To stop sending money to ungrateful brats???

[ThePeoplesChamp]

Every year I've sent Christmas money to my neices and nephews. Last 2 years I've reduced this slightly as it was costing me a fortune at the £ per kid. Close to £400 just on this part of Chistmas.

There is a view that because I work and the parents dont, and that I dont have kids that I am 'posh' ...... and, as such should be simply thrilled at handing over the money.

But heres the rub, in the 10+ years I've been doing this I've yet to receive so much as a thank you or even a Christmas card in return. And - its almost become a 'demand' - I remember one night having to leave a (pre)Christmas meal out to dash out to give my DB the money as 'the kids would like it early so they can buy what theyd like' he literally rang and rang and rang until I left the restaurant to stroppily hand over £100 for his kids.

I've been with DH 4 years and half of the nieces and neplhews have ever met him, such is their lack of interest at seeing us unless its to collect ££.

WIBU to just stay at home with DH, leave the ££ in the bank and sod the lot of them?

[Backt0Black]

Thanks for the replies guys, I'm amused, bemused and all out done with him. New thread with a list of 'slights' if any of you would like a giggle some of his 'highlights' and the cheek to tell ME he's done with me.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2824572-MN-spoke-I-didnt-send-the-expected-Xmas-Money-and-now-Im-a-NC-Yay-or-Nay?watched=1

[Niskayuna]

Every time I remember where I came from, I thank my lucky bloody stars I got out of there :p

You did good, OP. Glad they've shown their true colours (although I think your d-bro may have done that some time ago...) and you can drop 'em like the, um, delightful but complicated family members they are.

[mumofthemonsters808]

I'm glad to hear this, surely this gave your brother food for thought and he stopped and reflected upon how entitled and how ungrateful he and his kids had been over the years. I wouldn't hold your breath though, these type of people rarely acknowledge their bad behaviour. Oh, I've just read your update, throwing insults in your direction,I suspect he now realises he has lost his cash card and all could have been avoided by a simple thank you.Forget all the agro for the time being, you've had the last laugh.

[AcrossthePond55]

Thanks for the update. If you feel like it, you can link the new thread here.

You toffee nosed cow, you.

Actually I know a cow with a rather toffee-coloured nose. She's a lovely Guernsey milch cow and very friendly.

[CouldntMakeThisShitUp]

wow! They all show their true colours in the end.

I remember an ex-best mate - who knew my siblings were in mixed race marriages - come out with "you should stick to your own"
So i did - i stuck with my open minded and tolerant people. Dumped her.

I'd go either very low contact or nc.
His jealousy towards you runs too deep.

[Backt0Black]

.....and thank you to everyone thats remembered and came back to ask what happened. I hate a dangle so did want to update x

New thread will be something along the lines of 'so I didn't send the expected xmas money and now I'm a........'

[Backt0Black]

Apparently I am a 'stuck up toffee nosed cow, who needs to remember where she came from' and DH 'shouldn't worry as I will soon send him back to where he came from' (he is mixed race) WOW. And I do mean WOW.

This is coming from one 'd'Bro.... who is aggrieved I have not showered his latest DC with ££££ and held him aloft in awe and wonder as Father of The Year.... I am less than enthused to do so given that he has 3 other kids he has dropped.

I am also an ungrateful cow for all the things he has 'done' for me... great stuff like lie, cheat me out of money, outright steal from me, bring the police and druggies to my door... gahhh will create a new thread on whether I just go all out NC now so as not to confuse this one, but did want to provide the update.

Happy New Year from this 'toffee nose'! hahahah

[CouldntMakeThisShitUp]

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[Backt0Black]

Hey All - this is OP! (ThePeoplesChamp) I've had to revert to my own account. ThePeoplesChamp is DH's on his tablet, which he has at work. So - here I am on my laptop. With an update........!

[mysistersimone]

Happy New Year, I hope you have a smooth labour and a healthy bouncing baby. And big fat yay to returning for any possible updates. You are my kind if OP

[ThePeoplesChamp]

Just a quick one to wish everyone a cracking New Year. Still a wall of silence from DB's and brats children. I'll leave you all in peace and...if this thread is still around update with what I receive on little mans birth

and good fortune to you all in 2017.

[OzzieFem]

Well done OP. Wishing you a Happy & Properous New Year.

[brasty]

I send my niece and nephews money every birthday and Christmas and never get any acknowledgement at all. I did say once to my sister, and she looked grumpy, but the next year I got thank you notes from the kids. That was the only time. I have decided to stop when they all reach 18.

[Lndnmummy]

Well done OP for sticking to your guns. You see, no one will change but you. I know it is a cliche but true non the less. Well done and put your feet up! No i guessbut have some

[user1471545174]

Good work OP and DH

[ThePeoplesChamp]

.... as sure as the sun will set tonight, and bad / nasty news always seems to find its way home.

...will meditate daily on giving less f*cks

[dowhatnow]

Something will be said at some point. Hopefully just a sarcastic remark rather than anything heavier, but the error of your ways will be pointed out sooner or later.

[ThePeoplesChamp]

Thanks all - after all the 'dont you dare send more £££ replies' I dont feel a bit bad, and really worried I would.

LegoCaltrops I heavily suspect there is disappointment that I am preganant and god willing will have someone of my own to spend all my 'pots and pots and pots' of money on (Lordy! I wish! eyes feeble bank balance) and bequeath my 'massive' mortgage fortune to. Also there will be worry that as I am only DD DGF will favour new DGC ..... really not an issue and not one I'd accept as it'd be overbearing, but this is the level of ££paranoia that exists in the family.... glad to be on the periphary truth be told.

[LagunaBubbles]

Good for you OP! There is zero reason to feel bad.

[LegoCaltrops]

Good on you! Perhaps your dad mentioned the reason for the lack of gifts this year, & family have realised (or been made to see) that any attempt to chase gifts would be excessively grabby & probably jeopardise their chances for future years... Possibly clutching at straws there but you never know.

[Groovee]

I reckon it will be simmering and blow up at some point. Look forward to hearing what your brother does.

[Cagliostro]

Excellent! Well done :o

[ThePeoplesChamp]

If this thread still exists by the time the 'outrage' and 'indignation' works it's way back to me with the expected strains of how 'stuck up' I am (and it will) ... I'll update with the highlights