to not want my son in just his swimming trunks on stage?

[wwoonn]

It's for a dance show... He is 4. Would you be happy with this?

If it's about the seaside, why shouldn't he wear them? If it's OK to wear them on the beach then it's OK to wear them on stage. If you're bothered about it, make sure it's the trunks that are like shorts.

Well, would you be happy with strangers taking photos of your son in trunks at the beach? I wouldn't... The show will be full of people taking pictures, etc.

I think it depends on your son. My son would really hate it. For some reason he can't stand being even half dressed with anyone else around.

he's got to stand on stage in from of parents and - worse - his mates like that?

But on the beach he could potentially be standing in front of hundreds of people dressed like that. And if it's themed as a seaside thing, it's a reasonable bet that many of his mates will be dressed the same way.

Lougle

Calm down .I think jack laugher is older than 4

If someone is going to get "pleasure" from a photo of a child in trunks then they only need to look at any children's clothes retailers online site to get an image.

Wearing trunks still covers all private areas.

It wouldn't bother me at all. But I live in a small community in a hot country. Kids under 6 and drunk people often wear nothing but their underwear, unless it's a formal occasion or they're going to school. My son is 4 and frequently rocks up to the supermarket in his pants, so I wouldn't take my advice .

Not about people getting pleasure from the photos. Just don't think it's right for him to be on strangers phones dressed like that, it's not really fair on him

What about trunks, but with pants underneath, and a 'rash' vest and a legionnaires hat - you can say 'well that's what he wears at the beach! ' . Perfectly reasonable compromise.

Well, would you be happy with strangers taking photos of your son in trunks at the beach? I wouldn't.

I've got news for you. There's an excellent chance that your son features in strangers' seaside photos, due to the fact that they're perfectly entitled to take pictures of their own families, friends etc or the scenery, and if he's in shot they won't be able to avoid it. My seaside photos have loads of total strangers in them as I'm not going to forego taking pictures of my child just because some strange child is in the background.

OP. It is called COSTUME!! Unlike the gorgeous Jack, your son is only 4 there is nothing to hide

Why is it less fair than being fully dressed? I am really struggling to get the issue here

Why do you think strangers will take photos off your son and not their own children.

The thing is, it specifically says swimming trunks, not what he wears to the beach so I either let him or pull him out I suppose

And btw OP, I get you, it just does feel different. It's ok at the beach because everyone is in trunks/cossies. Out of context, when no one else is doing the same, yep it feels different.

Have you ever seen little girls in leotards on stage? They cover more or less the same as swimming costumes, but no-one thinks it's strange or nasty.

Put him in a Uv suit if it bothers you that much.

I'd feel a bit weird if I was watching something like that. If it's just about the seaside he could have a tshirt, hat and sunnies or something.

Out of context, when no one else is doing the same, yep it feels different.

But why would no-one else be doing the same? It's a show themed as "At the Seaside" - it's extremely unlikely that every other participant is fully dressed.

He can't, he has to wear trunks.

No, it's only his class that has that theme. The classes all have their own theme.

Why on earth did you post thatLola yuck. Totally inappropriate. I think I know where you're coming from OP, shorts and s top/ Bermuda type shirt, no problem, tight trunk style pants, not so sure. Apart from anything else, The poor lad will be freezing.

So 30 other children wearing similar then? So hardly going to be alone then!

Won't he be freezing in shorts?! Unless your not in the UK?

Are you sure photos are allowed OP? They certainly aren't at my local primary school.

It is entirely possible that someone at the beach could take a photo of your DS and you would never know.

I do think you are being a bit weird, and how on earth are you going to explain this to your son? I would just put him in board shorts so he doesn't get too cold and let him have fun.

A few years ago the local dance school had a show including a group of infant aged girls in bikinis. Some were sweet 2 pieces, some were skimpy in a "what were their parents thinking of" way. It has put dh off attending again even to see Dd as he felt really uncomfortable. I don't see the necessity of specifying lycras, beach shorts or surf wear should be fine.