I've just howled my eyes out because this morning for the first time in 10 years ...

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... DH gave me a birthday card with no words in it. I mean he wrote in it, but It was one of those no effort .com Moon Pig ones. He openly sets loads of store by the words in cards too and reads them very carefully when it's his own birthday.

[bottom lip wibbles again] :(

I said nothing about it at the time this morning - bottled it up and just cried in the shower. My AIBU is: Should i tell him how it's hurt me when he gets home from work? Or is this one of those things you should just keep to yourself? Am i just being a tit?

(for info. first day of period and i've got PMT and no check on my emotions)

I can fully understand why the OP is upset. Some people don't care much about cards, fine, but she does.

Me and my husband take time to buy the other a card - for birthdays, Christmas, Valentines, wedding anniversary, anniversary of when we met - and we have been married 36 years. We both like nice words in cards and we also write a loving message in the cards.

If my husband bought me a moonpig card I would be upset and annoyed

If my husband bought me a moonpig card I would be upset and annoyed

Why? I would be more upset if my dh DIDNT buy me a moonpig card. I want a birthday card with my children on it this year

And you can order it blank so that you can write your own message

Are you meant to write in Moonpig cards? I thought the whole point was that you did it all on the computer? I've sent dh loads and never hand written them.

He sent me a 'funny' card last birthday referring to age. I didn't like it at all as he usually buys me really thoughtful ones ( usually hand made /megga tasteful ones) I did mention that I preferred the usual ones he bought and it was clearly noted as this year's card was lovely

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen - you can either pre-write them digitally and have them sent directly to the recipient, or have it sent to yourself to handwrite all/portions of it first.

This is a moonpig card I've done for my nephew. Blocked out his face and name for here though

You can write in it online or you can send it through blank. I've write the happy birthday part inside but ok going to hand write the actual message

I like that. I think it's much more personalised than any card from a shop

SulphurMan - Relax, he just hasn't got the hang of the website. Probably didn't even know you can upload writing for the middle page.

I think you're probably right you know.

Feeling loads better about everything today. PMT is an absolute bummer. Some months is worse than others. This thread has been really helpful. Even the harsher posts

He sent me a meaningful and loving text this morning listing the reasons he married me, and then came home early from work for a bit of extra 'us' time. He's a lovely man. And i love him to bits. We're ok.

Sorry, interrupted the moonpig tutorial Learning loads today

Aww that sounds really sweet. Least he's made up for it

I make my own cards so they never have anything inside other than maybe a stamped 'happy birthday' or whatever. I always write a load of sentimental tosh inside DH's cards and he writes 'Germ, Happy Birthday. Mr Germ.'
But he's always done that and I wouldn't expect anything different now. I do get why you're upset Op, because he's done something so different to the norm. And the present?! I'd have wrapped it round his head I think.
If it were me I'd have to ask him if anything is wrong, just the fact that he's changed his behaviour so much this year would worry and concern me.
Have a word with him Op, ask him why he's changed what he usually does and tell him it's upset you. If you say nothing it'll just eat away at you.

Gaaaahhh!! X post! Glad you feel better Op.

I got my great uncle a moon pig card this year. I actually thought it was a pretty ugly design but it was relevant to his interests and could be customized. He was so chuffed with it (tbf, he's a near 90 year old who probably hadn't encountered custom cards before) he took it to church and gardening club to show it off (which I was a little embarrassed by, given the ugliness . )

I can just about get my head around the OP being upset about the lack of a printed message, but I don't get why some posters would automatically be upset to get a moonpig card. Is it just brand snobbery? Is the brand more important than the thought behind the card?

Germgirl - And the present?! I'd have wrapped it round his head I think.

Op, Hope you have a lovely dinner out an enjoy it!

I have pick every little fight with my Dh and I regret it, I wish I have let half of them go and had a better time. If anything else seems out of the ordinary in a week or so, sit down and have a nice conversation, but do not screw up your birtday. It seems like we just trying to do something different and it might not have worked out....

I didn't get a card or a present from my oh but that's nowt new!