To think this no pants rule is bloody weird?

[tinkiiev]

So; just discovered DD (just turned 5) is in a dance show - didn't realise her weekly tap classes were building up to this....

Not only do we have to fork out about £100 for a special t shirt, extra rehearsals and tickets to see it, but also, apparently they have to wear NO PANTS.

We have to deliver them to the stage door an hour before the show; they go backstage without us and get changed - no pants!! - we pick them up at the end of the show (930pm).

So my only just 5 year old is gong to be expected to strip right down to her bare bum backstage without her parents there. Apparently there are "chaperones" but I have never met any of these people.

I'm sure she won't mind; she'll have a great time; but I think it's really odd - she's 5 - she's too little to understand what's appropriate and what isn't and I've been trying to teach her that bottoms are private and nobody else should be seeing hers; only if me or her father are there and there's a good reason (e.g. At the doctor if we say it's ok).

AIBU? I was pretty shocked but the dance teachers looked at me like I was some kind of outmoded prude, and said if I objected, she'd have to pull out of the show.

"Have been here years and am not a paedo on every corner type"

Well, you are a bit, aren't you? What with sharing that anecdote and all.............

Don't be so snide Bertrand. Other people have shared their experiences and that's all I've done. And the first time I've done so in the y3ars I've been here.

Kids dance show dressing rooms will typically have upwards of 20 people in them, loads of performers and usually at least 4 or 5 adults. None of the kids would be alone with an adult, aside from everything else, there is no time - it is pandemonium and everyone is so rushed. What with pinning on umpteen headdresses, lost costumes, shoes on the wrong feet, the kid that turns up 3 minutes before curtain-up, confiscating ribena and lipstick wrangling, nobody is going to have the opportunity for anything untoward at all.

Eliza, are you seriously concerned that potentially visiting LEA welfare officers could be dodgy?!

It's not weird for dance. As others have said, it's so bits of knickers don't show under the costume: the leotard or the tights are the underpants. And all chaperones will be DBS checked - probably the children's teachers, so they have probably taken your children to the loo and all the other things that dance teachers do for the very young children.

You've lost me Rh. the chance of unannounced inspections reduces the likelihood of any wrongdoing, unlike swimming lesson changing.