Are there some things silly, nasty things that happened where you just can't forgive the other person and/or they just really stick with you?

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My ex-bf from sometime back (we were together for 4 years) once did something which always comes back to me (whenever I see my eye in the mirror with a small scar above it!). We were volunteering supporting a youth pentathlon and my then bf was in charge of the shooting. I had never shot even an air rifle. He was a policeman and trained. He got me to demonstrate what they had to do, and instructed me to push my eye right up to the scope when I pulled the trigger. I obeyed and as he expected the gun (only an air rifle thing to be fair) had a kick back which knocked me right in the eye. He was pissing himself with laughter trying to tell the kids that was a great demonstration of what not to do, whilst the scope had cut part of my eye and I had put my hand to hide the blood and walked away pretending to laugh and burst into tears as soon as out of sight. I was left with a horrid black eye and all he could say was 'well that was bloody stupid wasn't it!' We split up shortly after! It happened over ten years ago but still to this day really sticks with me.

My husbands ex-friend claimed to dislike me so much that he would never come to our wedding.

He was a prick in lots of ways, but for some reason that really stung. How much do you have to dislike someone to dismiss your best friends wedding celebrations?

My DM 'Oh you were such a beautiful child Picard, until you turned 8 and became fat, eurgh'

For all PP. Nobody needs any of those negative people in their lives.

This is incredibly petty considering some of the horrid stories on here but I've never been able to forgive a family member for saying they didn't like the name we'd chosen for our unborn DD. It was the first pregnancy after a miscarriage and we were over the moon. It was just such a shit and unnecessary thing to say and it totally pissed on my chips.

Also, same relative. Long long back story of DH's ex cancelling contact with DSD and sending her to us at extremely short notice when DH and I both work full time. Once I had quite a long conversation about how hard I was going to find it juggling 18 month old DS and working full time, plus having to fly overseas and back in the same day for a meeting, all while DH was abroad on business.

The response? 'Well if DH's ex needs me to have DSD while he's away, tell her she can call me and I'll do it.'

I mean, WTF?

Maybe I'm just really petty but after both those incidents I just can't get past it.

A very good friend who I had known for over five years, and saw roughly a few times a year due to work commitments invited me round a few days before her birthday for a celebration. I bought a gift etc and we had a great evening.
A few days later, her birthday rolls around (on the same day I have a very important morning meeting at work - which I had told her). During a break I check my phone only to see I have been flooded with texts, questioning why I have not yet wished her a happy birthday, and basically telling me never to contact her again as I was clearly not a true friend for failing to do so - despite the fact we had already celebrated it tbh.
I did try and explain the situation again but she was having none of it. Glad I just discovered her petty side looking back on it but the sudden rejection really stung at the time.

on being told I'd come top on a piece of classwork "don't be too intelligent, wornoutboots - you won't get a husband if you act it. Boys don't like clever girls!" from my mother.

I was 8. I didn't care at that age whether or not I ever found one. And I still wouldn't want one who was threatened by me showing that I'm "clever" at 8 year old's school work!

Every time I tried to leave my ex he would try some form of emotional blackmail. The final time I was firm and he turned nasty and said "it's no wonder so many people around you have committed suicide with you in their life". I've never forgotten that and it was 11 years ago, I still think of it on anniversaries of their deaths too. Cocksplat.

Thank you Helena I know you are right, but i still do. Pledge that is awful, what on earth were they thinking?!

Where did Curreihill spring from? I meant completely. Flaming autocorrect!

WouldRather what a horrible man, glad you got rid. Who on earth thinks that's an acceptable thing to say to someone.

@oneflewoverthedodosnest so similar to me. A friend I was supposed to be bridesmaid for changed her mind after I had an abortion. She told all our mutual friends why, but that it had been my decision because I had been too upset to see someone else's life going well. Everyone believed her. I'm no longer friends with any of them!

flipp he was a massive manipulator. Wish I'd realised that sooner!

to all PP. There really are some sick people in the world.

At five months postpartum following a PPH, hospitalisation for sepsis, EBF very hungry baby my weight decreased from my usual 10.5 stone down to 7 stone. At 5'9" I was skeletal, I remember being shocked at my reflection in the mirror. I visited my evil mother who, as I sat down on her sofa, sneeringly told me I had a fat arse and a big fat moon face.

I suspect many of my childhood memories are very similar to Llamas

Once when i was working behind a bar a customer called me over and said 'i dont come here to be served by a morose fat sack of shit, you need to do some work on yourself'
I think i always remember it because i was too shocked to react at all. I just looked at him blankly, walked off and carried on.
I often think of it late at night lol!! and that i was so weak not to tell him to fuck right off!!!

I drunkenly outed myself as bisexual to a group of uni friends by confessing I found one of them attractive. I could have understood awkwardness, but wasn't expecting to be told I was creepy, sick, a psycho, then completely ignored in person whilst being bullied online by not just them but also people I didn't even know that they had told.

Another guy at uni who totally always played the 'nice guy' card to try and sleep with the girls (me included) nastily told me I was 'always miserable and crying'. He only got nasty after I'd refused a one night stand with him - he was usually always preying on me when I was vulnerable and I had pretty severe depression at the time.

Didn't have the best time at uni but I don't keep in contact with anyone from there and have amazing friends now.

Some of these are awful. People are just weird.

Someone I know who is a childminder told me when I was going back to work after DC2 that she felt sorry for my daughter going to nursery two days a week. I have never forgiven her. She's a friend of a friend who I don't see often. She told me more than once. DC2 is now 5 1/2 doesn't seem to have suffered any ill effects. It wasn't even that DC2 was particularly young so not sure what her problem was.

This is minor compared to some of these but it still hurt at the time. When I told a friend of mine that I was having a second boy she said she was so disappointed for me.

Same friend came to visit 2 days after I'd given birth to DS2. She was pregnant and I made a lighthearted comment about my tummy still looking bigger than hers. She said "yes it does".

Another on the mild front but I've just thought about it. SIL2 a week before DH and I got married (25.5 years ago). She had come to England for the wedding (her parents had paid her fare of course). "you do realise my brothers a capitalist and not a nice person?". V glad there are a few oceans between us.

WouldRather yes, I've met a few of those in my time.

I've remembered an awful one from my XP. When I was suffering with severe PND - "You're not ill. You're just putting it on because you can't be bothered to look after DS".

I used to get picked on quite a lot on the school bus, it was mostly manageable and a lot of us fell foul of the "cool kids" that sat at the back but one day one of them shouted at me that I was a "fat black bitch". the whole bus went quiet and everyone knew it was too far and I was so humiliated. Those three words did a lot of damage, far more than anything cruel they'd said before and I actually felt really self conscious and upset at being mixed race for a long time afterwards. It still upsets me.

Oh Butt, the horrors of the school bus. I've had many a humiliating moment on the bus. I feel quite sick thinking about it

It was horrendous. I remember that feeling of dread every single day when I knew I had to get on after school. It's a horrible mix of rambunctious, basically unsupervised kids and a fed up bus driver. All sorts ends up going in.

In the end me and my sister ended up walking to and from school. Took half an hour each way and it was uphill and I had asthma but the alternative was too horrific.

I hated school

thatorchidmoment That is awful. I am a Christian and I see nothing wrong in wearing bright or pretty clothes, as long as your motive isn't to show off wealth or immodesty, which I am sure in your case, it isn't! Also reading fiction. As long as it is clean of profanity or blasphemy etc I love to read novels. I am sorry you had that experience. Some of our fellow Christians can be a bit unenlightened and judgy, I am afraid. I have met a few like that, sadly.

TRIGGER WARNING for this one. I have not told many people this but when I was a very small child, I apparently (I can't remember this) blurted out a comment about a male family member which was taken the wrong way by a teacher at school who called SS. I wasn't lying on purpose, it was a misunderstanding. I ended up having to be interviewed by a police doctor (to this day even smear tests are a horrible experience for me and painful). The thing they thought this man had done never happened. He wasn't a paedo. I was only 5. And later on as an older child I was sexually assaulted for real by a boy I knew, and later as a teenager by a grown man and I wondered whether I had wished it on myself by my "lie" when I was younger . Strangely enough for a year after this incident with the police I have no memory of the year after that examination happened. I remember the interview (in bits) but nothing for a long time after. So I think about it now but not at the time. The relative never forgave me. I did ruin the poor chap's life, so I can't blame him. I guess I should have shown more remorse at the time but I didn't know the enormity of what I had done. I really thought what I was saying was the truth as I saw it

Oh Pretty, please stop blaming yourself. You were only little and had no idea what would happen. And for the adults to still hold it against you says more about them than it does you. Have a virtual hug and some

RosyfingeredDawn,
that is awful. I am sorry you went through that. I feel tears in my eyes from reading that. Remember that some people are just nasty, insecure and miserable and they like to make people feel small and the nasty things they say indicate a lot more about them than you .