To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

[Exileinengland1999]

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs

people can wear what they want in their own house.

if your friends clothes bother you, then you should probably look at your life closer as sounds like you have issues.

I invite guests round and stay in my onesie

It's my house, I'm comfortable, I'm not flashing any body parts so what's the problem?

No one has complained yet

Yea but they weren't in clothes- they were in pjs?

It wouldn't bother me at all. You were only there two hours as well so not like you were there for a dinner party or suchlike

Pjs are clothes. I'm in my pj's 90% of the time at home.

I hate people that look down on this. We should be free to wear what we want, espically in my own home.

We had a PJs at work day once and it was FAB!

Depends on how close friends they are really.

To be honest if it was an invite I would have got dressed, or at least gone up a level on pjs - possibly reaching the dizzy heights of tracksuit bottoms and zip up fleece. For Christmas drinks I'd have got dressed.

If it was someone we know well enough to just pop round, I'd stay in my pjs for an impromptu visit.

I agree with you Op, maybe I'm old fashioned but I would get the impression that they hadn't made the effort to get dressed which is a bit rude. I think I would have joked that I didn't get the message that it was a pyjama party? (polite laugh).

You've made the effort to look presentable so I think it's odd they didn't. Had they not washed that morning? Yuk. It takes a few minutes to throw on some clothes that could be just as comfy as pjs.

I would think it weird too.

What would clothes cover up that jammies don't?

I take my friends as I find them. Onesies, jogging bottoms, whatever.

YANBU - I would always get dressed in daytime clothes for visitors and would be surprised if I found hosts in their pyjamas when arriving as an invited guest. I wouldn't 'look down' on them, I'd just think it strange.

I love wearing pjs, I'm in them now. But I will be getting dressed later when we have people coming round. It just looks lazy. And I am lazy, but still.

And?

It is a bit odd yes. It might be normal to wear pyjamas at home but if you've invited guests then staying in pyjamas is just weird.

I'll always be in pjs in the house when inviting over close friends and family. What's wrong with it?

I'm not looking down on them actually- am just saying it made m feel uncomfortable - it's only the 3rd time I'd met the husband and normally it's on the school run.

I would never be PJ's if I had guests but people can wear what they want in their home. So yabu I would say. My dh is never out of his 'lounge wear', I'm not a fan and I'm dressed 90% of the time even if I'm at home all day.

Now I love my pj's (well more lounge wear, trackies and vests or a hoodie) and I get out of my outdoor clothes as soon as I get in but if I've invited people round then yes I get dressed.

But why? Was it a dirty vest and boxers - or more like a track suit/onesie?

Their house, their choice (within reason)

Seems unusual. Were they obviously pjs or more like loungewear? And were they made up or looked like just out of bed? If you came to mine over the holidays I may be in comfy clothes that could look like pjs but I'd have had a shower and have make up on etc.

I'm with the OP.

I'd take hosts in PJs as a sign they'd forgotten the invitation/didn't really want us there. We'd definitely only stay a very short time.

And PJs at work is a hideous idea (for me). My DC's school does PJs to school on a regular basis and my kids hate it. DS now has specific "for school" PJs and DD refuses to participate.

At least they have sometime on then.

For me I wouldn't care if they were nudists. It is their home and Their little Kingdom where they can be them self. In away it's nice to be in a situation were your friends are so comfortable around you they can truly be their self.

You could take your own PJs next time.

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My MIL wears her pajamas & dressing gown all day & I do look down on her. It is just part of her lazy and hopeless ways. I think it is rude to invite people round & to not bother dressing - I would have asked if they were ill and used that as an excuse to leave. If you are well enough to entertain you are well enough to get dressed.

So do people have Night PJs that they sleep in, then get up, have a shower, and get changed into Day PJs?
Or spend all day in the PJs they slept in.

If it's the latter, that's grim

YANBU. If my host greeted me in their PJs I would think they are ill, make my excuses and leave so they can go back to bed.
What's wrong with wearing actual clothes instead of nightwear?