To stop sending money to ungrateful brats???

[ThePeoplesChamp]

Every year I've sent Christmas money to my neices and nephews. Last 2 years I've reduced this slightly as it was costing me a fortune at the £ per kid. Close to £400 just on this part of Chistmas.

There is a view that because I work and the parents dont, and that I dont have kids that I am 'posh' ...... and, as such should be simply thrilled at handing over the money.

But heres the rub, in the 10+ years I've been doing this I've yet to receive so much as a thank you or even a Christmas card in return. And - its almost become a 'demand' - I remember one night having to leave a (pre)Christmas meal out to dash out to give my DB the money as 'the kids would like it early so they can buy what theyd like' he literally rang and rang and rang until I left the restaurant to stroppily hand over £100 for his kids.

I've been with DH 4 years and half of the nieces and neplhews have ever met him, such is their lack of interest at seeing us unless its to collect ££.

WIBU to just stay at home with DH, leave the ££ in the bank and sod the lot of them?

[RudolphTheRedNoseReindeer]

Not sure what the two ^^ are about as I didn't put them in my reply sorry!

[Kittenrush]

Literally as soon as I posted that I realised you could be TTC or something and felt absolutely terrible. Please ignore me I just get all wary of trolls and shit. Pretend I'm not here
I'll go remove my foot from my mouth

[sparechange]

Kitten, this question has been done to death
It has no relevance to this thread and no relevance to most threads.
Why bother asking?

[Kittenrush]

Yes champagne and also by lots and trolls. I just posted without thinking, apologies. I'm sleep deprived. Forgive me

[scootinFun]

Definitely don't give them the money. I second the suggestion of a card saying you donated to charity in their name. How entitled they are!!

[Inkspot]

No way. Just stop it. You will be relieved

[HandbagCrazy]

OP YANBU. Just stop and if they ask you why, tell them you reserve your gift giving for
People who give a shit about you.
I can't quite get over the brass neck of your brother!

Kitten MN is an open forum for anyone to use. Lots of topics aren't about children, and not having children doesn't mean that you don't want to chat / work through issues / ask for advice. I don't have children but find MN invaluable for help and advice.
If you only want to talk to mothers, sticking to the parenting boards would probably be best.

[PaulDacresConscience]

one year I did ignore and subsequently suffered a lot of tagging in every single birthday party pic

So defriend the entitled fucker. If you only ever hear from him when he is in human calendar mode - it's Crispin's birthday, please have the folding readies to hand for immediate collection - then it should make zero difference if you aren't connected on social media.

[EssentialHummus]

kitten I came for the advice on Farrow & Ball paint, and just stuck around

[scampimom]

Well, you can either continue to give them this money, in which case they'll continue to despise you and laugh at your idiocy as they spend your money.

Or you can stop giving them this money, in which case they'll continue to despise you and strop about your meanness when they can't spend your money.

All it would take is a 'thank you!' by Facebook or something. Anything!

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

Being child free doesn't mean someone is a troll. No forgiveness needed, my reply wasn't meant in a nasty way-I don't go in for all that. I'm sorry you're sleep deprived-I know the pain of sleep deprivation!

[purplishclouds]

Kitten what are you on about? A number of people without children use mumsnet .....

OP , I'm quite upset on your behalf . Why do you put up with such rude behaviour ? How will your db and his dc know their behaviour is wrong if you keep enabling them ?

[PaulDacresConscience]

Or you could be an evil hard-faced cow like me and post a picture of yourself on FB with a lovely glass of fizz and an expensive bottle of perfume/handbag/new house*, with a caption: Been really good at saving my pennies this year, so treated myself for a change!

*Obviously a new house is quite a lot of money, but hey - think big.

[ThePeoplesChamp]

Kittenrush I'm expecting, but left it out of original post in case it was somehow identifying. It's really made me think about the poor manners etc

[Kittenrush]

Fairly new here, going to hide this thread and quietly run away now. Consider me told

[Chippednailvarnishing]

You need to tag your 'D'B when you take the photo of the Louis Vuitton handbag as suggested up thread...

[EekAmIBonkers]

I agree, sod the lot of them... but surely this behaviour has been condoned/enabled by your siblings - so as your nieces and nephews grow up, give them a chance in their own right.

[MinesAGin]

Kitten, when my daughter got to university she found a lot of her friends, including male gay friends, came onto MN to read the threads. One of her male gay friends loved the housekeeping section and was always trying to get them to try out new ways of cleaning pans that had been left there for months.

[PaulDacresConscience]

Aww Kitten, don't feel bad. I have no DC. Am on MN because where else can you say 'cunt' on the internet and still get quoted in the Daily Fail?


for your sleep deprivation

[Kittenrush]

Congrats OP!

[ICantFindAFreeNickName2]

Just stop, although I think it's your brothers fault that the children have not been taught from a young age to thank people for gifts. It really does not take long to write a thank you note.

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

Don't do that kitten! You're new-you didn't know

[ThePeoplesChamp]

DRIPFEED - but funny.... thee half drank bottle of plonk wasnt even a drink ... it was a cocktail adddition. Think grenandine etc

[Shakey15000]

No way are you being unreasonable. I'd write to them and tell them you've decided to sponsor a insert appropriate on their behalf instead.

[TalkingofMichaelAngel0]

paul hahahhahahahha!!!

I just assumed kitten thought it must be made up as surely nobody's brother could be such a selfish entitled tosser.