Not wanting to spend NYE with a newborn?

[Justheretojudge]

Me and my DP decided to go to a NYE event our favourite bar/restaurant are doing this year. Another couple of friends said they want to come too, but are insisting they bring their month old baby with them.

Whilst I get it's their first christmas new year with their first child, and want to spend time with them, a busy bar/restaurant on New Year's Eve isn't really appropriate is it? It will be loud, noisy, late at night, cold later on full of drunk people. Surely this would be no fun for the child?

Allot of other young couples, groups of friends will be celebrating, and I'm sure they wouldn't really enjoy being forced to spend my NYE with a baby.

But why, punkrocker girl? If the baby is quiet- why is it a problem for anyone else?

Because instead of being able to be spontaneous and suddenly decide to try the cocktail place down the Rd or go on a bit of a pub crawl everyone's stuck in the one place they found that let's the baby in and the choices are be bored in one pub all night or feel guilty fir ditching the one with the baby...

Tell your friends not to be fucking idiots by taking their tiny baby to a bar full of drunk people celebrating. That is ridiculous and not only unsafe for the baby but just fucking stupid on their part.

Just about everything these days is child-friendly. Can we not have just one thing that isn't? One night out of the year that is just for the adults?

Not everyone has kids. Not everyone wants them. I'm pretty sure most people in a bar on NYE wouldn't plan to be around them.

Tbh, my twins' colic didn't kick in until about 4 weeks. No way would I have inflicted the constant pained crying on anyone.

And I don't think any bar would let someone stay until after midnight with a baby. Round here all children have to leave the bars at 7pm no matter what age they are/who their parents are.

I bet the first time some half cut beer breathed creature wobbles near their pfb to say "hello" they'll be off home.

I don't have the time or inclination to explain yet again, Betrand

Basically because all your reasons are presupposing that the parents are arseholes who will expect special treatment, park a massive pram in the middle of the dance floor, demand that their baby is the centre of attention and not leave if he cries.

Or, in the case of another poster, bizarrely sit their 3 week old on a bench along with a bowl of cold chips...........

Each to their own, but I'd be surprised if they both want to go in the end. They'll be knackered well before midnight!

Basically because all your reasons are presupposing that the parents are arseholes who will expect special treatment

Well as that is exactly what they have already done, I think thats a given.

They have unilaterally changed the whole dynamic of the evening on teh basis of their baby and when the OP warned them that the baby may not be welcome at the venue, it was brushed off.

Or, in the case of another poster, bizarrely sit their 3 week old on a bench along with a bowl of cold chips...........

That was not said and you know it, are you arguing just for something to do?!

Well, the poster concerned did talk about children being left in corners of pubs with bowls of chips. I asked her whether she had posted on the wrong thread and she said not, so I could only assume she thought the parents in this case might do the same..................

Yes of course you did.

JorahsMissus:

Nailed it. Lol

I took my then 6 month old to a New Years Party at a bar..he slept in the pram and I was the designated driver. Weren't too bad as it was a private venue so was a little like a wedding evening party.

OP, why don't you check with the venue's management and find out exactly what their policies / regulations are with regards to children on NYE? If the venue does not allow children, problem solved with minimal fuss. If children are permitted in the venue, do they have to leave at a particular time? It's entirely possible that your friends will have no choice but to amend their plans.

Bertrand
I'm not presupposing anything. I'd pretty much guarantee that parents who'd take their baby to an event like this would show exactly the level of ignorant entitlement that you describe.
But you're right about one thing. I do consider parents who'd take a new born baby to the biggest, noisiest celebration of the year to be complete and utter arseholes.
HTH

Well said punkrocker
The problem with the parents of PFBs sometimes is that they assume the whole world wants to be with their baby as much as they do.