AIBU to make DD pay for driving lessons (that are from me)?

[woonnoow]

Hi all,

My daughter is 17. She is just beginning to learn to drive. I'm giving her lessons - I have offered to get her 'proper' ones for Christmas, but she finds it better with me.

I take her everyday, so that's an hour of my time. I don't mind, but I work from home, so my time is obviously really important. AIBU to charge her £5 for an hour?

She seems to roll her eyes when I ask for it, saying that her friends' parents don't make them pay (that typical phrase! ) so AIBU?

[OohhThatsMe]

It's a reverse.

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

OP has vamoosed.

Hopefully for a pro bono Driving in the Dark lesson.

[CrotchetQuaverMinim]

The only reason I can think of for charging, is if you think she isn't taking it seriously enough with you or something, messing around and not wanting the lesson after you'd already rearranged work, or whatever.

Otherwise, no. Go in the evening or some other time when you might just be chilling out with her. It doesn't have to be every day, either. Before very long, she'll be good enough that she can just drive when you're going to places to do ordinary things like shopping, and it won't be an extra burden out of your day.

But I'd get her some proper lessons, too. They have very specific ideas about how they like things done for the test and the driving instructors know what the official routes are and all the little pitfalls that people might get failed on, etc. Plus she'd be used to their car when it comes time for the test - for yours, you'd have to get a second mirror and all that.

[woonnoow]

I'm here, but like I said, time is important.

[Nirvanababy]

woo AIBU
PPs: yes you are
OP: But blah, blah, blah
PP's: you're still BU
OP: ( fingers in ears) lala la

It seems to be a resounding YABU. Maybe listen to the advice?

[indigox]

Wow.

[Liiinoo]

Sounds pretty tight to me..,and illogical. If you can afford professional teaching, go for that.

[Ilovenannyplum]

YABU. Very much so.

[SheldonCRules]

I'm really hoping this is a wind up.

Who charges their own child to spend time with them? It used to be people worked hard to provide for their children but now once benefits cease and the child is over 16 so many expect to have to pay nothing and even make a profit.

[Horsegirl1]

Woonooow is clearly a troll / wind up merchant. Well played woo

[bloodymaria]

Clearly a wind up, but why?

[Mummyamy123]

YABU, of course she shouldn't pay you!!!

[Boogers]

Time is important

So is time spent with your daughter. Unbelievable!

[FearandLoathinginLasVegas]

Is she a full time student or did she leave school at 16 and now have a job?

[FearandLoathinginLasVegas]

Is she a full time student or did she leave school at 16 and now have a job?

Why do you give her daily lessons? Say to her you won't charge her but

[Magicpaintbrush]

Errrm....I think it's a bit mean spirited to charge your own daughter for your time. If you don't have the time to spare then she had best wait for lessons with a proper instructor..... But if I were your daughter I would be pretty taken aback by this. I'm afraid YABU as this arrangement sounds really quite bonkers.

[ChocolateForAll]

How stingy! YABVU

[QuestionableMouse]

I'm going to assume that you don't work 24 hours a day. Even if you work 12 hours a day, that gives you 12 to spend time with your child.

You're being very unreasonable and quite frankly, a bit fucking weird.

[DameXanaduBramble]

BSM

Bloody Stingy Mother

[woonnoow]

No, I do sleep?

[Hunan123]

I hope this is a joke...if not then yes YABU

[SmokingGun]

Is it only parents that can charge? I changed my DN's nappy today AND gave her a bottle. I think maybe I should get an extra payment as I'm not actually one of her parents and therefore she should appreciate it even more

[Thattimeofyearagain]

My time is important - how much should I charge the dog for walking him ?

[Japonicathehorseygirl]

Yabu that's really mean