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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

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Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 14:37

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs Confused

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Pumpkintopf · 28/12/2016 14:59

That is really odd. Not surprised you felt awkward!

SantasJockStrap · 28/12/2016 15:00

OP you need a chill pill

Mrsbird311 · 28/12/2016 15:00

I think it's a vile habit, just get up, shower and get dressed!!! My mum has started doing this and I go mad at her, she wasn't brought up like that and didn't bring us up like that . Standards are dropping

Liiinoo · 28/12/2016 15:01

It is a great day when I can get up, shower and then put on clean pjs (over clean pants and bra) for the rest of the day. However if I know people are coming over it wouldn't be one of those days. I would get dressed. And then the second they leave go running upstairs to put pjs on. Your friend's behaviour does seem a little odd. Unless it is a sign that they are so comfortable with you they consider you family?

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Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 15:04

They are school parent friends so I'm not super familiar with them - our kids are friends and we go out for drinks etc.

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TheWoodlander · 28/12/2016 15:05

I'd assume they'd forgotten we were coming tbh.

Whitney168 · 28/12/2016 15:05

Grim - either the same clothes they've slept in without washing, or new ones put on to show how 'quirky' they are. Ridiculous either way (and of course pyjamas are different to clothes - different fabrics, often no underwear, cut differently so prone to gaping).

Aworldofmyown · 28/12/2016 15:06

I would find it a bit weird but it wouldn't actually bother me in the slightest.

eddiemairswife · 28/12/2016 15:09

Could you tell if they were fresh on for the guests? I suppose that would be odd but OK; however, if they just hadn't bothered to get dressed in the morning that's plain slovenly.

corlan · 28/12/2016 15:09

That's really slovenly - YANBU.

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Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 15:12

It wasn't lounge wear- it was just out of bed wear! I don't mind onesies etc but it wasn't that at all- I just don't feel like I know them well enough to see what they wear in bed tbh Confused

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caffelatte100 · 28/12/2016 15:12

You are not being unreasonable! It seems slobby to be in PJs at 4 pm, 10 am would be slightly better, but not by much.

bookeatingboy · 28/12/2016 15:13

Sounds odd since you are not that close, even more so if they are still in the pj's they slept in.

BIgBagofJelly · 28/12/2016 15:13

I think it's a bit odd and wouldn't do it personally but it wouldn't bother me at all. What harm was it doing you? Most people slouch about all day in PJ's from time to time, especially around christmas so it just means they feel comfortable enough with you to be a part of their family slouch time.

MaQueen · 28/12/2016 15:14

I think it's lazy and slovenly, especially if it's still the PJs you actually slept in - ick.

LynetteScavo · 28/12/2016 15:14

I bet they thought they looked like they were in some sort of Christmas advert for the White Company.

4pm does seem an odd hour to be wearing PJ's. Had they aired the house that day?

I once worked as a nanny for someone who thought nothing of inviting guests to lunch and greeting them only wearing bikini bottoms. She'd always say "Oh, I hope you don't mind!" I used to cringe. At least PJ's are modest.

RainyDayBear · 28/12/2016 15:15

YANBU, that sounds odd. If it was a really close friend, or one who had a newborn or something it'd be different! But I wouldn't be comfortable with that situation either.

Ilovetorrentialrain · 28/12/2016 15:16

I'd think this weird and not be comfortable. YANBU.

user1479655572 · 28/12/2016 15:16

Not unreasonable at all. I spend basically all my time at home in my pjs. As soon as I am home from work, on a weekend if I'm not going out, whatever so no judgement here for the family if that's what they want to wear when they're home alone....but even I'd get dressed if I had invited someone round (even if it was just into comfy trackies and a top). Pjs would just be too far, unless I knew them really well.

dingdongthewitchishere · 28/12/2016 15:17

YANBU

Weird. I would understand that either they forgot, or that they are ill and you are not welcome either way. You don't have to put on a gown to welcome a guest, but would it kill anybody to put on a pair of trousers and a tshirt?

I love that forum. People come up with things that you barely find believable on tv, they must love the idea of living in a soap opera or something.

Lilaclily · 28/12/2016 15:17

It's odd and I'd have assumed they'd forgotten you were coming, did they lay food on ?

DrudgeJedd · 28/12/2016 15:19

Was it someone famous Lynnette?

Clues pretty please?

myfavouritecolourispurple · 28/12/2016 15:19

I'd think it weird too but I'm not one of those people who stays in my PJs or dressing gown when I get a chance. I know some people consider it to be a cosy luxury - I don't, but each to their own.

bbcessex · 28/12/2016 15:19

Incredibly weird OP.. I would be consigning them to the 'phase out' friendship pile..

Bluntness100 · 28/12/2016 15:20

I also agree with you op. I have close friends where we stay over, and clearly we see them in their nightwear either as they go to bed, or lounging with a hangover the next morning, and sure if you drop in on someone fair enough if they are in their pjs, but it's odd to specifically invite folks round then host in your pyjamas.🙄

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