To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

[Exileinengland1999]

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs

I wouldn't do it with friends in the situation you describe. But on Christmas Day I did shower, do my hair and make up and then put on my Christmas jumper and CLEAN pyjama bottoms! Then some family came round. As I wasn't going out, I just fancied being comfortable for once but maybe that made people uncomfortable....

Lilac

No Horatio, you invite people over you get dressed, unless it's a kids sleepover

No, I don't. You may do that, but I most certainly don't.

A dressing gown is a perfectly reasonable choice for a relaxed brunch. Especially when only close friends and or family members are invited...

As for the shorts and sports bra? Well, that's what I wear when I go to the gym, during training etc... so, that's not how I'd purposefully dress if somebody is coming over, but if we're running late, DD was being fussy or whatever. Yes, it may happen that I'd simply grab the first clean thing. Which would most likely be exercise clothes.

God I feel old reading this thread.

I am quite happy to wander around in PJs all day on my own or in front of my DH - but in front of other people it's rude! Especially if they are invited guests.

It would bother me. I would never sit in night clothes with guests there, unless they were actually staying with me.

But DH would most likely be wearing a button up and trousers. So, maybe that makes up for my apparently slovenly appearance 😂

I went to a friends house for drinks/food int he summer with some other girlfriends. Hostess spent entire evening in her "house pj's" and fluffy dressing gown! I thought is was bizarre. We all sat in the garden sipping wine in nice clothes we had made the effort to wear, and she was sat in her bloody dressing gown! It made me uncomfortable.

I once hosted Sunday lunch in my dressing gown. The guests arrived a bit early (an hour!) and I had to leap out of the bath, throw nighty and gown on to answer the door. I just never got the chance to go upstairs and dress. No one minded, we all had a great time despite my only having met two of them once before. I can promise that if they were uncomfortable at my clothing, they hid it well.

These things are NOT IMPORTANT. What matters is spending time with people.

A dressing gown is a perfectly reasonable choice for a relaxed brunch. Especially when only close friends and or family members are invited...

We'll have to agree to disagree

I just don't agree at all

I'd only wear a dressing gown if I was staying in someone else's house for breakfast. If I invite peogle over I'm dressed, even my mum or inlaws. Unless I was ill or breastfeeding a newborn

Horafjo, you invite people for brunch then eat in your dressing gown? And go to the gym with just your sports bra and no top? I'm fairly sure you will have noticed everyone else wears tops.

Not in my world or any of my friends' or family's worlds, would this seem like normal, acceptable behaviour. Maybe I'm just old though (44?) or maybe it is regional. Even if someone warned me in advance that they were going to be lounging inside all day so they'd be in their PJs when we turned up would I feel comfortable with it.

I just don't understand why you wouldn't get dressed? I mean you can wear perfectly comfortable clothing.

You didn't have 2 minutes to go upstairs and put jeans and a top on after opening the door ? Presumably you had chance to nip to the loo at some point?.?

It's weird.

Only on MN would you be told to chill out about it.

I would've had to say... Are we keeping you up?

That was to Jux !

I wouldn't mind, though I don't do it as I need the ritual of getting dressed to put me in the mindset to get shit done every day.

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect them to be dressed. MN can often be a parallel universe. It's not as though you're expecting a prom dress and stilettos - jeans a t-shirt would have been fine.

YANBU. Had they not even showered?

OP - YANBU.

I wouldn't go round for drinks again.

wearing PJs when you have invited guests (unless very close friends or family) is disrespectful and rude to your guests as it is obvious to anyone with any intelligence/common sense that some people would feel uncomfortable with this level of familiarity.

People do the school run in just a sports bra and running leggings here (nice school), so I doubt anyone would care in own home

Away for christmas at the moment, plenty of people wear their pjs lounging about in the evenings. Most people have been in ski wear all day, head back around 4-5pm take layers off and quick shower, then head for spa area an hour or so. Then loungewear or pjs on after. So people can be found playing pool or drinking hot chocolate or mulled wine between 6-8pm usually in pjs. Some pop snowboots and ski jacket over the top to nip to the shops. People get dressed again before dinner, but kids it's fully acceptable to start dinner at 8pm in pyjamas

Vulgar as fuck.

A dressing gown is a perfectly reasonable choice for a relaxed brunch

On which planet?
It's completely inappropriate. You are not making the first effort for your guests, you are making them uncomfortable so that only is rude. You also happen to look ridiculous.

I am always amazed by the amount of people in hospitals who make the effort of putting on at least a tshirt and tracksuit bottom to greet visitors - or simply because in our communal wards you have no privacy whatsoever. Not bothering to throw some clothes on when you have visitors at home is slovenly.

Sorry but I think this is appalling behaviour!! I know I am going to sound like some ancient dowager but can someone please tell me what the fuck happened to standards??

No, that's weird. If you invite people round, you get dressed!