AIBU to make DD pay for driving lessons (that are from me)?

[woonnoow]

Hi all,

My daughter is 17. She is just beginning to learn to drive. I'm giving her lessons - I have offered to get her 'proper' ones for Christmas, but she finds it better with me.

I take her everyday, so that's an hour of my time. I don't mind, but I work from home, so my time is obviously really important. AIBU to charge her £5 for an hour?

She seems to roll her eyes when I ask for it, saying that her friends' parents don't make them pay (that typical phrase! ) so AIBU?

Seriously, it is illegal to charge for driving lessons, even "petrol money", unless you are an Approved Driving Instructor who has passed the tests. (Many learners don't realise that professional instructors have to be qualified!) Sometimes checks are carried out, especially when people arrive for driving tests. It's an arrestable offence.

Surely no parent would actually do that. I'm all for teens paying their own way and I might ask her to fill up the petrol tank once a month or something but an hourly rate?! Fuck that for a lark.

My time is important - how much should I charge the dog for walking him ?

Even if you sleep for eight hours a night, that still leaves time free!!

Can't be real

WTF. Christ I would hate this as your DD and would rather give the money to someone else!

This has to be one of the most bizarre ideas I have ever heard.
You would actually consider charging your child for spending time with them

YABU that's possibly one of the tightest, stingiest things I've seen on MN. Charging your own DD for your time for a driving lesson - what next, a bill for all the hours you've spent bringing her up?

Both DD and DS learned to drive at 17 with very few lessons (passed first time)
They paid for their own lessons and I took them out 4-5 times a week to practice
DD bought her own car before she passed her test out of her part time earnings whilst at 6th form
I helped by paying half the insurance she paid for fuel
DS learned to drive in DDs car but contributed to all running costs which helped her out too

If you don't want to take her everyday then don't.

If paying for her to have lessons would be more convenient then do that.

Over here, only lessons with instructors are allowed.

No practising with parents when a learner!

Forgot to say yes YABU
It never occurred to me to do anything but to help all I could when they needed it - now they are adults they sometimes help me!

How odd.

Oh, is charging your family to teach/spend time with them a thing now? I need to make some invoices...

Oh, yabu by the way. I mean ridiculously so, but I doubt you're going to take that onboard...

So she pays for lunch Petrol and insurance already so you literally want to charge your daughter for your time. Your time, as a parent, teaching your daughter something. You want to then ask her to hand over money for your time? Your own did?
You have to ask is this is unreasonable?
Really?
No for real?

Shame on you.

Don't know how the word lunch go into my post above haha ooops

Tried this with the Mr for sex.

Didn't earn much.

The time you've wasted on here could be better spent offering your work some time, surely?

Horse and Zen, be careful- I had a post deleted last night just for saying 'reported'!

Really? Are you a qualified instructor?

Clearly a wind up. Sod off OP not even mildly funny.

And if by some lunacy this is real- then that's totally and utterly ridiculous and shameful

woonnoow now that you've had 120ish posts unanimously saying it is unreasonable to charge your daughter for your time when giving her driving lessons has it changed your mind any? Are you still going to charge her £5 per hour for your time?

Op you are not making sense, you want to charge her, you " obviously " want to give it back when she passes her test, and your reason for charging is that you are skint.
So is it some sort of loan?

Please tell me this is a joke???!?!?! It would be utterly ridiculous to charge your DD. What a mean suggestion...