I've just howled my eyes out because this morning for the first time in 10 years ...

[Laiste]

... DH gave me a birthday card with no words in it. I mean he wrote in it, but It was one of those no effort .com Moon Pig ones. He openly sets loads of store by the words in cards too and reads them very carefully when it's his own birthday.

[bottom lip wibbles again] :(

I said nothing about it at the time this morning - bottled it up and just cried in the shower. My AIBU is: Should i tell him how it's hurt me when he gets home from work? Or is this one of those things you should just keep to yourself? Am i just being a tit?

(for info. first day of period and i've got PMT and no check on my emotions)

My MIL used to read those poems and I thought she was mad. Obviously you read what someone's written to you, but the poems as well?

I'm still lost

Your husband bought you a birthday card
He wrote something nice in it
You're in the shower 'howling your eyes out'

??????

I love doing a moon pig card with your own uploaded photos and messages. I think it takes more effort to do

But I order them blank now

I don't like the 4 page generic cards because they look like less effort.

But it that's what upsets you, that's what upsets you. It's ok to be upset

It's the change capes it's the change. 10 years of massive cards and then this.

LizzieMacQueen - When you say no effort do you mean he didn't upload a picture and re-write the generic greeting. I don't know how moon pig works tbh lizzy. Perhaps he did have to spend a while?

I wont say anything to him.

If he just signed his name with a generic happy birthday then, given his history, YANBU to be hurt. I would ask him about it (maybe not today though).

If you simply mean there were no printed words but he wrote something a bit more meaningful than 'Happy Birthday love DH xx' YABU

I think after being together a long time the long messages/declarations of love in cards does decrease - simply because it becomes a bit repetitive and it's all be said before rather than anything deeper.

Happy Birthday OP

Blame PMT. At least he wrote in it OP. You should count yourself lucky

Op I was 40 this year. After forgetting completely and then going to the supermarket in the early evening I got some random card that said "from Mr Elbows" in it. Now that's shite! He is truly a wonderful man but he takes my "no fuss" mantra very literally. Have some tea and cake and it'll all be fine.

Just talk to him OP. Talking won't ruin a meal out. Tell him you love him and put it gently, but tell him how it made you feel, and tell him you need some reassurance about how he feels about you. Then you can have a big cry again, and a cuddle and set your fears to rest before you go out for your lovely meal. Happy birthday. x

Just for comparison, the last birthday I had with my ex, this is the card he gave me
I cried

I'd have loved a moonpig card with lots of kisses in!

*soubriquet it's ok to be upset''. Thank you. It's probably lots of things all coming to a head to be honest.

I love the Moonpig.com cards - they can be personalised and customised for the recipient. You can choose fonts, colours etc. Insert a photo, print name and date, and compose a message which is entirely your own. The result is the exact opposite of an impersonal card. (You also have the option of the card being sent to yourself for signature, with an enclosed blank envelope).

I did moonpig cards for a couple of friends this year. It was far more effort than choosing one at my local card shop, writing in it, buying a stamp and posting it. I'll not be doing that again. The only personalizing of cards ill be doing is putting my scrawl in it. Maybe he thought he was putting in lots of effort rather than none at all.

nocapes That's made me laugh!

I'm sorry to all those who got/get no card or truly shite cards.

I know there's worse things at sea and all that.

He blew up one white balloon and stuck it on the wall with brown parcel tape. I wish i could upload a pic.

walking and butter you have made me feel better. I thought it was just a click of a button. It has got my name on the front.

Bet you love your card now ey

Happy Birthday by the way, don't let the ruin it, go and have a lovely night

MIL once was 'hurt and sad' because we sent her a moonpig mothers' day card with no handwritten message (personalised message from us, but typed/printed by them then sent directly).

We were fucking ABROAD ON HOLIDAY AT THE TIME and had bothered to arrange it beforehand.

She sent me a message saying every year since he was a child, DH sent her a handwritten card, that's why she was so upset. THIS WAS BULLSHIT, as he often forgot and I'd sometimes bought and sent it myself in the last 7 years, putting it in front of him to sign.

Sorry. You probably have other issues. But this brings it all back!

FatOldBag lovely post. But i'm a really ugly crier. I don't want to cry just before i go out, I look shit for about an hour after crying :)

Moonpig takes WAY more effort.

Mental thread.

Don't be sad - don't be blue
Get out of the shower
And sniff some glue!

(I meant to say "wine"
But it didn't rhyme). 🍰🍷
Happy Birthday!

walking cheers

I always do Moonpig cards for people because they are more effort! It shows especially that there was forward planning, and that the card wasn't an 'oh shit' purchase on the way home.

DH has kept all the Moonpig cards I've done for him. The Fathers' Day cards with uploaded pictures of the DC on them adorn his office.

Blame the PMT, OP, and happy birthday

My first deletion! In 8 years! On my birthday!

Moonpig cards take a heck of a lot more time to arrange than popping into the local shop. Probably cost more too. He got it sent blank so he could write in it himself I can't see what the issue is at all

My husband bought me a birthday card and then wrote only his name in it, both first and surname. As if I were a client at work. I think he really really loves me though!

Mine doesn't even give me a card. Sometimes I worry about how low my standards are.