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Original poster

To think DD is not entirely to blame for this?

161 replies

luckylucky24 · 02/01/2017 10:19

I got up with DD 14 months this morning and whilst sat on my knee she knocked over an almost full cup of coffee left there by DH the day before, (definitely was him as noone else drinks it.) It went over DH's mac which is looking broken. We won't be able to afford to replace it anytime soon.
He is understandably devastated and is blaming the baby. Not himself at all for the two cold cups of coffee left around.
AIBU to say he is partly to blame for leaving full cups around?

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cherrycrumblecustard · 02/01/2017 10:20

He is unreasonable.

But I don't think you can really blame anyone. One of those things.

Home insurance an option?

KinkyAfro · 02/01/2017 10:20

He's fully to blame ffs, can't believe either of you would apportion ANY blame on your 14 month old!

macaronip1e · 02/01/2017 10:21

I don't think you can blame a 14mo for knocking something over. You could blame him for leaving the mug there, but I don't really see how blaming helps. It's just an accident - a very annoying accident.

Whosthemummynow · 02/01/2017 10:21

I never understand why people have these expensive gadgets and DON'T INSURE THEM!!

It's no one's fault. But I can see why he's upset

KinkyAfro · 02/01/2017 10:22

I too see why he's upset but it was his fault, no one elses

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luckylucky24 · 02/01/2017 10:22

I wouldn't kinky. I would say he is partly to blame but also shit happens, its one of those things. DD is quite destructive by nature and grabs, knocks, and throws most stuff she can get to.

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GeillisTheWitch · 02/01/2017 10:23

Maybe it will teach him to stop being such a lazy manchild and tidy up after himself. It's not hard to put a mug in the dishwasher.

TheWitTank · 02/01/2017 10:23

Baby is 14 months. I actually wouldn't even blame an adult for accidentally knocking over a cup left in a stupid place for days.

KinkyAfro · 02/01/2017 10:23

Because she's a baby, he is a grown man who should be able to clear up after himself. If he's blaming the baby he needs to have a strong word with himself

Original poster
luckylucky24 · 02/01/2017 10:24

Apparently it isn't covered for accidental damage.

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toptoe · 02/01/2017 10:24

The adult who knows a coffee cup can be spilt on the nearby laptop.

Or the baby who has no idea that the coffee can be spilt or what it would do to the laptop or even what a laptop is.

And how does one go about 'blaming a baby'? Is he being unkind to the baby?

SillyMoomin · 02/01/2017 10:24

I'd say accident but can be negated next time by putting cups in the sink / dishwasher after you've finished them

And claim on your contents insurance. A mac would be covered- mine is registered as an individual item even, not just under the lump sum of goods, as its expensive

Wibblywobblyfoo · 02/01/2017 10:25

Where was the mac and the cup?

On the floor...his fault totally

ineedamoreadultieradult · 02/01/2017 10:25

Why are you all deciding who is to blame. In this situation you are all members of the same small family unit. Are you going to sue the baby or your husband for the cost to replace? If not then it doesn't matter.

2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:25

How do you blame a baby? What does that look like? Please describe.

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luckylucky24 · 02/01/2017 10:26

He isn't being unkind exactly. He is saying it is her fault and barely talking to anyone.

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Mouse510 · 02/01/2017 10:26

We have friends that leave half drunk cups and glasses lying about and then get upset when their dog or toddler drink them/spill them and break said mug/glass. (I gifted them set of wine and champagne glasses a couple of years ago, only 1 glass remains out of 8 originally!)

They are the adults - don't leave things lying about!

Same applies to your DH. It's his fault for not tidying up after himself.

As pp said can you claim on contents insurance?

TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder · 02/01/2017 10:26

He's blaming the baby? What does he want to do, ground her until she learns her lesson? Hmm

It's 100% his own fault. Slobby teenagers leave old drinks lying around everywhere, not responsible grown ups.

DonaldStott · 02/01/2017 10:27

What an arse, blaming a baby is pathetic.It's not like she is sat there thinking oh bugger, there goes dads mac. Silly me.

2017ReasonsToMoan · 02/01/2017 10:27

He is saying it's her fault.

He is showing he is a dick.

DonaldStott · 02/01/2017 10:27

*its NOT like she is sat there

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 02/01/2017 10:28

I couldnt see what the fuss was about

I read 'mac' as mackintosh

I am old and now sad Sad Blush

DoublyTroubly · 02/01/2017 10:28

To be honest, I would say that he is mostly to blame but you're partly to blame too. Did you not notice that the mug was in reach and move it out of DD way? What if it had been a hot coffee and she had spilled some on herself

AyeAmarok · 02/01/2017 10:28

Well I'd agree its mostly his fault for leaving cups around. Which housekeeping, vagina owning, fairy was he expecting to have tidied it up?

And partly yours as she was on your knee.

Not DD's fault at all.

TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder · 02/01/2017 10:28

"He is saying it is her fault and barely talking to anyone."

So he sulks like a teenager too. He needs to grow up.