Not wanting to spend NYE with a newborn?

[Justheretojudge]

Me and my DP decided to go to a NYE event our favourite bar/restaurant are doing this year. Another couple of friends said they want to come too, but are insisting they bring their month old baby with them.

Whilst I get it's their first christmas new year with their first child, and want to spend time with them, a busy bar/restaurant on New Year's Eve isn't really appropriate is it? It will be loud, noisy, late at night, cold later on full of drunk people. Surely this would be no fun for the child?

Allot of other young couples, groups of friends will be celebrating, and I'm sure they wouldn't really enjoy being forced to spend my NYE with a baby.

Hell no. YANBU.

I wouldn't take a newborn to a bar/restaurant on NEW YEARS EVE which will be one of the busiest, drunkist nights on the year, why just why would anyone

YANBU

At that age I could have put ds I'm a wrap and you probably wouldn't have noticed him.

Well, nothing's really "fun" for a month old baby. And everyone's appropriate is different. But I know a lot of people would hate it.

I take it the baby isn't born yet? They probably will feel differently when its born.

Sounds grim for them but it won't affect you in a loud bar. They should check if babies are even allowed in.

Fuck No, YANBU

who takes a newborn to a bar on news years bloody eve!

I personally wouldn't ever do it but I suppose it's up to them and I dont think a baby so young will particularly affect the night. It will sleep most of it and I'd prefer a newborn to a two year old. Does the bar allow a baby in after eight pm?

My dd1 was born 2 weeks before xmas. We stayed in, got dressed up and had our own little party. Was ace.

Why would it bother you?

I'm on the fence. At that age babies are infinitely portable, so better to go now than when they've got a toddler. But it wouldn't be my idea of a great family new year, just because of the potential noise, drunk people etc. But then I'm a regular homebody and I think we've perhaps just stayed with friends (and our dc) a couple of times over new year in the last decade.

YANBU

I also don't understand anyone taking a newborn out to a bar on a night that will have people the loudest, drunkest they've been all year

If you are going anyway, then it doesn't make much difference whether the baby is there or not. Unless they will expect you to leave at 8pm when they realise it's a terrible idea.

Haha, YANBU.

I remember when DS was around three months, we were to a party and left him with PIL's. Another couple had brought their child to the party who was the same age. They stayed till 11 and the poor baby cried all night

Your priorities change.

They will probably come for a bit and go home. Friends of ours brought their 2 week old DD to our wedding, she slept through the evening and they had a great time. Obviously if she hadn't then they would have gone home.

My ds slept in a sling during a long, rowdy and very entertaining St Pat's night when he was just over 3 weeks old. He made a fortune because people kept tucking notes into the sling- he was the youngest Patrick present!

If the parents feel up to it and it won't damage the baby's ears and the licence permits then why not?

It might take a bit of attention away from you op (babies are cute so people want to look!) but that's all. You won't have to care for the baby. I don't see your problem.

I took DS1 out a few times to meals. He usually slept in a sling or under the table in his car seat.

I was BF and he wouldn't take a bottle. With hindsight I probably wouldn't do it again.

I think it's up to the parents/bar really. The baby will probably sleep for most of it. It's not a place I would take a baby but I recently went for a birthday meal/drinks in a bar that went on until late and a couple had a baby with them. I forgot they were there until they picked up the car seat to leave.

I depends a lot on the baby. My brothers first went to loads of parties and stuff as a baby as she just happily slept through anything. You barely noticed She was there. She was a dream. My dd would have freaked out within 10 minutes. Presumably if the baby doesn't like it or is crying they will leave. Unless they expect you to leave too I am not sure why it is an issue for you to be honest. Just go and get on with your night.

Hmm, babies that age are very portable so it can be convenient to take them out and about, but usually only for a few hours at a time.

However, this baby isn't even born yet, so how on earth can they make arrangements for New Year's Eve when they don't know how they will feel (knackered, exhausted, sore (mum), dazed most probably). Chances are they will decide to stay at home and celebrate anyway, OP.

The child was born 2 weeks ago, so will be just over a month old.

I guess it's my own issue on why this bothers me. I'm not a baby person and I don't have much experience around them. It won't be like I can be one side of the room and the other couple be the other side, we will be there as a little group. And I'll. e honest I don't want to engage with their child. Being forced to hold, interact and generally faking being pleased it's here when I'm really not.

To me I just envision it crying all the time which isn't the child's fault, it's what they do, and just generally taking up the parents time, whilst you're trying to drink and have a conversation with them. The mothers breastfeeding, so she can't drink. And surely she will be so tired.

But I always think if I was a parent ( which I want to be, in time) i just feel it's really inappropriate and I suppose quite selfish of the parents to bring out an infant so you've in to an eviroment that's not suited to infants and vice versa.

If it was my first Christmas/NYE as a family I'd want to stay in n spend it with my new family.

And I know that new parents shouldn't be forced to stay in and never go out! But surely if you're so insistent on going out for NYE , you get the grandparents involved for babysitting duty?

Interact with baby as much or as little as you want. A little strange to be jealous that the baby will want its parents attention. If there's a group there will be others for you to talk to.

Would the venue even allow it?

I mean children are not always allowed fuel to licensing laws. They better find out. Might have to leave by a certain time anyway.

But I do think it's ridiculous people will be drunk loud and probably be a fight or two... not a good place for a baby.

Well when my baby was a month or two we used to actually take him to pubs quite a lot in the evening. At that age they sleep if they want to sleep anyway regardless of noise and they don't go to bed a specific time anyway.
Now he's a little older it's harder as he either wants entertaining or should be in his cot, but actually newborn easiest to take out.
It's not like they could possibly leave a small child so they shouldn't have been invited if you didn't want the child there.