To get married without my children present?

[TinyRick]

I don't want a big ceremony. I just want to bish bosh get married with my df (not my dc's father).

My Dc are 11 and 5. They are happy that we are engaged.

But will they resent us if they are not part of the ceremony. We will have a gathering/party after. We just want the least fuss. But am I doing the wrong thing by essentially excluding them from the main deal?

Anyone else got married without the dc's involved? Or should it be a done thing?

we did afternoon off work and 2 witnesses. Kids were 3, 7 and 9. They didn't go. 11 years later they have never mentioned why weren't they there. We have no photo either.

My dm did this when I was about 12 I really don't agree with how she went about it- I can understand her reasons but I wouldn't have gone about it like she did

OP I should have added. 5 months later we had a party in garden for kids and 10 close relatives- with a bouncy castle which they much preferred to a registry office 5 minute 'event'.

DS1 and DS2 are only at ours because they're the ringbearers. Otherwise we'd have never got them to come.

We're not having any other kids there though. We've been together 25 years - I'm not letting some crying kids ruin the day I've been waiting for for so long!