I've just howled my eyes out because this morning for the first time in 10 years ...

[Laiste]

... DH gave me a birthday card with no words in it. I mean he wrote in it, but It was one of those no effort .com Moon Pig ones. He openly sets loads of store by the words in cards too and reads them very carefully when it's his own birthday.

[bottom lip wibbles again] :(

I said nothing about it at the time this morning - bottled it up and just cried in the shower. My AIBU is: Should i tell him how it's hurt me when he gets home from work? Or is this one of those things you should just keep to yourself? Am i just being a tit?

(for info. first day of period and i've got PMT and no check on my emotions)

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Oh bless you, you're no doubt feeling very hormonal and emotional. I cry at adverts for elderly peoples arm chairs when I'm pre menstrual! If it's not like him and he's normally very attentive I can understand that upsetting you. Do you think you would have reacted the same had you not been on your period though?xx

Happy birthday but I think you need to get a grip

I haven't read all replies but I say at least you got a card. I have many friends with an OH that doesn't bother. Mine has forgotten my birthday before as well.

Moonpig cards take a lot of effort OP and like everyone said you need to order it well in advance but YANBU since he cares about the words and has always written pages of prose. Just ask him the day after (today?)

Don't read too much into it

Sybys, that made me

OP, sounds like he got it a little wrong, but it wasn't a deliberate slight. Glad you had a nice meal out and a chance to talk.

Happy belated birthday!

Yeah, you're being a tit xxxx

My OH once gave me a blank valentines card. I gave him his and he hadn't written mine yet so instead of waiting til he had written it he totally saved lt by saying "There's no words to describe you" lol!

You got a card? May I have one please?

god i'm boring because i don't celebrate my birthday, mothers day, valentines christmas no cards, presents or any of that, kids don't buy for me at all and i prefer that, but i can see that of you like that stuff it must be upsetting when you don't get cards presents etc. for you though

Just wondering how the DH would feel if he saw this thread. First world problem or what 🙄

Happy Birthday OP,

Sometimes words are overrated. I once received a card (albeit a valentines card) that read "roses are red, violets are funky, I think of you when I spank the monkey".

Tell your husband that it's probably just hormones but the card made you feel sad.

I actually send moon pig cards BECAUSE I can personalise them and I spend ages picking the right one for the right person, in fact I spend more time than I would if I bought a shop I've ,have you thought he may have done exactly that ?

But Moonpig cards need to be ordered like... More than a day in advance. Surely he gets points for forward planning?

I think I am the opposite of you, OP.

I'd be mortally offended if my dh bought me a 'To my wife' type of card with pre-printed schmaltz in it.

He always buys a blank card with just a heart or something on the front and writes his own lovely message in it.

"Alan Sugar puts 'best wishes from Alan Sugar' on his wife's birthday card.

grin

I'm going to start doing that! I might even write "Alan Sugar" instead of my name."

ROFL!

Laiste. Some people will never get it, and that's fine, but it's a shame they have to be so nasty about it. Try not to let it get to you. It was a huge change and it's understandable it floored you & that on top of pmt you had a cry about it. Obviously his plan didn't work out too well, but that doesn't really explain why HE didn't write in it as he normally would. My ex is my ex for totally unrelated reasons (😂) but we used to write cards like this, we'd both write about the year that had passed & stuff. It was nice. I knew something was up the year I got a 'Happy Birthday Annie, all my love xx'. The sort of thing I'm perfectly happy with, with another partner - it was, as you say, the marked difference. I hope everything is ok with you guys & this was just 'A plan gone bad', but as I say...what stopped him writing in it the way he normally would? 🤔

Bertucci. He normally does BOTH

AnnieAnoniMouse - you're talking about long messages that you and your ex used to write for each other. The OP is talking about those pre-printed messages in some cards.

I don't understand why you are getting called unreasonable. DP and I don't exchange cards and rarely gifts, who cares, it's hardly the point. For YOUR DP it is important. You know that it means a lot to him. Talk to him, especially if you think there is something deeper going on.

my husbands cards now read to gabsalot

love me

literally

Was the card personalised?

The thing with moonpig, is it's not like you've just run into Clinton's, skipped to the "wife" aisle and grabbed the first thing you put your hands on, moonpig takes time logging on, finding the right theme, choosing the picture and - in the instance of the printed 'love from hubs' bit, you have to sit and type in each word, which really, is the same as writing it. So in theory, it takes longer to choose a moonpig card than a shop bought one.

my user name should be Devil's Advocate ...

#firstworldproblems

He got you a card, he said he loves you. YABU