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WIBU to not let my 12 year old son get his ears pierced?

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pineappletrees · 03/12/2016 16:26

My 12 year old son really wants his ears pierced. My daughter has it done so I can't use the age excuse (she is 10). I just think that they look awful on don't suit boys. WIBU to say no?

OP posts:
CaraAspen · 03/12/2016 16:49

Pierced ears? Just no.

Floggingmolly · 03/12/2016 16:51

We'll have the blue/pink militants out in force (you there, Bertram??); but you're perfectly right, op, it looks as rough as bedamned on boys.
Stand firm.

JacquesHammer · 03/12/2016 16:52

Pierced ears? Just no

Which doesn't really work as the OP's DD already had pierced ears....

corythatwas · 03/12/2016 16:57

I put 15 as the earliest age for any cosmetic changes that might conceivably affect their health (niece developed allergies after piercing). I wanted them to be old enough to make an informed choice.

But that was for both genders: I really, really could not have gone with one rule for boys and one rule for girls.

TiggyD · 03/12/2016 16:58

It will make him look cool and lots of girls will be interested in him. Let him.

That was the thinking of 12 year old boys when I was a 12 year old boy. We may very well have been thinking crap. We did a lot of that. Grin Can any women remember what they thought of boys with pierced ears when they were 12?

MommaGee · 03/12/2016 17:01

It will make him look cool and lots of girls will be interested in him. Let him.

So he should have it done just to attract girls??? Pp would be flamed for advocating a girl got a piercing just to attract boys!!!

Do think you should let him as you let DD. Otherwise way to tackle gender bias and inequality

LindyHemming · 03/12/2016 17:01

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Sparklingbrook · 03/12/2016 17:02

I don't think at 12 I knew any boys with pierced ears.

natwebb79 · 03/12/2016 17:04

'We'll have the blue/pink militants out in force (you there, Bertram??); but you're perfectly right, op, it looks as rough as bedamned on boys.
Stand firm.'

What a load of bollocks! Some people might think that you look 'rough as bedamned'. Either way you sound very snooty. A

MissVictoria · 03/12/2016 17:07

I personally think tasteful earrings on men look nice. My dad had his left ear pierced when he was younger so i've always had a male with a pierced ear in my life. I'm not a fan of the Cristiano Ronaldo 20 pence piece sized diamond studs look, but then i dislike that look on girls too. A nice modest sized stud or a cuff type earring is lovely looking, male or female.

MissVictoria · 03/12/2016 17:08

natwebb i love the use of the word Snooty, brilliant word.

missyB1 · 03/12/2016 17:10

Thank God my 26 and 21 year old boys never asked. I now have a 7 year old boy and his school make it quite clear no pierced ears, so that's a relief.

OP I'm with you I think it doesn't look good on boys.

TheFairyCaravan · 03/12/2016 17:10

When I was 12 I didn't know any boys with pierced ears.

MrsJayy · 03/12/2016 17:12

Lewis Hamilton loves his bling earrings last week on F1 he had the hoogest pairI thought ok Lewis we get it you are loaded 😁

MrsJayy · 03/12/2016 17:13

I was 12 in 1983 I didnt know any boys who had pierced ears

Sparklingbrook · 03/12/2016 17:14

Lewis likes his bling doesn't he? Massive chunky gold necklace and huge earrings. Grin

harderandharder2breathe · 03/12/2016 17:14

Yabu

If you'd let your DD then you should let him.

Your children will do and wear many things that you don't think look good over the next few years, it's part of growing up

NoFucksImAQueen · 03/12/2016 17:24

Yes you would

Soubriquet · 03/12/2016 17:31

IT doesn't matter if you think it doesn't look good on boys

It isn't your body

Let him do it

TiggyD · 03/12/2016 17:32

And get him 10 cans of Lynx for Christmas.

nosyupnorth · 03/12/2016 17:34

even if you do think it's looks bad, at twelve he's old enough that he can look daft if he wants to - are you going to spend the next few years picking out all his clothes and haircuts too?

They're his ears and it's just a little piercing it's not like he wants them stretching or anything extreme - as long as he's willing to look after then I don't see why it's a problem.

marvelousdcomics · 03/12/2016 17:39

YABU - especially as you let your dd have it done at a younger age

My ds(13) has 2 ears done. Looks fine.

littlesallyracket · 03/12/2016 17:46

If you let your daughter get them done, it's incredibly unfair not to let your son get his done at the same age.

Also, it doesn't really matter whether you think earrings on boys look nice or not. He's almost a teenager now and you need to accept that he will have different notions to yours of what looks good. He's not a doll that you can style to your own tastes all the time. Worry about whether he's a decent human being, not what he wants to look like.

I8toys · 03/12/2016 17:56

Mine are 11 and 13 - I can never imagine a situation where they would want their ears pierced. Fine for millionaire Lewis Hamilton and his diamond studs but not down the local comp with Elizabeth Duke Diamante.

AuntieStella · 03/12/2016 17:57

Tiggy are you projecting here?

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