Hardly anyone is coming only hen do

[peroxidebrown]

I'm so upset. Have been organising my hen do for a while - well bridesmaid is doing the bulk but if invited people, not loads maybe a dozen close friends. Two bridesmaids have pulled out even though I went to theirs which were more extravagant saying they can't afford it. It's one night in the UK. Another friend today has pulled out. It's going to be about six of us in total and I now feel embarrassed about the whole thing.

If you are a bridesmaid then the hen do is part and parcel. I would be pissed off, you choose bridesmaids as people you can really depend on. A friend but non bridesmaid missing my hen do would be a shame but a member of the chosen wedding party, who had agreed to being a bridesmaid I would consider pretty shite. Especially as they were involved in choosing the type of event and date which is fairly low key and reasonable in cost. I would bin them.

GOD ZOMBIE ADVICE.....

OP are you quite young? I would also feel hurt about my friends dropping out and not wanting to spend the night with me. However the concern about how your night will be viewed in social media is really not something that should matter in the slightest. Soon you’ll be married, maybe you’ll have a baby in a few years’ time and you’ll look back in concerns like this and wonder why you ever even gave them head space.

Just don't have a hen night. They aren't compulsory. I dislike noise and clubs and being the centre of attention so instead of a hen night I had a lovely dinner out with my (male) best mate and another couple of meals with 1 or 2 close friends. I didn't have adult bridesmaids either.

Oh FFS zombie! Though, given that my advice is that she will look back in a few years and wonder what all the fuss was about, maybe she will come in here now to confirm if my prediction was right!

@Debbierocket123

Why did you resurrect a zombie thread just to write a ‘woe is me’ post?

I’m sure the OP really needed reminding 4 years later, that her friends let her down.

You are not over-reacting. I would tell the two that pulled out exactly why you are so upset. If they don't apologise profusely and change their minds, then you're in a toxic friendship and you are better off out of it. Believe me, if they'll let you down like this once, they will do it again.

Oops, didn't see it's a zombie thread. Oh well, hope you got it sorted.

And this is why old threads should be locked