Are there some things silly, nasty things that happened where you just can't forgive the other person and/or they just really stick with you?

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My ex-bf from sometime back (we were together for 4 years) once did something which always comes back to me (whenever I see my eye in the mirror with a small scar above it!). We were volunteering supporting a youth pentathlon and my then bf was in charge of the shooting. I had never shot even an air rifle. He was a policeman and trained. He got me to demonstrate what they had to do, and instructed me to push my eye right up to the scope when I pulled the trigger. I obeyed and as he expected the gun (only an air rifle thing to be fair) had a kick back which knocked me right in the eye. He was pissing himself with laughter trying to tell the kids that was a great demonstration of what not to do, whilst the scope had cut part of my eye and I had put my hand to hide the blood and walked away pretending to laugh and burst into tears as soon as out of sight. I was left with a horrid black eye and all he could say was 'well that was bloody stupid wasn't it!' We split up shortly after! It happened over ten years ago but still to this day really sticks with me.

Misskitty - that is awful!

If she considers that an "easy way" to get money, I suggest she steps in front of a bus and sues the company for her injuries!

What an ignorant tw*@t*!

For background, our lads are adopted and DS2 is on the Autistic spectrum, but has an excellent life other than a few minor issues and he's a great kid. If you saw him in the street, you wouldn't think anything was wrong with him, but he does struggle with some things people find easy and vice versa, and he has his own interests which are weird to some.

Anyway, my (now ex-) friend said "Oh I don't know how you manage, I'd have sent him back to where he came from by now!"

I don't know what the hell she was thinking saying that but I wasn't able to look at her the same way, so eventually went NC with her.

Cheese - What a gang of sh!ts. Anything could have happened to you - it was a disgusting thing to do.

Oh these are so horrible - Cheese I can't believe they let you walk home alone.

The worst thing that happened me was after I got accidentally pregnant as a student and confided in my best friend at uni what had happened and that I was going to have an abortion.

It turned out that she was staunchly anti-abortion and she told everyone I was pregnant and then started a campaign amongst her Christian friends to convince me not to have an abortion. I'm not sure what was worse - the crusades beforehand, or the fact I was repeatedly informed I was a child killer afterwards.

Unsurprisingly we didn't keep in touch.

After ourmum died, my sister gave an interview to a local rag about mum, circumstances of her death etc. A colleague mentioned it the day the article was published and I had to pretend I already knew and had given the article my blessing. I hadn't. Neither had the rest of the family. When confronted my sister said that she had 'forgot' to tell us. Mum was quite private and I think she would have been very displeased, it felt so disrespectful to her and the rest of our family. It still upsets me now 2 years later. My sister has never apologised. We don't talk about it now but I'll forgive her. Finding out from my colleague was like being punched in the stomach and having to pretend to be ok whilst wanting to throw up.

That's horrible One

That should say never forgive her. I can't. She violated our Mum's privacy so publicly

At primary school I was not a great speller. One week I tried really, really hard and managed to get 10/10 in the weekly test. My class teacher - also the head - pulled me up in front of the class for a round of applause and announced "MrsSnape will be signing autographs after school, if she can remember how to spell her name."

In 2011 I had a MMC, I had confided in a good friend who I thought would understand as she had had a two miscarriages before me. A week or two afterwards, she sent me a photo message of her positive pregnancy test. I was in town when I got the text and it knocked me for six. I spoke to her about it afterwards and she said "it's been a week, I thought you were OK with it by now?"

Oh god I'm sat ill in bed reading these and crying absolute buckets There are some fucking evil people out there , I hope they get/got their comeuppance.

At school I really liked a boy, we were all 14/15. He left a note for me and it said he had heard I really liked him and he liked me too and to meet him. I was beyond excited. Told my "friend" M and she was so pleased for me. Said go for it! When I went to meet him, he was there with a few of his friends and some of people I thought were my friends. I realized it was a set up and was horrified. My "friend" M and said boy kissed right in front of me and he looked at me laughing and said as if I'd fancy an ugly spotty bitch like you ,M then walked up to me and she slapped me round the face and those people just laughed ,I was devastated. Makes me cringe even after all these years.

I'm so sorry for all the awful things people have had said and done to them.

A close friend used to surreptitously ebay every bloody gift I ever bought her and even though the gifts were hers to do with as she saw fit it just grates on me to this day. She is very well off but tight as a duck's arse. I did however take some pleasure in switching from good quality thoughful gifts to large impractical ones because I wanted to see how much luck she'd have trying to shift e.g. a three foot high concrete monkey garden statue. I think it was a monkey anyway.

Talith that's brilliant

Not sure if this qualifies but it was on my mind today. My grandmother told me my father would have bothered with me if I had been a boy.

I was an unlovely young teenager - thick glasses, greasy hair, flat chest, spots, bright enough to be thought a swot too.

A small group made my life absolutely miserable with teasing about my small bust, calling me Ugly orTeacher's Pet & eventually set me up for a dance at a party with a boy I liked (a bit like Cake above ) & then took the piss for weeks after telling me would never go out with me. Just awful.

Bit trivial compared to most...
The day after I'd given birth to my first baby my childless best friend came round to visit. She looked at me and said "oh your bellys still quite big isn't it..."

Is this the thread I can "down load" on? I do hope so, because I've been hugging this "wrong" for far too many years. Here goes.

A couple of years before I retired, I was heading up a high profile project. My second in command had previously had some stress related issues. One day, I popped into the office to print off some papers for a meeting that morning. I had a brief (though to me, unremarkable conversation) with second in command. I went to the meeting expecting, and telling me team I would, return about 4:00.

During lunch at the meeting, Sis phoned to say her dear MIL had died, and would it be possible for me and Daughter to visiti our Mum (who was in hospital) that evening instead of her. If course I said yes and dashed off after the meeting.

Next day my boss pulled me to one side and said that when she returned to the office, second in command was in tears and wanted to leave the ream immediately. Boss said that although second in commands reasons were to do with me, boss was not at liberty to divulge what they were though those reasons "said a lot more about second in command, than they did about me". Of course I released second in command immediately.

To this day, I have no idea what I did or said that caused this reaction, second in command would never allow anyone to tell me.

Now I'm going to let it go, and I don't care if this post identifies me

After yet another mc no word at all from either sibling. Just like it never happened.
I don't expect anything now and keep my distance
My mums sister about 3 hours after my dad dropped dead In front of me and I failed doing cpr
"You've just got to get over it"
I don't have anything to do with her anymore
I really think that in a way they are doing us a favour by showing us their true selves
I was bullied at school too, and had boyfriends who cheated but somehow when its family it seems crueller
Some on here are just batshit

You say it's trivial but I think it's a common theme here that some nasty person catches you at a vulnerable time and tries to strike you down. It's bullying. The fact that we're all here years later worrying about it shows the 'sticks and stones' thing just isn't true. Anyway, my NY resolution is to get counselling and try and get over it. They shouldn't win.

Another one that's relatively unimportant, but I'll likely never forget:

I had handed in my notice at the school I worked at because I was suffering terribly with stress - workload, pressure over results and inspections, the usual. Despite recommendations from family to go off sick, I wanted to work out my notice. The stress had made me physically unwell, and it was tough, but I did my best.

On my penultimate day at work, one of my colleagues, who knew what was going on and why I was leaving, started shouting at me about paperwork - in front of a class of children. They also threw said paperwork at me. The worst part was that earlier in the year we got on really well and I had helped them out with a few things they were struggling with.

I managed to hold it together until I had the opportunity to leave the classroom. Then I ended up in a proper state and the (lovely) deputy head told me to go home. I know it was a minor thing but it was just so unnecessary and felt so much like being kicked while I was down - I wasn't even able to make my very last days there enjoyable. I've seen this ex-colleague a few times since then, but have avoided speaking to them.

Cancelly I could tell a very similar story

Happyflappy- yep an absolute git, but I think he's got his just desserts. It took me a long time to recover from it (I loved him more than I thought possible!)
But he seems as though he has really deep regrets.
we last spoke about six months ago, and he told me that he was certain that he would never get married as the only woman he ever would have married was taken. If what he said was how he really felt. I don't know how hard it would be to live with that kind of baggage.

He'd always believed that we would make it back together.

The tattoo is still there, I wanted it covered, but due to the place it would have to be quite big which wouldn't suit me. I started laser removal but I was too much of a wimp to have more than one session. I do cover it with a small plaster if I ever show the skin where it is.

You say it's trivial but I think it's a common theme here that some nasty person catches you at a vulnerable time and tries to strike you down

So true derxa. The thing that always bothered me so much about my stepmum is that she was so nice to us before this - I mean genuinely lovely. Kind, funny, generous..but once we were 'under the thumb' so to speak the gloves were well and truly off. For years I wondered what we had done to make her turn on us like this. Now I think that must be her real self, and the 'nice' version was put on for show.

Cancelly I had similar . Collapsing under a lorry load of stress at work for similar reasons to you. One colleague I had always liked and got on with stuck the boot in in a particularly nasty fashion. You don't forget that sort of thing.

When my son was a week old my ex came to see us. He told me I'm too pretty for my own good but being on my own with a baby should bring me down to earth and id have to lower my standards from now on, he has had nothing to do with us since my sons been 3 months old thank god.

I was 9 when this started and is probably when my self-esteem came crashing down. I was living in Yorkshire and at this particular school, I was really popular - was always picked to do readings in assembly, had lots of friends. A 15 year old boy joined the school and now looking back, he was probably depressed and took it out on me for some reason but kept telling me that I was ugly. We used to go home on the same bus and he kept calling me UG.

Even now, I feel like I'm plain and unattractive and cannot bear to look in the mirror. . I mean who the fuck says things to a 9 year old girl?

My mum got angry when I was small because I didn't brush my teeth well enough so she dragged me into the bathroom and brushed my teeth with vim which was a liquid bathroom cleaner. I was terrified that I was going to be poisoned. I can remember the taste and the fear and the feeling of utter misery. Its been 40 years and over the years I've never forgotten it. She's done similar stuff all my life. I'm so used to her craziness its become normal.