To ask what you would honestly think of parents who

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Never turned up to their child's school play, sports day or other events? Did go to parents evenings.

I would think they had jobs and couldn't make it.

I wouldn't think they couldn't be bothered or didn't want to if that's what you are worried about.

That they had to work.

I'd feel sorry for the kids as this was my situation growing up and it felt like my parents couldnt be bothered. It was symptomatic of a general real interest in my life which has continued into adulthood I think.

I wouldn't even notice enough to judge.

By the way I had one parent who worked shifts and one who worked part time so they could have made it sometimes. I understand that this isn't always the case though.

I'd think it was a bit odd that someone other than the parents themselves were keeping track of whether they went to these things.

Never ever? Personally I'd say it was a bit off. It's not always straightforward to attend them all, but if it's possible to go I usually do.

I wouldn't notice, I only pay attention to what I'm doing and I think most people are the same. If I did notice then I would assume they work.

I wouldn't really notice tbh.

I wouldn't judge such a parent as much as I judge Mumsnetters who don't put the full friffing question in the thread title!

I wouldn't notice.

I notice the child who's always sprinting in late though.

I'd assume they were teachers.

I would not notice tbh and if I did happen to, I would think they probably had to work....
why do you ask?

I'd probably think that they couldn't get time off work.

I wouldn't think anything of it Because firstly I wouldn't notice as I don't check parents off against kids at these things and also because I have no idea of the circumstances

I'd feel like they were missing out. But I wouldn't judge.

I'd assume they were teachers.

Are you referring to me? I work and I'm anti social. Judge away I couldn't GAF my DS knows I love him!

They're at work. Same as my parents were.

I remember that our childminder came to a few junior sports days. I liked that. Thankfully we live close to our retired (but still young) parents, so I think their presence will make up for DH & I not making anything much during the day. I'm a teacher and DH works in industry but because of his safety role he (or one of the others with the same role) has to be on site at all times.

Up until very recently I wasn't able to attend my DCs school events because I was teaching full time. I felt like the worst mother ever but my DH attended but even he couldn't make all of them due to work commitments. It's hard enough without people making judgements

Maybe OP is not making judgements, but is maybe a teacher and is worried about how she is perceived at her children's school , as she can never make it to these things?

No, that's fine if people think it's okay - I was wondering. I'm glad no one would infer anything bad, it's just all the posts about how bad children feel when parents miss nativity plays make me wonder.

Yes Brat

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Really relieved; for once I am pleased iabu

I would think they're working.
DD's school often give less than 2 weeks' notice for events, which makes it very difficult to get time off work

If I have managed to get myself to the play or whatever, I honestly have no time and energy for keeping tabs on other parents. I wouldn't have any idea who was there and how ofter.

I apologise OP I just read my post and realised how it sounded, I didn't mean you were making a judgement, what I meant was that others do. My own siblings used to make comments about how I couldn't attend my DCs events. I apologise again for not being clearer.