyfriend just a massive knob

174 replies

Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 13:23

I was suppose to see my boyfriend on valentines day it was our first one together and he ruined it by cancelling on me said he has no money and apparently he forgot to tell me who forgets that they've got no money all he's got me for valentines day is just a card nothing else and I've bought him a present. I was suppose to be going to his today but his mum said I couldn't go down and he has refused to come to mine because he said he would be too tired after work (he's a cleaner and works from 6am to 10am) he is coming down at the weekend because he gets money today and am still only getting a card for valentines day nothing else no chocolates no flowers nothing really feel like just cancelling the weekend and flogging him and his present on eBay. AIBU and ungrateful or is he just a massive tit that I can do without this isn't the first time he's cancelled a date but he normally says he will come down a different day to make up for it.

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ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 16/02/2017 14:07

Ew - are you suggesting he shags his mum?

Of course not!!! Shock. I'm wondering if he actually has a 'proper' girlfriend, and is just using the OP as a bit 'extra', fitting her in when he has a spare moment.

WorraLiberty · 16/02/2017 14:07

You do both sound quite immature, so probably best to part ways.

Having a dig at the size of his genitalia is nasty too.

I'm sure you wouldn't like it if he was telling the internet that you've got a hole like a bucket?

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 14:09

I doubt am his bit on the side he suggested we put it on Facebook but that means jack shit these days. I really hope he's not shagging his mum.

wishingona Haha that was the best description I could come up with. Think I do need to LTB really don't I.

bonnyscotlan thank you hun it did make me feel like he had just pulled the rug out from underneath me and I had planned a really nice evening for us and I ended up spending the day on my own which did upset me a lot. He hasn't made any attempts to make up for it or even apologies and I think he is just hiding behind his mum. Your right I do deserve better than him.

CaoNiMa I thought he was great to begin with but now I just think he's a tit head and I don't deserve to be treated like shit all over again.

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EweAreHere · 16/02/2017 14:11

You are wasting your time.

WizardOfToss · 16/02/2017 14:12

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 14:13

backt0black we had talked about having children and living together but when he spent the whole weekend here he did nothing but laze in bed and asked me to do everything for him which really put me off the idea of ever living with him or having a family with him. I can't stand lazy people who can't even get up to get a drink or change the game in the Xbox because you spent 2 minutes playing a game and then got bored of it.

chrisyoungfuckingrocks for all I know he could have somone else but when I asked him twice he was adamant that there was no one else but that means nothing these days. But living with his mum could be a cover up for living with a girlfriend.

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 14:18

I think your all right I should just get rid of him and concentrate on just me for a bit and remember that I don't deserve to be treated like shit by anyone especially not by the likes of him. Thanks for your advice everyone. Think I need to learn how to see the wood for the trees and stop trying to make any more excuses for him he's never going to change and I can do better am only 27 so there is still time for me to find the right man and settle down.

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BeMorePanda · 16/02/2017 14:19

Dump him quick and count your blessings OP.

BeMorePanda · 16/02/2017 14:19

yep he's not the right man - you know that

nat73 · 16/02/2017 14:22

Release tithead back into the wild ;-)

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 14:25

Bemorepanda yeah your right I do need to dump him and quick because I don't think he is the right man for me.

nat73 Haha pmsl yeah think am going to tbh.

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SockQueen · 16/02/2017 14:25

You appear not to like him at all. Just forget about him.

ZaZathecat · 16/02/2017 14:27

Oh God the more you say about him the more I wonder how you stayed 5 minutes with him! If you've been having bad luck with men, maybe you need to change the way you meet them, and find a different kind of guy.

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 14:27

sockqueen I did to begin with but the way he's been acting this week just makes me not like him so much anymore.

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GoLightlyHollie · 16/02/2017 14:28

Finally get to say it: LTB.
You have a good 10 years before you should even consider settling for a loser.

Happyfeet1972 · 16/02/2017 14:29

nat73 sat on my own in public giggling so much at that comment Grin Farewell tit head

troodiedoo · 16/02/2017 14:29

What do you see in this dingbat? Leave him to his beloved smother and run for the hills.

QforCucumber · 16/02/2017 14:29

Hang on - 'living with his mum could be a cover up for living with a girlfriend'
Does this mean you've never actually been to his house/met the mum who 'hates having people over' ?

theDudesmummy · 16/02/2017 14:29

34 and playing xbox. That would end it for me....

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Peanutandphoenix · 16/02/2017 14:30

ZaZathecat I don't know how I've managed to stay with him for this long. Think I will just find a different way of meeting men the thing is I don't go out so I use online dating but now I think that's just a terrible idea because I just end up with the wrong men. Think I should become a nun and just stay on my own.

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ShootFruit · 16/02/2017 14:31

Run for the hills. I bet you will feel a huge sense of relief once you don't have to waste headspace wondering when this manchild will come and see you. He's been single for 2 years for a reason. Not your problem!

BastardGoDarkly · 16/02/2017 14:31

You sound like you don't even like him?

Not that I'd blame you, he sounds a shit boyfriend.

Of course he won't change, why would he?

Dump ASAP.

TheNaze73 · 16/02/2017 14:32

He sounds like a right catch

WorkAccount · 16/02/2017 14:33

why do you even need to ask?

missmoz · 16/02/2017 14:36

You shouldn't ever be with someone you don't respect, and there doesn't seem to be anything about this guy worth respecting.

Also his Mum sounds a bit weird.

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